Why do women feel men owe them everything? This is especially true after marriage OR divorce. ??????????????

Question

It seems like women after divorce or even after marriage feel they are "owed" or deserve everything they want. Many feel they don't need to work or contribute to the financial goals of the household. Where does this come from? Is it from being spoiled as children or do they feel once they snag a guy and get a commitment, an expensive diamond ring, stability, etc. that they don't need to provide financially to the relationship.

After divorce, I have seen women complain they don't have anything, even if they are getting alimony (free money) child support, etc.

Maybe if the roles were reverse they would see that they make out pretty well financially whether they are married or divorced....I would love to see more men get custody and have the women pay the $2000-3000/mo child support.......

Any thoughts/comments?

Answer 1

Women have been fighting to be seen equal to men before the law and society, but law and society have gone way too far!!! women are being over protected now, we the men are on the way to be second-rate citizens, now people is considered "smart" and "civilized " when they say things like "women deserve it all" "women are superior to men" or that sort of things, wake up !!! women are equal to men in all aspects, why put women on a pedestal they do not deserve?
please do not misunderstand me, I like women, let us just be real and honest, women do not deserve such legal over-protection this society needs to evaluate the way we see women nowdays there is a terrible double-standard we need to be aware of, over empowering women is not the answer.

Answer 2

Hey, not all women are like this! Just some and those make the good ones look bad. I have been with the same man now for 7 years and I work full time, contribute financially, and pay bills also. I would never expect him to support me in any way financially. I am being honest here when I say I was not spoiled as a child! At the age of 12 I began to babysit to earn some money, I also had a paper route, and at the age of 16 I was told that I had to get a job. So, I got one and had to use that money to buy things myself. At 18 I got my first car which I saved up for myself and bought myself with no help from my parents. I was tought this by my parents so I wouldn't have to be dependent on others.

Yes, some women think that once they snag the man and get married they are owed something but just because some women do, that doesn't mean all women do. There are exceptions to the rules.

Answer 3

This isn't just a woman thing. Generally speaking when a man 'claims' a woman for his own he feels that he is the protector, provider and takes great pride in this. In the old days (not too many decades ago) if a man's wife worked it was a sign that a man was a lesser man. Those thought of just decades ago still haze in todays society. Personally, I don't feel a man owes me anything. Yet, if the man and woman both agree that the husband work and the wife stays home to raise the children, then that is an agreement. Should divorce come about, the woman has put her career earning ability on the sidelines and when divorced she is out of the loop while her husband has been maintaining his career and money earning power all those years. . . thus the alimony. Yet, if the wife has worked all those years and had maintained her career and financial earnings. . . then I don't feel she should receive large alimony. Now the financial needs of who is primarily raising any children is something else altogether...but I'll just leave this here.

Answer 4

Every situation is different. Alimony can either go to a man or a woman, the same with child support. If you are more fit to be a parent than your ex wife then you will be the one awarded custody. And if the woman was the one supporting you for years, you can get alimony (spousal support). Some women may feel a man owes them after a marriage, if the woman put so many years and her heart and soul into her marriage and family only to have it end, from something beyond her control.

Answer 5

While some women may be like that, not all women are! I certainly take offense. Now, that doesn't stop me from asking my lover for things, but I never really expect anything especially when I ask all the time. Why do men give and give and give?

Maybe it has to do with our patriarchal society. Men are *supposed* to be the providers and women are *supposed* to raise children. Men give. Women take. Hell, you bought her that expensive diamond ring and provided her with stability instead of waiting for a woman who already had stability or one who doesn't need to be provided stability, but can work with you in acheiving stability.

Now, this is all very much truth unless you dared to be with a woman who was educated, a dedicated professional, independant and dare I say the f word? A feminist. But, then you would complain that your wife is smarter than you, makes more money than you and won't stay locked up in the home cooking, cleaning and raising your offspring.

Of course, this doesn't apply to everyone, but that vast majority that is still out there believing the stereotypical ideal man and the stereotypical idea woman and that any feminist is a stark raving lesbian.

Marriage is about partnership not 1950s style gender roles. Your generalisations about women are giving you low expectations. Try meeting confident women and finding out how real they are.

Answer 6

Believe me alimony is not FREE MONEY! either the wife has put up with more then enough of the MANS CRAP while raising the kids and being his maid, she should be entitled to it or the Man is usually happy to pay for his freedom from a crazy wife. either way I see it as a pay off. Oh don't shoot down ALL women. We are not ALL THE SAME! But I have seen my fair share of lazy *** women who don't work, have maids and nanny's while their at the Gym every morning. I find that SO ODD! but I tend to be a little old fashioned. I mean that's why it's good to date before you marry and not JUMP IN THE SACK with the first gold digger that comes along. For some reason guys can't seem to think with their hearts they mostly think with the small brain between their legs. And women are much brighter these days. They know what it takes to get what they want! Ti's a sad, sad, world this is becoming.

Answer 7

Well, considering that women do most of the household chores, even when most married women are members of the work force these days, I guess they have a right to feel somebody owes them something. Now, if the split on everything was really 50-50, I could understand your complaint.

Child support laws today take into consideration both parent's earnings and the cost of maintaining the child.

Anyone who feels they are paying too much in child support needs to contact an attorney and have the case reviewed.

Answer 8

Ja, seems almost like that. It's a pretty lame set-up where the guy often gets shafted at each turn. And pray that the woman isn't such a monster as to make their life miserable with alimony and all of the house.
Today, the mindset of marriage is that it's easy to break up with a whim, and nothing is sacred. In the past, divorce was so rare, and so no one had to put up with the whole lot of the problems resulting from that.

Answer 9

I'm with you 100%. I don't understand it either. I am starting to believe that these days only idiots and losers get married. I use to joke about it being a ball and chain, but after being married, it's true. I have been a good husband but whatever I've given her was never enough. I thought I was doing the right thing by getting married, but it turns out I was just another sucker. I'll never be taken like this again.

Answer 10

I am a woman and I totally agree. I see the same thing with my husbands ex and a best friend I have.
It's like they feel they were married to or have your children so you should still support the lifestyle they would have if you were still married. It's not fair.
What happened to people making their own living and stop trying to get other peoples money.