2006-12-09 12:41:05 · 13 answers · asked by subhuman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think my ex avoids our children because he feels guilty about what he has done_
2006-12-09 12:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like many others have already stated, I'd say some are wanting to avoid further conflict with the ex-spouse.
Sometimes when the one parent - i.e. the mother gets a boyfriend, the guy feels threatened about where he stands in the whole parenting thing, so in effect feels shut out and no longer makes an effort to spend time with his kids.
2006-12-09 21:44:16 · answer #2 · answered by Melek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through this now, I think the only reason my exhusband avoids our children is because he thinks it hurts me, and also he acts like he don't have time for them to come visit him, because he has a new women with children i guess he feels his life is complete. But I don't dought that he don't love his own children I think its just to hurt me by hurting them, which it does in ways when he tells them he is coming and they get excited and he never shows up. It is wrong and it tears me up inside knowing there are parents that are like that
2006-12-09 20:51:41 · answer #3 · answered by baby_elmo_70633 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are probably not avoiding the kids but their ex spouses. Sometimes its the parent that makes the child believe that the other parent wants nothing to do with them. They may call and are not aloud to speak to the child.
2006-12-09 20:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by gypsygrl1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their conscience bothers them.
The other spouse acts like they want them to see the children but really work against the opportunity.
Too busy working paying alimony and child support.
They don't want to confuse the childs life with conflict.
There are an unending number of reasons.
2006-12-09 20:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by googlemeatyahoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they don't want to put up with the ex's whining and complaining. if its over get over it and don't put the kids in the middle, they need to know that it wasn't there fault and thay are still loved by both parents. there should be nothing to fight over after the divorce.
2006-12-09 20:51:06 · answer #6 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that the ones that do this do it because they
don't want to have to see their X, or they are so messed up in life that they don't care about their child. Or maybe because they know they messed up & are asshamed of it & would rather aviod seeing their children due to embarrassment.
2006-12-09 20:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They feel guilty, and they are trying to duck responsibility. By telling themselves over and over the kids are better off without them, what they are really doing is trying to convince themselves abandonment is ok and justified.
2006-12-09 21:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by Kristal R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some of them are ashamed of the games they played at the children's expense. I know that is my in-laws issues.
2006-12-09 20:52:19 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are avoiding the other parent. however they are hurting the kids not the other parent.
2006-12-09 20:44:13 · answer #10 · answered by Babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋