Maybe someone can shed some light on this thought. Why does it seem as though every single person wants to be in a relationship and every married person wants to be single? Not EVERY, but most. I am in my late twenties and have several friends - single and married. And thats the exact secenario for just about all of them. I have married friends cheating on their spouses, single friends dying to become involved in a realtionship. I am not a child of divorce, my parents have been married 35 years and even though I love and respect them both, their relationship is not one that I desire. I have a track record of getting involved in relationships that I can have at a distance because of this. So, why do you think we always want what we don't have?? And are there any people out there that have been married for a significant amount of time and can still say they are truely happy?
2006-12-09 12:39:08 · 7 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am 21 and have no desire to be married for awhile. I listen to my mom who got married at 18. She does not regret it she just wishes that she had done it a little different. She has encouraged me to be happy where I am in my life and the goals I have set for myself. I listen to people telling me there is still time to get married.
I don't understand it when people say oh you have to be married young and have kids young. A lot of my friends have gotten married at my age or younger, because that was their decision. I don't judge them, if they are truly happy then more power to them. I just know that it is not for me right now. People who have been married for a long time say it is a commitment. Marriage is a beautiful thing, but dating and marrying are two totally opposite things.
I would prefer to have myself established and know who I am before I make a commitment to someone else. What is 2 years down the road something happens, he leaves me, dies or anything could happen. How would I support myself if he is the only one working. That is why I am going to college and getting the degree so I can be financially secure married or not.
Everyone says that single is such a bad thing but I don't understand it. I enjoy being single and having fun and not being tied down. I am sorry but I think I would like to be happy for a little while before I have a family. I am sure there are truly happy couples. My parents have been married for 27 years, and have been thru thick and thin, but I heed advice from others because I believe it has saved me from making decisions in my life at to early of an age.
2006-12-09 12:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Couples are usually happy and content with life when: the two put GOD first...all other things are in order. Marriage is Work... Love is a Commandment not a feeling.
Marriages generally fail due to financial tensions in the home or pure selfishness of a spouse. People these days don't want to earn or work for anything worth having. I see couples charging thousands of dollars on wedding rings & the marriage last 3- 6 mo.s!!! That's silly and just materialistic!
2006-12-09 12:45:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting question. But it's true about some people- married or not. I'm single, and don't want to be. I very much want to be dating, to get married, and to become a father.
I think, maybe some married people, just arn't happily married, arn't happy with their spouse, anymore. There could be many possible reasons for that explanation, and we'll never know what they are. But some married people can say they're truly happy, yes. My parents never divorced. And despite their differences, they were happy. We will always want what we don't have, because we have to have it, and someone or something wont let us have it.
2006-12-09 13:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
each situation is distinctive. some individuals are very content textile single, some are happy married. And the choice is actual. some are unhappy single and a few are unhappy married. the secret's calling out what makes you happy and not hectic approximately what's the "ideal" element to do. the right element is loving existence. there are a number of annoying circumstances to marriage/being single. existence is a project. There are not any regulations to pass by using. you purely would desire to ascertain what's going to make you happy and pass with it.
2016-10-05 02:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by boland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married, but I've been with the same guy for 12 years and people who see us think we're still on our honeymoon. It's not my first relationship, and I was married before, (I'm 50) but good relationships are out there. I think ours works because we don't try to change each other, and we also found something we have in common, so we have together time and apart time.
2006-12-09 12:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am single by choice you just have to do what is right for you
2006-12-09 12:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The grass is always greener on the other side.
2006-12-09 12:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋