if you have a friend who seems to be too busy for an actual friendship, is it wrong to basically cut them off? i mean, i have this friend who is pretty busy grant you, but it's not like she has no free time whatsoever. she's gotten to the point where she doesn't return phone calls, and we wouldn't even communicate if i didn't make an effort. and forget actually hanging out. so is it wrong to tell them that i'm letting go? or what should i do exactly...i'm not saying i'd stop being friends with them, but the friendship itself is almost nonexsistent at this point.
2006-12-09 12:34:53 · 10 answers · asked by abc123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Time to get on with -YOUR- life.
2006-12-09 12:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by csburridge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real friends will always stay friends - right throughout their lives. They don't need to be contacting each other all the time and might even leave it years before they see one another again.
Hold on to all your friends I say. Don't have expectations of them.
If they call they call, if they don't they don't. It doesn't mean they like you any less. If your friend really didn't want to see you she would brush you off when you call.
Drop off the calls if you feel it is one sided. If she is a real friend she will still be there, if she isn't well then, we all move on in our lives, and some friendships are not the close kind.
2006-12-09 20:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by AJ... Australia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really want this friend in your life, i would not tell her that i'm letting go. i wouldn't cut her off. i would speak with her, ask what is wrong - you don't seem to have time - is this because your life is sooo very busy or is it you moved on with your world. let her tell you, you could say that she doesn't want you as friend or you MAY just find out their are other obstacles in her life that are making it impossible to be the close friend at this time - but, at least give her the opportunity to tell you before you cut her off. sometimes, things are not the way they seem.
2006-12-09 21:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to look elsewhere since you're not content with a part-time friend. Your friend can hang with similar busy people and then they can each have no time for each other.
2006-12-09 20:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by rog j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't wrong, everyone is busy sometimes.
Maybe just try to make new friends also.
If it gets to much where you don't talk anymore, you should probably let go until they are less busy, and can hang-out.
2006-12-09 20:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by Nic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people just drift apart. It's not incommon in any kind of relationship. People's interests change, and well, there you have it. Life is constantly moving and changing, and so are the people in it. Go with the flow.
2006-12-09 20:38:47 · answer #6 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them go, but don't say anything. Just stop calling. That way if they do ever realize what they're missing, You haven't burned any bridges to them and they can call you back.
2006-12-09 20:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has already dumped you as a friend so don't waste the time even telling her. Just take her hint and walk away and never look back.
2006-12-09 20:37:23 · answer #8 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just goin wiht life. dont exactly cut her off, but if ur tryin really hard to get to talk to her then its not worth it.
2006-12-09 20:44:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give up on this one ,and find a new freind, there are so many people waiting to meet you// get out there and be yourself// they will find you'' but you got to go out
2006-12-09 20:42:34 · answer #10 · answered by glitsyjewels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋