What is my problem?! Love the guy I'm with but still manage to **** him over. Not really prepared to lose my love!
2006-12-09 12:14:13 · 9 answers · asked by Bridget O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You seem to contradict yourself with your statement. "Love the guy I'm with but still manage to **** him over." . You definetaly need ot explain what it is you have done to F%$# him over. It would seem as though you may be embarrased of your actions.
It sounds as though you may have already lost your "love". I don't mean to sound negative but more information is needed to understand your situation. Please give us an example of what you have done.
2006-12-11 06:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem, since you ask, is that you love the good parts of being in love but don't want to put up with the difficult parts. Perhaps you simply like the idea of love, and not the day-to-day continuation of it. Perhaps you don't really know what love is?
Real, true, honest, serious love for someone is a sure thing and you are absolutely certain of it and will do anything to keep the preciousness of it. Just the fact that you are announcing your problems on Yahoo shows you are not sure and probably should re-think your entire attitude to love and how to express it properly.
For a start, if you really wanted advice, we would have to know how you have "completely crushed" the trust of the supposedly-loved one.
2006-12-09 20:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by simon2blues 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to discover why you felt the need to crush him before trying to make-up. Perhaps you're afraid of letting him get too close because you're afraid it'll go wrong later? Perhaps you don't really love him, but you crave the feeling of him loving you? Perhaps you don't really want him, but can't stand the thought of him with someone else?
I think you have some insecurity issues and need to work through this before you try to make-up. People aren't objects you can just switch on and switch off according to your current mood.
Good luck - I hope it works out.
2006-12-09 12:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by Cracker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you will have to re assure him all the time that you love him and you will never do anything to loose him, and i hope you dont. He is going to need re assuring. He needs you to tell him you love him and want to be with him, dont do anything to make him feel otherwise. He may have forgiven you, but he will never forget. When he makes comments when you go out, try not to get defensive as this will make him more insecure. Get him to talk to you when he is feeling insecure, and this is when you come in and re assure him. Good Luck, and dont mess it up, you only get one 2nd chance.
2006-12-13 06:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by SoldiersGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust initiallly is so easy to have in a relationship but so hard to re-gain. All depends on how far you have gone. More info would make this easier.
2006-12-09 12:26:21 · answer #5 · answered by evs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible, but not easy, and you might fail.
Do you really want to try? Have you considered what you're doing to your b/f? Or do you just care about how you feel?
The way to do it is clearly explained here:
http://www.scientologyhandbook.org/SH10.HTM
And I'd recommend a good read of this:
http://www.thewaytohappiness.org/
You need to straighten out your behaviour first.
2006-12-11 03:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by replybysteve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll have to prepared for a lot of hard work on your part to earn back his trust, this could take years if ever. he may never forgive you and even if he does things will never be the same.
2006-12-09 12:17:04 · answer #7 · answered by serephina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep him you have to stop hurting him. Prove to him that he can trust you again. Give it time.....
2006-12-09 12:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by honeybear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIND SOMETIME AND STAY AWAY FOR A WHILE, THEN GET BACK ALL NEW.
2006-12-09 12:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by BeautyBreak H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋