Well, this shouldn't be classified as a question, its more of a situation/discussion, if you're not well educated and ignorant, i suggest you don't even state your imput. I think sex is stupid, i don't see why people do it. I am attracted to anyone who is hot, male or female. But that is about it. So do i say i am bi? not sure? or straight? obviously i am sure cause i think sex is stupid. so i'm not unsure of my sexual orientation. I consider myself bi because i am not gay not straight...if i see a hot male, i'll think he is hot, or a hot female think she is hot, but as i stated earlier, don't mean i want to be with any of them. So is this a common teenage stage? or do i just hate the world so much, i refuse to take part in what they consider "normal" living. I really prefer to go against something that someone says, than do what they say. so maybe i just want to be different so bad, i can make myself take on the identity of whats considered "different"?
2006-12-09 12:56:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I don't think you can call yourself bi until you experience intimacy. You'll be surprised how many males out there have same attitude. I, too, look at guys and say whether he is hot or not. I don't admitted it when my macho guy friends are around, but I believe they are the same in deep inside. It is our nature to judge and have feelings towards each other, same sex or not. I don't think I can ever know if I'm bi or not since I won't be able to push myself to that level. For guys, experimenting can be more harsh in reality. I'm straight, but I would never know whether I could be bi or not. I don't think there is nothing wrong with it. You are just more open than others. But I would suggest experimenting first before calling yourself a bi. I don't think I can ever feel the intimacy from same sex, so I probably won't be bi ever. You, in other hand, may feel differently. Just my thoughts.
2006-12-09 13:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by wat~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself am gay, and my brother is bi, so I think I can help you with your situation. The fact is you have the capability to love/be attracted to either sex equally. There is nothing wrong with this, not a stage, not a problem, nothing wrong with it. Even though you haven't had sex or kissed anyone, the fact still resides that you are attracted to both genders regardless.
And to just be different? I wouldn't say that. Society is growing more acceptable and there isn't really a social "norm". It's just not as many people are out about being gay, bi, etc... which is what may give you the idea of being straight as "normal". Some people out there will give you a hard time, but you've got to deal with it.
There are groups out there too that'll support you too:
GSA (Gay-Straight Alliance for gays, lesbians, bi, trans)
PFLAG (Parents & Friends of Lesbians And Gays)
2006-12-09 13:28:03 · answer #2 · answered by D-Fox 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hardly know what to say to that diatribe. Have you met Smiley? I just answered two of her questions and I think you'd get along just fine. I wonder if you might be more comfortable living in a society elsewhere on the earth that may be a bit more traditional? I believe there are still some less industrialized places left, where gender roles are still, by and large, more like the 1900s. Understand I don't necessarily disagree with your feelings about the bedroom being so far into the ballroom. I do however fear for your ultimate sanity if you choose to become so much of a misanthrope that you lock yourself away, ala Scrooge. Seems a change of abode might be your best option. It's quiet in the north country areas, and in the midwest. If you are in a city.. get thee to a country spot, young man :) Ever consider setting up a blog page? If you are going to write stream of consciousness posts, you might as well do so where more people may notice you.
2016-05-23 00:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*smirks*
Nothing's wrong with that.
I was like you a few years back. It's a teenage thing. You'll get over the wanting to go against everyone and everything in a few years. You're trying to make sure you're an indiviual which is just part of the process of growing up.
Now the not wanting to have sex with anyone thing could be part of it or it could be something else. I felt like that because I didn't want anyone getting close to me to hurt me and I'm still having problems with that, but I'm getting better I think. At least now I the people I feel attracted to I want to be with sexually. I want to feel a deeper connection with them, being close and knowing they're sharing my feelings.
That help?
2006-12-09 13:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sexual orientation is about your attitude and who you're attracted too. A 13-year old girl who's never had sex or even kissed anyone is just as heterosexual as a 25-year old sorority girl partying it up every night in the bedroom.
I don't know whether it's considered normal or not, I can't be a judge of that, but I wish you good luck in your endeavours =)
2006-12-09 13:02:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Sounds like you are a very confident and intelligent person. I can support you by pointing out that modern research proves that over 70% of both men and women are "bisexual" to one degree or another. For some of us it means just admiring people from both sexes (sort of like you suggest). For others it means being able to have physical relationships with either. So I would say you are quite normal and I would not worry about it. Just let things happen naturally.
2006-12-09 13:03:13 · answer #6 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It actually doesn't sound like you are anything. The idea of being "Bi" is biSEXUALITY and if you are not of sexual ideas then maybe you are nonsexual? And i think it was kinda a retarded statement to say "i don't see why people do it" because that is obvious, the pleasure. But for your case, i suppose you are just nonsexual.
2006-12-09 13:07:11 · answer #7 · answered by Jordan 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋