Me and my boyfriend are ready to take things to the next level but im afraid that it's going to hurt like oober bad.Is it true that it hurts through out the entire time? And also is it true that you bleed alot? Thanx
2006-12-09 14:05:39 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Alot of women are different, remember that. Some women will have pain and for some it won't hurt at all. Also, it goes the same for some women will bleed a little and some women won't.
My first time didn't hurt at all and I never bled, it felt very great but maybe it's because I masturbate, not sure.
If you're afraid of it hurting then you're not truly ready for sex like you think you are.
Also, don't listen to those people that tell you wait till marriage, it's your body and your mind.
2006-12-09 16:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi,
I would like to offer you some advice. Im not telling you that what Im saying is the right thing to do but if I could go back and change things I would. You may feel ready now and prepared and responsible to handle going to the next level (and may not look at it as a big deal) but I wish I would have thought it through. Ive been in a monogamous relationship for almost three years and my partner is the only person I have given myself to. Sex makes everything more complicated! Yes, it is enjoyable and to answer your question it will hurt the first time, but when it come down to figuring out if that person is right for you in the end if he's not it makes it so hard to move on. I wish you the best and listen to Lyfe Jennings song "S.E.X" if you haven't it will help you think on the subject.
2006-12-09 14:33:35 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before I had sex for the first time, I used stretchers (basically plastic penis-shaped tubes) that the doctor gave me for a few months first, and it still hurt. But I didn't bleed at all. I think it usually hurts every time you do it for the first several days, because your body is getting used to something new. You want to make sure you use lots of lubricant and that he is slow and gentle. Also, don't worry if it doesn't feel good the first time or if you don't think you're very good at it because it takes practice.
But, like some of the other posters have said, think about whether you're really ready to take this step. I think the best part of sex is not how good it feels for me but how good it feels to make him feel good. The emotional pleasure of sharing the experience with someone I love is even greater than the physical pleasure. You want to be sure you're sharing this with the right person.
2006-12-09 16:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by cg17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually there is only a small spot of blood on the sheets and it doesn't hurt much. If it hurts the entire time, tell your boyfriend to stop. The pain shouldn't last more than a few seconds.
Having said that, I need to ask a few questions. Have you both been tested for STD and shown your test results to each other? What method of birth control will you be using? Condoms are a good choice, but it doesn't hurt to have a back up incase the condom breaks. You can take care of both of these issues at a local Planned Parenthood.
2006-12-09 14:42:02 · answer #4 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for me it hurt some, i didn't bleed though, not all girls bleed. Some girls they're hymen (the thing that makes it hurt) is broken when your little, if you ride horses it's most likely broken by now. USE PROTECTION!!! and make sure this is the guy you want to do this with. Make sure he'll stop if you need him too. Go slow at first too, don't start off really hard or rough cause that won't help the pain go away. it may hurt the whole time or may not, differs for each girl. so yea, that's all the advice i got.
2006-12-09 14:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're asking a three section question right here and many the individuals answering this have not even observed what it relatively is you have ignored to ask. to respond to 2 of your questions with the two confident and no. shall we initiate off with why my answer is the two confident and no: for many adult men that are circumcised the tip gland of the penis has lost ninety% of its sensitivity because of being uncovered 24/7 there forth intercourse the 1st time isn't painful in any respect, if there is any discomfort its from friction and over the counter lubrication will fix that little subject for the adult men that had a back woods docs and survived childbirth and saved all their physique areas intact and from very own adventure the gland has retained one hundred% of its sensitivity and it may replace into very uncomfortable for the duration of intercourse for the 1st few months and a few might even bypass as far as to declare painful. I even have felt the discomfort myself and its precise on the sting between discomfort and finished excitement. now after its all stated and achieved i might commerce the discomfort for the excitement time and time back, well worth it.
2016-10-14 09:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you're not ready. using words like "oober" show that you're not. are you ready to have a baby? are you old enough to drive? can you support a child when the boyfriend leaves you? answer no to any of these, and i would wait. you can't take that back, you know. if you feel like your boyfriend is pressuring you, don't do it.
mature decisions are to be made when you are mature. my first time was when i was 23, and i don't regret it at all. i waited for the right person, and we are now married.
if you ignore all other things, please remember to be careful. go on birth control AND use a condom. things break all the time, so be extra careful. you can become pregnant on the first time. be responsible, and also protect yourself from STDs.
2006-12-09 14:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, sweetie it's going to hurt for the first little bit because you are going to be stretched inside and your boyfriend has to break the hymen (cherry) and that's where the blood and pain would come from. Make sure you have lots of lubricant and once he breaks your hymen ask him to give you a minute to catch your breath. The pleasurable feelings with making love will come once you adjust to his manhood (penis). No you don't bleed a lot...there's bleeding but you have to think you just tore a thin layer of skin at the enterance of the vagina. Also make sure you use protection okay sweets.
2006-12-09 14:17:54 · answer #8 · answered by Tina S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different. For some girls, it hurts really bad. Mine, however, did not. Make sure that it's with someone you love and who loves you. If this happens, that will help things because they will know that you're a virgin and moreover, will actually care about you enough to go slow and easy and be gentle. It will also help for you to be well lubricated and to RELAX!!! That's the most important thing. If you're tense and nervous, you'll be tighter down there and it'll hurt more. Start with fingering (you and him) for awhile and that will help stretch your hymen out which will help ease any pain you might have.
2006-12-09 14:19:45 · answer #9 · answered by First Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it will hurt, how much will depend on the size and the thrusting. use lots of lub. Go slow. it wont hurt the guy to have to be patient through this. there is a thin piece of skin covering the inside of the vagina. which has to be broke open. you will bleed some. days down the road you may have some what clear fluids from your vagina, which is normal. still ask your man to be gentle and patient, lots of lub. Good Luck
2006-12-09 14:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by harley david 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋