I am in love with someone that I have been with for six years and I cheated on her 10 months ago and realized it was a big mistake and she cheated on me three months ago what should I do if that crap doesn't matter to me. I know my heart doesn't lie but I'm confused because I don't want to lose another person in my life my mother died three months ago and I don't want to lose another person who Iove this much.
2006-12-09 10:40:33 · 18 answers · asked by finney_christopher 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds like you've had a really rough time lately. I'm sorry about the loss of your mom.
Talk to your girlfriend and see if she would be willing to go to counseling with you. During counseling, you will get coping skills for the grief you are having, and also get an idea if your relationship can be salvaged. Best of luck to you!
2006-12-09 10:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by Jackie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just remember one thing. Cheating CAN be forgiven, but it CANNOT be forgotten. If the two of you decide together that you are better off together than you are apart, you both must be willing AND able to put the cheating away and never bring it up again. If either of you is the type to throw it up in an argument months or even years down the road, the best thing for you to do is to go your separate ways, grieve the loss that resulted in your immature errors in judgement, and resolve that in your next relationship you will be totally honest and faithful. Sometimes loving another person isn't enough to hold the fabric of your relationship together if it is coming unraveled. Be sure that what you're heart is really telling you is about HER and not about the pain of losing both her AND your mother. Don't equate one with the other, God bless you.
2006-12-09 11:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by nana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you both cheated so basically you are on the same page. The trick is getting past this and moving on together. It's going to take a long time to rebuild each others trust but if you're willing to do it then make it happen. Fight for her. Convince her to come back. Apologize, tell her how you feel, tell her how sorry you are for the mistakes you made, and tell her you want her in your life and you want to move forward together. It will either work or it won't. If it works don't betray her trust again. If it doesn't work try to accept that and you'll have to move on somehow.
2006-12-09 10:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by copper_eos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love this person or are you afraid of being alone??? You need to have a heart to heart talk with her and let her know how you feel and ask her to tell you how she feels. Nobody is perfect, and I don't know the reason(s) why you cheated on her in the first place, if you say that you are in love with her. Did she cheat to get back at you? Did she tell you or did you find out from someone else. If you truly love her, don't let her go.
2006-12-09 11:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by Dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about it this way sweetie, if u love someone.. think, is this the person u really want to be with for the rest of your life? is this the person ur willing to go through thick and thin til u get old? r u willing to fight for ur realationship no matter what happen? how much faith do u have? if u answer yes to most of these questions, then u do love her.. things happen in a relationship.. remember, it wont kill u, it will only make u stronger!!
2006-12-09 10:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by i'mbadd 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your mother recently died. You are grieving. You are reaching out for comfort with someone familiar. It is not a good idea to make major life decisions when you are depressed or grieving. If you have genuine feelings for this girlfriend give yourself some time to feel better about the loss of your mother, then persue her.
God bless you.
2006-12-09 10:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Follow what your heart tells you to do. But never cheat on her again. Make sure she does the same
2006-12-09 10:52:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up if it is what you really want. There is a quote that says "Its is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all". I strongly believe this. If she is truly the person you love you will regret it if you don't at least try to win her back.
2006-12-09 11:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by Adelaide V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can both learn to get over the cheating and learn to trust each other again. You both must be willing to work it out.
2006-12-09 10:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
well that is supid question if u love this girl then follow your heat and still with her dont listen to anybody just follow your heat it is always right u well see sry about your mom i send u all my love and hope
2006-12-09 10:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by LilTee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋