My boyfriend raped me. what do i do?

Question

OK, here's the back story. I am 14 years old, and I started dating a 16-year-old (stupid, I know).
So now he's starting to become very controlling, and he keeps pressuring me to have sex with him. I kept saying no but I was in too deep. The other night I was at his house and he asked me again. I said no, but he was too strong; he pinned me against the wall and raped me.
Now at school, he keeps touching me inappropriately and he only laughs when I struggle. I need to get out of this! please, what should I do?

Answer 1

I think you already know what to do. I will tell you that you need to report this to your mother, teacher, or any other responsible adult. They should call the police. The boy is abusing you. Do not go near him in the meantime. Does the teacher know he is doing this at school? If not, TELL. And if you don't get results, go to the principal and tell. This boy is commiting a crime.

Answer 2

As others have said, you can't go this alone. You need to have someone with you through this. Now whether it's a parent or a teacher or a guidance counselor it doesn't matter, just find someone you trust who will take you seriously and who you can talk to. It's going to be scary to tell someone but you can't handle this situation alone. You aren't stupid for dating someone 2 years older than you, plenty of people do this. You shouldn't feel stupid or anything because of this. You are the victim, you have nothing to feel bad about. I hope you can get some help. Good luck.

Answer 3

Tell your parents and go to the police ASAP. Don't worry about what he is going to think of you. He will keep abusing you, and then just move on to abusing someone else if you don't do something. I'm so sorry that this happened to you. Whatever you do, DON'T be afraid. You are NOT the one who is in the wrong, here, and you are NOT stupid for dating a 16-year old. You're a normal girl. Once you tell your parents and go to the police, the adults will take over most of the responsibility from there on. They aren't going to want to put you through any more than you absolutely need to. They also know that you are, essentially, still a kid. (Please don't be insulted by that.) Let them help you, and let them do what they need to do to take care of this bastar*.

Answer 4

ok wel every one is saying just tel someone trust me it aint that easy i no i have had 2 experinces similar to yours one was an abusive boyfriend and the other was a friend and it is so hard to tel and to get out of a relationship with some one so controlling but i live every day with the pain of knowing that the guy who raped me who i thought was my best friend is walking round and never got punished . I am sure you have someone close to you maybe a friend or an adult try by telling them It depends on the relationship you have with your parents but i i dont think its best to go directly to them cause they can take things badly when it is to do with there little girl an dit might be better if they are told by someone else but you might have a teacher or an adult you are close to .
if not go to the police and report it will be so hard to have to explain and i thought that they would tell me off or make it my fault but it aint your fault i have relised that myself now
But it is some much harder to deal with on your own and no matter how hard it is now it will help in the long run of making you feel better

this guy is obviously a terrible person who needs to be punished for what he has done he thinks he has control of you and he doesnt you have to take back control by reporting this

so pease just go to the authorities and report it go with someone close that you can trust cause you wil regret it if you dont and remeber none of it is your fault
i hope it goes well for you and good luck xxxxxxxxx

Answer 5

I can't believe he did that to you, and I am so sorry. I know it sounds really hard, but you have to find someone you can confide in about it - it's not as easy as people assume to just tell someone if you've been forced into sex. You must make this boy face justice, because no-one has the right to make you do anything you don't want to do.

It's not a small thing that's happened to you, it's very serious - and you need someone to help you deal with it and report it to the proper authorities.

I really hope you can deal with this and get on with your life. Above all, remember - this was not your fault. You didn't ask for this, but you need to be strong now, and you need a friend.

Please feel free to ask if you need to talk.

Answer 6

Oi, that made me want to barf, I can't imagine what you're going through, and all my sympathy goes out to you!!

But tell ANYONE. Tell your parents. Tell a teacher. Tell the police. If you think that your parents will be mad, DON'T. They love you and want to help you. Tell them that you know it wasn't the smartest thing to date someone so much older, (it wasn't completely stupid though, don't worry!) and that you said no, but he abused you. And tell a teacher, counselor, or principal that you're being abused, that is not allowed at all. Tell the police, because that is illegal. What he is doing is wrong. But most of all, don't tell your boyfriend that you're going to tell anyone, because then he might hurt you more.
Gosh, I'm so sorry. Just know that NO ONE deserves to go through this...no one.
That boy is the scum of the earth and I pray that he rots in hell for all eternity.

Answer 7

Tell someone you trust immediately. If you don't know of anyone there are rape crisis phone numbers in the phone book or you can go to a school counselor. I know from personal experience that if you don't talk to someone soon this will follow you for the rest of your life. You need counseling and you need to get away from this guy. If he is capable of doing this and shows no remorse there is no telling what he will do next. PLEASE get help tonight!!!

Answer 8

oh my gosh. i think that you are in too deep but there has to be a way to get out. you NEED to break up with him or else he will keep doing this to you! if he starts to flip out on you when you break up with him, you NEED to tell your parents because he might do something that can hurt you immensely (that means that it can be really bad). just know that you need to end the relationship because now that he did that, he will keep on doing that to you and you can get pregnant and that is not what you or anyone else wants in this situation. remember, if he gets aggresive tell an adult! don't hesitate because he can get put behind bars for being a sex offender. it doesn't matter what age you are, you can become one if you do that.

Answer 9

Tell everyone and scream it out loud in front of the whole school. It will make him feel awkward and you'll get revenge because he'll feel such remorse for what he did. He an go to jail for that and for touching you inappropriately...TELL TELL TELL....anyone tell your mom and dad. The more you wait the less evidence there is to pin him with

Answer 10

Hopefully, you have supportive parents. It feels like they will be mad but believe me, they will be the first to support you once you tell them the whole story. If you can't go to your parents, you must go to a school counselor. This is NOT your fault. This boy will do this to other girls especially if you do nothing. Do not feel guilty. Adults may seem like they don't understand you but they will support you if you report this boy. Trust me, this will haunt you for a very long time if you don't talk with a responsible adult.