Before we go anywhere, if anyone says "just be yourself", you will not get a best answer. i am sick and tired of reading this because "being myself" involves social inability and failure in various aspects.
I feel i am missing a critical aspect that causes me to not be invited to hang out and parties and stuff. people talk to me and stuff, but seem not to show that much of an interest in things.
to be honest, i don't know how to be included in a group. I'm clueless, allright? i don't know how to get myself included, or to be social. I am missing that key factor that people need to make a bunch of friends and date girls and stuff, and i don't even know what it is, let alone how to fix it.
yes, i am going on here looking for consolation and help. nobody seems to be able to understand my predicament. my school counselor could not seem to comprehend what is wrong when i asked her about trouble dating, she just said i was too young to date, making it worse. What do i need to ask
2006-12-09 13:50:47 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
girls out successfully and hang out with groups and get my own circle of friends? what am i missing?
i just don't know how. no self-help or advice site ever seemed to take this possiblity into consideration, so i'm left out in the cold here (really, that's the perfect analogy!). Help please!
and DO NOT say "be yourself"!!!
2006-12-09 13:53:16 · update #1
i know things get more complicated later on; that's why i'm trying to resolve the issue NOW.
2006-12-11 14:55:12 · update #2
Well this was kind of my problem last year. I just tried to open up to people and always ask how they are doing when I see them, you know, small talk. I didn't think it was getting me anywhere, but it did, everyone now thinks of me as a really caring person I am. People started talking to me about problems they had and I became good friends of lots of people. Try it and let me know if it work, need anymore help feel free to ask.
2006-12-09 14:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by shy eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have no problem communicating to me. You are defiantly more eloquent at speaking than I am. I think maybe you are trying to hard. too cliche sorry. I had someone once tell me to buy the book How to win friends and influence people. Of course I never did. I hear it is a good book. But then again at 36 I have given up on finding a true friend and I am contempt with my huz and 2 kids.
I guess I would say buy that book and see what happens.
Good luck.....I just got lucky I found someone so I know what ya mean.
2006-12-09 21:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
to all the adults whom claim they know everything well they don't. honey you need to develope in your own way by seeing things in life like you see. understand things don't get easier when you get older they get more complicated. enjoy who you are and appreciate the life that has been given to you
2006-12-09 21:55:05 · answer #3 · answered by sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look for people who like things you like, then you wont find it hard to have something to talk about and you'll feel included in the conversation...
2006-12-09 22:09:00 · answer #4 · answered by ~♥Jade♥~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋