Does anybody have any advice on getting to know people you kind of know better? They're not exactly good friends but I would kind of want to be better friends with them. How would you start conversation? When? And what would you talk about?
Thanks!
2006-12-09 10:47:07 · 30 answers · asked by ♪Grillon♫ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'd try to do different things with them, and see wich ones they like the most. Friends is very hard to get to know, cause mostly they still keep that a secret how they really feel in the inside.
Listen to what they talk about the most. that's what interests them the most. Every Friend needs a good listener.
2006-12-09 10:57:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your age or your interests but i've often found that going out to drink with people like this helps. For me, it is over liquor, at a nice bar that is quiet but entertaining enough to have distractions so in case conversation gets awkward... bonding over drink can be great.
If this is not your scene, visiting coffe houses or restaurants on a weeknd are a nice way to get together and try to find common ground. Talk about what you may have in common or know about them and stick with it- where do you know these people from? Talk about where you met them and about their jobs, interests, family, Christmas plans (or holiday plans whatever is politically correct now). Discuss food, anything. The more you start to open up and talk about things too maybe everyone will get comfortable!
Goodluck- making friends and getting to know people is a problem that has plagued us all forever, so keep at it, just keep the conversation open, don't hog it or people will think you're interested to know about them. Oh, talk about movies! Movies you can learn a lot about people :)
2006-12-09 18:51:40 · answer #2 · answered by mrjohntesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, if you really want to get to know them, talk to them.
Tell them about yourself, tell them you are interested in getting to know them. Don't say you want to be friends right a way, because some people may find you weak and want to take advantage. Soon, you'll find yourself obeying their every command, paying for everything, telling your darkest secrets.
No, you want to make sure they are the type of people who anyone could consider good friends. Be open to anything that's a little different from you, like if their sexuality is different, or their religion.
Just be a nice open person, and anyone will like you!
Krazy Libra
2006-12-09 18:52:45 · answer #3 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and find a subject that you all have SOME interest or SOME KNOWLEDGE about and take it from there.I will not talk about ANY SUBJECT that I know NOTHING about. For if you do and the people that you are talking to know something about that subject that you know nothing about will take you as a BULLSHITTER and you will loose any credibility on ANY subject.My best advice is to listen to what the other people are talking about and comment on the subjects that you know something about.And if they talk to you about a subject that you know nothing about simply tell them that you cannot comment intelligently on that subject due to a lack of knowledge.At least that way you are being honest and people will have more respect for you then if you try to talk about something you know nothing about.
2006-12-09 18:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by hjbergel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play the famous game 21 Questions...it NEVER fails...
you dont actually ask 21 questions, you can ask as many as you want. If they answer the question, they get a point, and if they dont then you get a point. Works EVERYTIME! Its a great way to get to know people and have fun at the same time, and its easy to start. All you gotta say it "Wanna play this game with me?" and there you go!
2006-12-09 18:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by Déjà Vu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much always be your self but i guess you could ask them more personal questions if they answer then you know they trust you more to talk to you about these kinda things. Maybe you could start by saying some thing about yourself that you think will start a good conversation. Or just go to places where you know you could have a good time. Make good memories.
2006-12-09 18:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
An easy way is to get involved in activities that you love to do and more than likely there will be someone else that also shares your interests or find new hobbies or activities that you may be interested in...once you find someone who has something in common with you, the shared interest is kinda like your ice breaker to begin conversation
2006-12-13 18:35:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what they are interested in, and start making conversation about that. After that, you can tell them more about yourself.
Just relax and be yourself. Don't try to hard to be with them and get to know them! They may not want to be friends for whatever reasons, and you don't want to damage your self esteem by taking their acceptance or rejection too seriously.
2006-12-09 18:51:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get them to talk about themselves, find out their opinions and perceptions. Ask them about their family and what is was like growing up. Ask them about what their favorite things are in life. You can get them to open up by asking them to describe something for you (like, what was their proudest moment in life?) - rather than asking questions that get yes or no answers.
2006-12-09 18:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by Christy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on where you kind of know them from. Talk about something around you. At school maybe a subject. Church a sermon. So on and so forth.
2006-12-09 18:49:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋