I have triied to get a friend of mine to stop hating xmas.. (and all holidays) what is your advice.. i have triind to get her to be thankful for the beautiful kids.. and all the wonderful things in her life.. now is the time to celebrate..
2006-12-09 12:29:40 · 12 answers · asked by CM 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
it has nothing to do with religion.. and yes she has had hard times in her life.. but so have we all... so is it that she just thinks about the hard times.. instead of the good times???
2006-12-09 12:38:10 · update #1
I have known someone like that too.. and every time it is brought up how much they hate the holidays.. i just remind them of just what you said.. try to celebrate the good things in your life.. i always get.."i know.. i know".. the only thing i do push on them is to try not rub off the ho hum attitude off on their kids.. and you know.. its been alot of years, but each year they get alittle better about the holidays.. the best advice i can think of to give to you is don't push.. I know.. you wish all the good feelings you have on them, because they are your friend.. but they cant feel good about it all unless they want to.. try rubbing off your good mood without bringing up the holidays... a smile..a laugh.. is contagious
2006-12-09 15:14:40 · answer #1 · answered by sweetclineh2t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is the last line that you had said..."Now is the time to celebrate....
It is hard when society is telling you how to feel when you don't feel that way.
And the difference can be overwhelming. Some people are just much happier on an even level, than that Oh, Whoopy! feeling, and then it's all over anyway.
Don't mention the holidays to her. Just let her feel comfortable and honor the feelings that she has.
If you want to do something, don't make it a holiday type of suggestion necassarily. Like go away to a motel, maybe with a pool or something, just a different place.
And ignore the Christmas decorations! They can be gaudy anyway, lord knows.
Maybe take a hike among Evergreens. That way she can see they really are just a part of nature. Mysterious and beautiful all by themselves.
Now I am talking about a pine forest! Not the ones in the shopping district.
Just the two of you together.
2006-12-09 12:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by smoothsoullady 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To Local Celebrity, Now not all liberals are for just handing welfare checks out. It is a good thing but people take advantage of it. Should we stop giving money to people who truely need it, now what kind of America would that be. Liberals don't hate, we get frustrated from the policies that Neo-Conservatives are putting in place. We stand for good things like health care for all, a BALANCED budget, better education, and yes, security. If you look at what the U.S. spends each year on military expenses compared to other countries, you'll faint. If we took just 1 or 2 percent away from that, we could increase funding in greatly needed areas such as edcuation and healthcare. Our country needs it but all we focus on is Terrorism as are country crumbles from within. And I wish the troops and all people a Happy Holidays
2016-05-23 00:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by Gwendolyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas is a religious holiday. If you live in a country where Christmas is a big deal, it's a very frustrating time of year if you don't subscribe to the religion.
People act like complete idiots, and expect everyone to understand because 'it's Christmas.' Traffic sucks, getting in and out of stores sucks, getting to the post office sucks. Having people constantly asking if you're 'ready for Christmas,' being shocked when you say no, and then wanting to know why you don't participate sucks. People who act like asses the rest of the year suddenly want to share their 'holiday spirit,' like it makes up for the other 364 days when they're a jerk. The same repetetive, obnoxious music is playing, over and over and over and over and over, everywhere you go. In the workplace, everyone wants to do gift exchanges, or parties, or decorations, and then they get upset if you don't want to join in.
Being treated like you're some kind of freak because you don't celebrate Christmas, or worse, having people react like you're offensive, or there's something wrong with you because you don't share their religious beliefs, doesn't exactly fall in line with the whole peace on earth and goodwill thing.
Your friend can be thankful for the things she loves in her own way. She doesn't need a specific day, or specific doctrine, to tell her when and how to celebrate. My advice--respect her choice. That's what friends are supposed to do.
2006-12-09 12:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by functionary01 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
People hate Christians and the Christian/Catholic Church. The holiday should be abolished and replaced with a 100% secular pagan holiday on say December 18th and call it World Unity Day. Get it going now and in a generation or 2 the kids will be asking 'what is X-Mas?' because a few deadweight diehard looneys will still be celebrating it.
2006-12-09 12:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by larry s 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Ignore her. Let her see how much you and everyone else likes the holidays. Leave her out. Don't include her (include the children) She will come around. You get what you put in.
Now is not the time to celebrate, you should be celebrating all through the year.
2006-12-09 12:32:45 · answer #6 · answered by Jojo 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Why does she hate holidays perhaps if there is a special reason you could find evidence that what she thinks is not true
2006-12-09 12:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by YaYa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to the wilderness away from the need to race around like an idiot. Just sit and relax and hike, swim in the river naked.
From nature all things came and when people are gone to nature all things return.
2006-12-09 12:36:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Through prayer all things are possible. I have prayed for people and things to change, then just wait and it will change.........you need to keep praying until you see the changes start and then say thank you Jesus..........
2006-12-09 12:44:30 · answer #9 · answered by ChristianNanny 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you pointed out the true meaning of CHRISTMAS? Is she Christian at all? Maybe prayer is what she needs more than anything.
2006-12-09 12:32:34 · answer #10 · answered by angelikie2000 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋