What would you do if you were married 8 and a half years and you bought your husband a new expensive grill for his birthday because he loves to grill and never had a good one and you put it together yourself as a big surprise and then two weeks later on your birthday he didn't get you a card, cake, present, flowers, nothing! Didn't even take you out to eat?
2006-12-09 14:00:22 · 20 answers · asked by Lisa Bee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My birthday was 9 months ago...and he has never forgotten before. He said the grill was the nicest gift he ever recieved.
2006-12-09 14:15:05 · update #1
Why do we make excuses for men...oh, men just forget things...If they care they would remember, right?
2006-12-09 14:18:03 · update #2
Sounds like you have more of a room mate than a loving husband
2006-12-09 14:12:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you buy him a grill so he would get you something on your birthday? I doubt you did, you did it because you love him and wanted to get him something he really wanted or could use. If you are going to be upset, be upset because it feels like he forgot you. Do not throw it in his face you bought him a grill or you are up for a fight. That is not fair to him. You need to talk to him about your feelings. Does he always remember your birthdays? What has he done the past 7 years? My husband means well in his head but is horrible at the execution! He too "forgets" and you are right....it hurts. Sometimes I build it up in my head as to what I think he is going to do, then he doesn't do it and I react based on MY expectations. Have you talked to him? He is more likely to understand if you do not attack him with what you have done for him. Good Luck ( and Happy Birthday !)
2006-12-09 22:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by sportypenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is needed. Ask him if he enjoyed receiving the grill. Then remark that you were surprised and disappointed to experience his lack of interest in your birthday. You should have let him know that it was your birthday in case he did not remember (men can forget). In that case he could have made it up to you without having such a painful memory. Hold him responsible to make it up to you. If you don't, you are basically letting him feel like you don't matter. GET his rear end, BIG TIME!
2006-12-09 22:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you forget to remind him? I have trouble remembering other peoples birthdays. I don't even know the date of my anniversary with my lover. He does though. Maybe your husband isn't very sentimental and you'll need to remind him and write on the calender in big letters *MY BIRTHDAY!* I think I would talk to him and ask him why he didn't do anything for your birthday. No need to sulk around. Maybe he has an explanation for you like a suprise in the making, maybe he simply forgot and will go out and buy you a gift right now. Humans are not flawless and that certainly applies to lovers and husbands!
2006-12-09 22:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats actually going on here are you mad about your birthday being forgotten or Is there more things going on and your birthday was the straw that broke the camels back. If you two are having problems you need to talk more or this Is seriously going to get out of hand and then you'll be telling your attorney you want a divorce because your husband left an empty container of milk In the fridge.
2006-12-09 22:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by passion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately guys are like that sometimes. My husband is great but I always feel like my birthday is just no big deal. I always do something for him (parties, trips, whatever) and my birthday gets forgotten. In fact my bday is on the 27th and I'm waiting to see if he even acknowledges it. Usually I get a "oh yeah happy birthday" at about 1130 PM. It bothers me but since in every other way he's a great guy and very sweet and loving I just try to let it go. (not that it's easy!)
2006-12-09 22:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well fist of all did he forget or just didn't want to do anything ?Some times men for get things we don't but if it bothers you you should tell him and give him a chance to make up for it i mean after all making up is the fun part right if he docent make it up to you i would have too say he has a problem and needs counseling but i wish you both the best.
2006-12-09 22:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by jay316-83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop cooking dinner and tell him he's now in charge of dinners. Make him use his birthday gift.
2006-12-09 22:06:49 · answer #8 · answered by kmchris 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure I would be just like you.......HURT, very badly! I would remind him that he didn't even remember your birthday, and how much that hurts. Bet he'll remember next year! Good Luck!!
2006-12-09 22:04:20 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be extremely hurt too, Please talk to him and express how you feel so that resentment doesn't set in and spill into other non related issues in your marriage. Everyone can be self centered now and again, bring it to his attention so he can have the opportunity to make ammends.
2006-12-09 22:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by renee' 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋