My grandson was raised by his mother, my daughter, and she has made him kinda a "wooze". He would rather play video games, which he is good at, than get his hands dirty. He isnt into sports, has tried hockey and baseball, but does like basketball. Jus not aggressive, and gets his feelings hurt easily. He has lots of friends, but no particular close friend.
]He is in Middle school this year, and the kids pick on him some, take his things out of his locker, throw his shoe into the shower, he laughs and teases back somewhat. His father and mother got back together 3 yrs ago, so there is a man and his grandpa was ALWAYS in his life. But he attended a birthday party of a "friend", and the friend shot him with air gun, and was teasing him about being "gay". He is just a quiet, feeling kid, and dont want him bullied or pushed around. His dad told him to push the kids, if they pushed him, but you hear so much about BULLYING, how do you handle this? As parent, she is at wits end. Thank
2006-12-09 10:45:56 · 19 answers · asked by Louie47 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That's an awkward age for kids..not quite grown up, but getting to that pre-teen years. Don't dwell on it too much, you'll only call more attention to it, and upset him more. Believe me , he'll grow out of that awkwardness and stand up for himself oneday. They always do. It just hurts YOU more to see it right now. But when he gets good and sick of it, no more problems!
2006-12-09 10:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he also needs a bit of protection from a grandparent who would call him a wooze. Be sure you're not conveying that opinion. Change it if you can.
In the meantime, a child who is unaggressive is not a problem. The aggressive children are the problem. We have heard in the news of incident after incident where bullied children have retaliated with deadly results.
Tell the boy's mother to consult the school's principal. Children need to feel safe at school and it is their right. The principal should actively seek a solution to the problem. However, she or he can't if not made aware. Don't put pressure on the child to fight. He is peace-loving and there is nothing wrong with that. Perhaps a martial arts class will build his confidence a bit too.
2006-12-09 10:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He needs to learn some confidence. I was always teased as a kid and I built a hard shell, but it also made me slefpitying and depressed in the long run.If I were you introduce him to art or music, or something that is more creative than "agressive"- maybe give him some books that he might be interested, teach him some come backs. Its not always about physical power, its about mental power. If someone teases the kid- let the kid say "what of it? whats your deal? Can you learn to not touch stuff? Or you could teach him to not react at all and be the better person- that right there shows strength. Its a hard age- just keep encouraging him and go on walks with him etc.Let him know that grandpa will show him the way!
2006-12-09 10:51:30 · answer #3 · answered by katie 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would suggest going to the school counselor. The school is in charge of the children. And could be held responsible for the other kids actions if they don't put a stop to it. There will always be bullies no matter what age even if it's not right. Because of someone being different usually a smarter child.
2006-12-09 11:08:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Id talk 2 sumone @ skool if i were a parent. These days everyone gets picked on bout sumthing & its bound 2 happen 2 everyone but sumone has 2 put their foot down about it. In this case it could b u or the mother. U 2 could go 2 the principle & have him stop it. No one deserves 2 b called gay. Thats just going overboard. But ne ways my mom had 2 do that cuz i was being picked on @ skool by these girls & finally after telling my mom over & over that she didnt have 2 take such a serious measure i finally just let her do it cuz in the end it was the best thing to do. I didnt want her 2 b so serious about it but im glad she was cuz i would still b in the same situation.
2006-12-09 10:58:57 · answer #5 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Greetings from Canada!
I'm sorry to hear that your grandson is being picked on at school. It must be really tough for him to have to go there every day and know that he will be made fun of or teased again. Its is unfortunate that the time he spends in school is such a big part of his life and when there are unpleasant people there, unfortunately, he is stuck with them.
Perhaps you could encourage him to take part in some after school activities - does your local YMCA have swimming? Is there a Track & Field club, or Karate? Does he go to a Church, Mosque or Synagogue where there are Youth Groups? I have found with my own children that the more activities after school that they had, and became good at, the more confidence they aquired, the better people at school treated them.
So, encourage him to increase his out-of-school activities. . . . . .
that will increase his skills and abilities . . . . . .
that will increase his confidence. . . . . . .
and he should have a better time at school.
Even if that doesn't work, he will have more interests and will be meeting more people and widening his circle of friends.
Good Luck!
2006-12-09 11:16:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well i think that if the kids are being physically bully's then someone needs to talk to the parents. And dont worry about him being a "wooze" right now he is still young. He will grow into his own sooner or later. Just tell him that its not ok for anyone to bullie others.
2006-12-09 11:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by Tinkerbell 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was thinking you were talking about just getting shoved around till you mentioned the air gun. That is serious and could even lead to a criminal act. You need to put out big fires like this before building his character up or he doesn't have a chance. Get the parents involved. If they are dismissive get a lawyer and possibly the police and D.A. Hope all goes well, and it's good to see someone concerned.
2006-12-09 10:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by Kari 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no matter what happens theres allways somebody there for u. let me tell u my story:
i was in 2nd grade and met a boy that was really nice and great to hang out with. at that time i had just moved there and neither of us had any friends. we hung out all the time, but the entire school made fun of me for being friends with him. this went on for months. then one day, a random girl that hung out with the worst bully there came over to us and asked us to play. all of her friends didnt agree, so she said "fine! im going to play with my best friends!" i helped someone in need, and someone else helped me when i was in need. the world is a cruel place right now, but try to get him into something he likes to do other than games. sign him up for basketball, or an afterschool club. you can have friends, but you need to choose which people are the right kind of friends. real ones that care for you. hope this helps!
2006-12-09 11:09:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-05 02:41:06 · answer #10 · answered by boland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋