Im 15 years old, how do i tell my mom im pregnant?

Question

im 15 years old, and ive been with my boyfriend for almost two years and just had sex for the first time. I recently found out that i am pregnant but I dont know how to tell my mom. I feel that if i tell her i will lose all her trust, and my family will be ashamed of my action. what do i do? how do i tell her?

and yes i did use protection.

Answer 1

Being that your mother will find out eventually, the best thing is to be up front and honest about it. What's done is done and there is no changing the past. I would hope that your mother would be appreciative of the fact that you trusted her enough to tell her this. My wife and I are not able to have children and are presently trying to adopt a baby. I hope everything works out. Take care of yourself and your precious baby.

Answer 2

Bah how do you answer a question like this without being all moral about it .. i guess we everyone will have their own opinion about it .. and I do agree that you should just be honest it's the only way, I'm 24 and just over half way now, but i dreaded telling my parents knowing what my mother was like, but they are fine now. But surely you can understand why she would be upset and ashamed, you are only 15 and have so much ahead of you, you dont need to be in this position at this time in your life.It's good that you used protection, and even though it's not 100% effective, it should have done a pretty good job at helping. i hope you think very seriously about this, and that your outcome is positive.(My apologies for any offence I may cause.)

Answer 3

I understand how scary can be! I had my 1st baby at 16. Just try to find a moment when your mom is not in the middle of doing anything and when you guys are alone. tell her you need to talk to her about something. and let her now you love her and you did not do this to hurt her. ( I only say this because sometimes mommy's feel like its their fault, or they did something wrong). You have to be ready for her to be a little upset (or maybe even cry) from the innitial shock, only because she loves you. She may even go a few days were she doesnt want to talk. But remember she just needs time to think. She will eventually calm down and be your best means of support. It may take a little while before you can earn her trust again, but just remember your mom loves you and she will not be ashamed of you. If your nervous about telling her face to face. you can always write her a letter. But be sure to tell her early so you can get the best care for your baby and get to the doctor. Good Luck!

Answer 4

First things first, the baby is yours and it is your decision whether or not to keep it or give it up for adoption. Please do not consider abortion, do a search and you will be horrified at what you find out. Your mom will figure it out sooner or later, so tell her now. You need to start your prenatal appointments and get prenatal vitamins. Consider home schooling the first year your baby is here, so you can spend time with him/her and have the option of breastfeeding. The breast is best! She may temporarly lose trust, but in the long run when you prove what a good mother you are you will gain it back. Have faith, you can get throught this! If you need anything just e-mail me. Good luck.

Answer 5

i am 15 and im pregnant and i still havent told my mum. i have only just found out to. my plan was to tell her wen i was starting to show so i could build up the courage to but now im going to write her a letter and leave it somewhere she will only see it. leave the house and go to ur boyfriends or a friends house and wait for a response. she will never stop loving you and maybe someone in ur family has had a baby at a young age. do you want to keep it because pregnancy is an amazing thing and i really hope you have chosen to keep the child. goodluck and congrats

Answer 6

This is definitely going to be a difficult time for both you and your mom. Not to be rude (not at ALL my intention) but having sex at 15 is not the most responsible thing to do regardless of how long you and your boyfriend have been together. Obviously, you are both too young to handle the consequences of sex, intended or not. I think that your best bet would be to sit down with your boyfriend first. Plan out what you think you are going to do and what you are capable of doing in order to take care of this child. Try to find some solutions and answers to questions that you know your mom is going to have.

Hopefully your boyfriend will be mature enough (although assuming he is 15, you can only expect so much) to stick with you and do what he can to help with this child.

Personally, my mom has still not gotten over the initial shock of me being pregnant. She wouldn't talk to me for months. I do not mean this to be conceded, but when I got pregnant, I was engaged (still am to a wonderful wonderful man), I am a third year college student in a scholarship and honors program, supporting myself financially, and working 40 hours a week on a full time class schedule (18 credits). I thought that my mom's reaction was extremely uncalled for. Although the pregnancy was unplanned, and puts a damper in some of the plans that I had for myself, everything happens for a reason. I am responsible enough and mature enough at this point that I am ready to take care of a child. I am also fortunate enough to have the support of my incredible fiance.

I wish that everyone had this kind of support. Losing the support from my parents tore me apart, though. It was definitely the hardest thing that I have ever had to go through. My parents are turning around now to a certain degree. They are still ashamed and embarassed to be with me and refuse to tell people that we used to hang out with which is insulting to me.

The best advice that I can give you is to be understanding of your mom's perspective. Know that she loves you no matter what but try to see things from her side. Being 15 is going to be a lot harder with a child than I have it being 20. Just try to let your mom know that you are going to do what you have to and be responsible enough to handle the decisions and consequences of those decisions that you made already. She will be much more comforted by knowing that you are prepared to deal with the results of actions and that you are willing to listen to her concerns.

Best of luck with everything.

Answer 7

From personal experience, if you don't tell her, she will probably figure it out on her own. After all do you buy your own monthly supply of pads/tampons? However, it would probably be better to tell her yourself, so that she can help you with a solution. Yes she will be upset, she will cry, and may yell at first; but she is your mother and loves you and will more than likely try to help you in whatever way she can. If necessary let a trusted friend or family member be with you for moral support when you tell her.

Answer 8

First have you had the pregnancy confirmed or is this based on a home test? Sometimes a blood test is the best way to be sure. If you have already done that and know with absolute certainty, then you need to tell her ASAP. You have to remember that your decisions affect more than just you now. You need to think about getting appropriate medical care. I cant say how your Mom will react but putting it off is NOT in your best interest.

Answer 9

You tell her just like you told the world. "Mom, I'm pregnant. I'm sorry but I need your help in making the right decisions". Then you have to trust that your family (while they will be disappointed big time and possibly ashamed of what you've done) WILL stand by you and help you through this challenging time in your life. Only you know how they might react (sorrow, anger, frustration, etc.) but they ARE your family and they love you.

Answer 10

Chickie, telling you Mom is a scary thing but really you should know that all Mom's love their children unconditionally ! Explain to your Mom that you used protection. Another reason for telling you Mom is that there may be time for you to still have a choice in what you want to do... Do you and your B/f want to keep the baby? The bottom line is sit your Mom down alone with you and explain. She may cry and be shocked but it will be the best decision you make because she will help support you thru this time ! Good luck with your decidion

Answer 11

First of all.. good job with trying to protect yourself. I had to do this in high school. I told my mom that I wanted to go on a walk with her. I told her that I thought I was pregnant ( I knew I was.. I was 18 weeks). She was upset and kept saying my full name. Then she asked what I wanted to do about it. I said I wanted to keep it. She said ok. Then she asked about telling my dad. I said "nope. I am not telling him. You are!!!!" So she said she would, and she did. The next day she got me in to see a doctor. She was SOOOOOO excited the day I had my baby girl. She was crying and kissing me and my poor hubby (we got married so we could live together) couldn't even get close to me because she was so excited. And it wasn't even her first grand baby. Moms have a way of being ok with things even when you don't think they will. I never would have expected that to be her reaction but SHE WAS GREAT. And the only reason anyone was upset or disappointed in me was because I waited so long to tell anyone. I say just tell her. She will take it better than you think. Good luck and congrats Hun.