If a guy is getting married, and the girl he is going to marry is the only one that he has been with his whole life. Would he regret that he has never done it with any other girls? Would he just try it before he gets married? like at his bachelor's party or something? (usurping his last chance of doing it with other girls before commiting to just one woman for the rest of his life) So that way, he can say that he has been with more than one woman in his life, and he won't be curious anymore. Is this a common practice? Would you do that? Or do you think it's just immature or reasonable? I've heard guys saying stuff like that, and I just thought to me that would be really unacceptable and wrong. I mean, it would still be considered cheating. and he will definitely hurt his wife's feelings once she finds out. I may file for divorce if I find out. What do you think? Do all guys think that way? Would you allow it?
2006-12-09 11:27:14 · 19 answers · asked by Heather K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Absolutely not.
If a guy did that the day before, he would likely do it again. Well, I've never had a threesome, or, I've never cheated on anyone, bla bla bla.
If I found out my husband or fiancee did that, I would end the marriage or not get married.
2006-12-09 11:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jax 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they say to you "Honey I wanna experience sex with some other girls" let them. It may or may not ruin your future relationship in marriage. You don't know. You just gotta take them kind of chances.
Otherwise say "No", get married, and hope he doesn't cheat.
'Cause really, it's HIS responsibility, on this side of the matter, to know if he CAN get married to you or not, without feeling the need or want to do it with somebody else. If he has doubt, then you guys might wanna wait on the marriage, even if it means you might lose him.
Me personally I feel like people need to do it with a couple folks, to get a feel for what they may be desiring sexually, in a relationship. Some people get married, and don't know those things for themselves yet, and get frustrated 'cause they don't know, but now it's too late. I think experience with some folks teaches it more, than anything else.
I'll tell you this too though, I've known people who had relationships with GREAT sex, and still broke up after a year or two, for various reasons, missing the person so much and everything.
so I guess sometimes they need to go away for a while to really see if it's you that they need, or that they need more time to explore.
You might as well do it before the marriage then, you don't wanna find out this kind of information 20 years later, after 4 kids.
I know one time, I found out this dude was cheating on me... it hurt but I didn't care 'cause I knew he would be coming back, and he did! But that was one time, this event. If he didn't come back, I would have just gotten over him and went about my business... all this in general is the type of attitude you have to take.
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2016-11-25 01:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is wrong on so many levels. People who say that is impossible to live in a monogomus relationship because of genes or whatever are only looking for rationalization for behavior that they know is wrong. I was married for 22 years and no desire to sleep with other women, even though I had plenty of opportunities. I've been single now for several years, and have had even more opportunities to sleep women, but havn't because one night stands and relationships where there is not that level of commitment cheapens the experience.
2006-12-09 11:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by Deus Luminarium 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is getting married, there is one one person for him. This does not matter if he has only been with one woman or a couple. He probably is not wondering...but sure he will think about it. Take him to his fantasy places and I can assure you he will only think about you.
I would not worry about the bachelor party as he is busy getting ripping drunk! Bachelor parties end up at strip clubs, but they are typically nothing more than guys getting on stage and getting made fun of...
Show him the time of his life so he does not have to worry about anyone else!!
2006-12-09 11:38:35 · answer #5 · answered by Dave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id like to say this about what u asked ok? i am a 30 year old man and married to a 31 yr old ive been married once before her but i have always been a 1 woman man so i can honestly say that i only want one woman in my life theres nothing wrong with our marriage so there is no reason on why id want to look,or want any other woman bc if my wife couldnt give me what i wanted at home then i sure wouldnt go anywhere else id talk to my wife about our probelms
2006-12-09 11:35:56 · answer #6 · answered by Angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unkown to many people today, there is RIGHT, and there is WRONG. Doing what you describe is WRONG. Period.
A woman has every right to expect that during their engagement period her fiance has been completely faithful. If he hasn't been - regardless if it is the night before the wedding - she also has every right, and should, call the whole thing off.
If he's unfaithful during engagement, it is virtually certain that he will be after the wedding day. And, not too long after, by the way.
2006-12-09 11:32:10 · answer #7 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. The men you're hanging out with are immature and are simply not the type who would get married to their first girlfriend, as most aren't that type. I know men who have only slept with one person, and they are proud of this. Of-course I would not tolerate it. Sleeping around before you get married is making a sham out of the committment you are promising.
2006-12-09 11:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by solaralley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men like variety. After the first, they want to try another. It's like a child waiting to get into a candy store, then given one piece. They're going to want to try a different piece. It's curiosity and innate desire. Tell him to go wild now and you will let it go. Also, tell him after marriage, you will not let it go. If he needs more time, you should give it to him. You don't want a guy constantly wondering what he missed.
2006-12-09 13:24:49 · answer #9 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are talking about you, and I think you are, get out now, or WAIT. If you're thinking it, you are not ready to settle down...just yet. Why are people in such a hurry to get married? There's no time limit! Live it up first, there's plenty of time to get "settled".
2006-12-09 11:33:12 · answer #10 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋