I'm 18 and I have chose not to get a girl at all. I am not gay, but I have never had any emotional attatchment to a woman before. I looked for a girl, and I never asked one out, but I gave up. All the girls I know are bitches that are no better than the local prostitutes. I will never get married, I will not have any kids, as I hate little kids. I will move to the Caribbean and enjoy myself, smoking cigars and drinking, with no one bitching at me, while all my friends (I know, I know, it's suprising I have some) have to deal with little kids, and a wife they have to put up with. I would not want to share my life with anyone else, as it is MY life, and is about me. I can take care of myself and I don't need some girl to love me. Love is gushy and too weak for me. So why am I wrong in saying I should be alone?
2006-12-09 11:32:47 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Something is telling me I'm ruining my life though, but I push that thought out of my head. Who cares about my life?
2006-12-09 11:35:12 · update #1
Women are evil and they try to use us. I can't be used. I am not a fool that falls into love.
2006-12-09 11:39:06 · update #2
well,
1) you've already established that the girls YOU know* are bitches, that are no better than LOCAL* prostitutes.
maybe you need to start looking outside of your area. did you try that?
2) You never asked one out, but you gave up.
Something is wrong, if you are giving up before you've asked one out. Do you have an anxiety about asking girls out? Or an anxiety about girls period, maybe a depression, since you're calling us all bitches and hoes. You have a lot of anger towards women. What has happened to you, with women?
3) moving to the Carribean is an escape
you're escaping the problem, by moving far away, to a fantasy world, where you won't have to deal with it. And guess what. You will still have to deal with it. If you are attracted to women and you are in the Carribean what do you think will happen, a new set of bitches and hoes? you can't run away from the problem, you have to stay home, find out what the problem is and deal with it
your conception for what a relationship is, is kinda off. Probably most of your friends are not always "annoyed" with their wives and their kids. But your anxiety, and calling everything prostitutes whores evil in order to distance yourself from it, shows that you may have anxiety about being in a relationship and showing love.
I don't think that you really are as selfish as you try to make yourself sound "I would not want to share my life with anyone else, as it is MY life, and is about me. I can take care of myself and I don't need some girl to love me."
I think you are just hurt, maybe somebody messed up your trust "Love is gushy and too weak for me. So why am I wrong in saying I should be alone?" and you don't know what to do, so you try to sound tough, like you don't need it.
If I were you, I would consider enrolling with a counselor, because your friends may care for you and offer support, but sometimes you need some professional advice
2006-12-09 11:55:20 · answer #1 · answered by bun223 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are absolutely right. You are an eccentric (not that there's anything wrong with that) and as such, you need your space.
Please don't get all caught up in what other people say and someday "try out" a relationship just to see what it's like. Be kind and remain solo. You are not ruining your life, but you might ruin someone else's if you go about being something that you are not.
Good luck. And, have a big Cuban cigar on me!
2006-12-09 19:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Listen if there is as much as a glinch of faith left in you try because if you dont you will end up content about being left alone. And then one day you will feel lonely but you wont have the will to go meet someone..... believe me. I felt the same way when I was 18 and now Im 38 And I regret it more then you will ever know. I want to meet someone and have a family more then ever but theres no where to meet women my age but a bar and there there for one of two reasons to get drunk or laid just like the men.
2006-12-09 19:58:29 · answer #3 · answered by Cheezy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most of the time I pretty much agree with your assessment of females. I will also agree with a similar assessment of most males. People are users while love is about giving.
In the end tho being alone makes life pointless. You get old and get sick. If you are broke that makes three strikes. Being alone is a forth the robs every day of purpose and meaning. The meaning of life after all is other people.
2006-12-09 22:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by gatzap 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you're very smart. I tell my son (19) to stay single and enjoy his life, but he hates to be alone. There's nothing wrong with wanting what you want!! Its your life!! You are too young to say you'll never get married though. You may meet the love of your life one day. As far as kids go....not everyone was meant to be a parent. Its good that you know how you feel about kids now.
2006-12-09 19:38:11 · answer #5 · answered by marincaligirl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its your life you do with it what you will. If you are fine with yourself that is most important. You are only 18 and have a lot of life ahead of you. I hate to see a young person get into a life they weren't ready for so I think you are doing the right thing.
When I was 18 I always said no marriage and no kids. I changed my mind on marriage but not on kids.
2006-12-09 19:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by Babe 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Like you said it is your life..But it sounds like a lonely life...You know the kids that are being dealt with you talk about and the nagging women..most of the time they are just rattling on and would not have it any other way...there is nothing like having a child of your own..something so little that is a part of you...and the whole part of rearing a child has it up and downs...but there is nothing like it...but if you do not want that kind of life, hey, don't start one...It is better to be truthful and not string someone along...good luck to you..........
2006-12-09 19:43:31 · answer #7 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are dear sir what people call ...a hater and should be alone b/c you are the saddess person I know and if we women are all bitches then what does that make you........! I think way worse then, women are! You do not know all women and not all are this way but a dingle berry......... such as yourself....... would not know of these things! You need to cover your information and get facts before making a question in the first place ! It makes you look really bad and a very shallow person!
2006-12-09 19:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by MagikButterfly 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hell no, your an Einstein! Wish more guys were like you. However, when you get to the Caribbean and see all those beautiful women, how long do you think it will take before you re-evaluate your thinking?
2006-12-09 19:39:06 · answer #9 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know you but I feel what you are saying. maybe it is good for you to be alone right now. time and patience will help you through what ever this is about. being around your friends may have swayed your decision but give it time Love yourself and Have a great Holiday. HO HO HO. go have fun and don't worry about it . all will fall into place when it is right for you.
2006-12-09 19:42:11 · answer #10 · answered by Life lover 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋