is there such a thing as too much sex?!?

Question

ok i love sex just as much as my hubby does. but he ALWAYS wants it. im a house wife. i clean, cook, take care of errands and take care of our 18 month old. by the time he gets home i smell like bleach and rice. but he still finds me attractive. yeah i feel lucky but he thinks i should just be in the mood for sex when he gets home. usually im cooking or putting our daughter down for a nap. most of the time im too tired for sex. or sometimes ive such an "eventful" morning that all i want is too relax. we have a 2 story apartment. and to keep it clean is kind of a hard job. how do i deal with him?? i mean i do feel lucky that no matter how i look or smell he still finds me sexually appealing but sometimes im just like....OMG GO AWAY!!! help?!?!?!?!

i cant change my pic my husband did it it was his choice on which avatar we got because i picked our avatar on our other email address, and i havent figured out how to change it!!!!

Answer 1

I'm with "Butterfly" on the avatar, unless you actually look like that (which would make your husband all the more incredible, I suppose).

I don't know - I'm a guy, so I'm going to side with the husband on this one. But, only if his advances are reasonable. You do have the right to say "not now, later", but make sure that on those occasions that you promise "later", that you keep your word.

You might tell him that when you are all bleachy and ricey that you don't feel very sexy, in spite of his current range of tolerance for that. Let him know that if he can wait, it will be a LOT better. Most guys with high sex drives can deal with that. Just make sure that you're not referring to a week from Tuesday.

But, I wouldn't refuse a loyal, loving, dedicated husband very often or you could damage the relationship. Both sides need to give a little here.

Answer 2

If you are constantly pushing him away, he will find it somewhere else. He will still be having sex and won't have to hear you complain about him always wanting sex. Have you ever heard of a quickie? Try it every now and then. Bottom line: If you cut off sex, men start thinking about dumping you for someone else.
Plus, that someone else will have no problem with sex. I know 1st hand because my wife does the same thing you do. I have had opportunities to hook up and struggled to fight the temptation. I was able to walk away from those situations but it was very hard. Some guys don't have the amount of control I have and will give in. Make your man happy or lose him. You're lucky he still likes you, smelling like bleach & rice.

Answer 3

say "No" to him

if he starts begging, begging
or beating and hitting, slapping the sh** out of you,
that may be a sign that he has a problem.

The man is controlling.
It's not about you being so sexy or so not sexy, as you've said, some days, you can smell like bleach and rice, and he still wants it.
It's the control over you for the sex.

He may sit in his room or at work or somewhere, and think to himself or talk to a friend about how he wants you so bad
but really, he's just got a problem.
And he (or really you, for your own safety) needs to identify what it is before it gets too problematic, and it sounds like it's already getting there.

He isn't even considering how YOU FEEL 'cause it isn't about you, it's that HE has a problem.

There is a such thing as too much sex.
I know.

Answer 4

Have someone come in a couple days a week to help with the cleaning that way you are less tired and when he gets home tell him you want to have dinner and relax with him first that way you can get in the mood.

Answer 5

My hubby is the same....Energizer Bunny....lol

However I find that I kiss and flirt right back when he gets home....get the kids down to bed...take a hot bath w/a small glass of wine.....and relax for about 30 minutes of me time....and bingo we have WE time....lol

I also make suggestions like....while I'm doing this how would you feel about doing this ...so we can get the children in bed on time....and then we can kiss kiss a little sooner....lol
Getting him involved can help your mood too.(less pressure and stress)

Best wishes.....When there is a will there is a way.....

Answer 6

sounds like you and your hubby needed to switch with me and my wife.

Actually part of the problem could be simply hormonal incapadibility. I know in men there are two types of normal sexuality(and no one of the normal ones is not a pipesmoker).
There is high testosterone and low testosterone. I would assume there would be some sort of female equivilant to that. Maybe a dr could tweek one of your all's level a bit with meds...
Just a guess I don't really know if they do that.

Answer 7

Everyone's sex drive is different. Don't be afraid to tell him no. He'll understand. But to me, there is no such thing as too much sex.

Answer 8

i have 2 kids, and am expecting my 3rd. i cant get ENOUGH sex. maybe suggest he washes the dishes or something while you relax in bed for a while, then you may feel up to it. if he is willing to do one of your housework chores, it will free up a bit of your time for a quick nap.

Answer 9

It is only too much sex...if the bills aren't getting or he is fired from his job from having sex! Just sit back and enjoy....lol

Answer 10

well, first OFF, please change your picture, unless you wish you were a man with a gotee....second, i think you need to have a serious conversation with him about sex "scheduling" and be serious and tell him how much you appreciate his attention....good luck and be easy on yourself...it seems like you're way too stressed out. go get a pedicure!!!