I am currently 7 months pregnant and I just found out that my boyfriend cheated on me with some whore and got gonnarhea from her and then had sex with me and gave it to me. Should I stay with him and work things out or should I leave? What would you guys do? I'm so hurt.
2006-12-09 12:56:44 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sweetie, only you know what you truly want to do, but you have to consider yourself, and your child. What if...what if there is a next time and you contract something worse? Obviously he has no regards to your health and condition. I am figuring that the child is his also. What do you think that child will go thru as they are being born if the gonorhhea, or something worse is present at that time? You will have a hard enough time in labor, without having to worry about whether your child will need numerous antibiotics when he/she is born. Which would you rather give your newborn child....good ole wholesome nourishment, or dose after dose after dose of antibiotics, needle sticks, test after test, etc. Working things out...?? Things should have been worked out before he went outside the relationship. And when he decided to go outside the relationsip, that is where he should stay...OUTSIDE . Pregnancy is hard enough as it is without anything else getting in the way to hamper what should be one of the most beautiful moments in a womans life. Honey I hurt with you. End the HURT like I did and don't go back. Like me... you are now a statistic with the CDC. Be thankful and remember that maybe at least THIS time, it will go away. Next time you might not be so lucky. (Hug) cause you need one. Don't cry hun, not all men treat us this way, just sometimes we end up with the ones that do.
2006-12-09 13:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the first place..........why were you having 'unsafe sex' to begin with. YOUR boyfriend got you pregnant. Are you getting married or just going to have a bastard child? What the difference between a whore and a slut? 'Who's calling the kettle black' here anyway? What will you do if the child has a 'birth defect' because of your actions?
It's no wander why we, as a country, are in the shape we are. You have made your choice already. By sharing a bed with this boy. Does that answer your question?
OK...........in blunt, harsh reality..............get married before the child is born. Get the STD resolved. Make the marriage work. It's time to pay the piper for the dance you both took part in.
2006-12-09 13:15:58 · answer #2 · answered by LifeRyder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should forgive him because unforgiveness breeds resentment and bitterness. Staying with him is really a decision that you have to make. Is this the first time that he's cheated? Can you trust him? What if he infected you with AIDS or HIV next time? He obviously doesn't use protection with anyone. You're having a child and from this moment on - there's someone more important than either you or the father involved. You need to think about what kind of life you would be giving the baby staying with a father that doesn't respect you.
2006-12-09 13:06:06 · answer #3 · answered by flirshous 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well Gonnarhea is only bacterial, not viral so its curable with treatment. Go see the doc is what you should do.
I would leave him. I know its hard because you are pregnant but just the fact that he cheated on you (forget the STD, thats irrelevent at this point)... he doesn't care about you or your health. He was willing to throw your relaitonship away when he fornicated with that girl. I think you should have the baby on your own, get child support. You have a chance at finding another man, someone who will love you and treat you right, and you have to do right by your child by making sure he/she isn't going to be brought into the life of a heartless asshole.
2006-12-09 13:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No ask your self he's messing round on you--YOU enable HIM!! you have not married the scum thank goodness. reduce your losses. commence throughout with a sparkling pastime, a sparkling position, and a sparkling plan. don't be so determined next time. And in common words provide very nearly as good as you get. once you're putting one hundred% in a relationship and the different individual is slightly making an visual charm, it truly is time to do some thing. you do not love him; you only do not imagine you need to do any extra perfect and also you're afraid to positioned your self accessible back after 5 years and attempt. some thing is extra perfect than having your emotions trampled on day by day by a mendacity, dishonest scumbag like your "fiance". discover the braveness to unload him--ASAP!!
2016-11-25 01:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him now. He has no respect for you & never will. He will always have women on the side for his pleasure. He, himself is a whore. Having an STD will not bother him & he will go on to infect others, & will bring home more diseases for you.
Take care of yourself & make the well-being of your child your priority.
2006-12-09 13:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Should I stay with him..." NO! NO! and NO WAY! And what part of NO do you not understand? Run as fast as you can and get away from him...You have enough to deal with right now without having him and his problems in your life! Hurt will heal in time. Just think if he cheated on me with someone then he will probably cheat on you too!
2006-12-09 13:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by badwarden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER !!!!!! I have been in your shoes about a 11 yrs. ago and I told him to go get f***** and the baby is no reason to stay with a man. I was also pregnant at the time. I have not seen him every since I told him that.
2006-12-09 13:07:58 · answer #8 · answered by trueangel121301 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should, just don't act as a friend or anything and they make take advantage of you again. Did he infect you b4 or after cheating? Just don't kill him. If you do, plead guilty or you'll go to hell for a lot longer.
2006-12-09 13:00:49 · answer #9 · answered by that guy with the face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, at some point it’s important to forgive so you will not place yourself in a mental prison. However, time to move on and leave him behind. You don’t need someone like that in your life.
2006-12-09 13:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋