hello.....how to keep the typical male happy (who really really loves u but starts to take u for granted after few yrs in a relationship") ......i would love to have some practical tips please
2006-12-09 10:37:51 · 10 answers · asked by In Search... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
men...who knows?? they make no sense to me
2006-12-09 10:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by × 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Variety. Don't misunderstand me - I'm not saying you should start 'swinging' or allow him to cheat on you. Just that you should (both) do something to break the routine up.
A few suggestions (ignoring any budget issues)...
Go away for a 'dirty weekend' - cheap and nasty, or expensive and classy, (or any combination in between,) so you both get away to a different location...
Dye/cut your hair. It may sound a little radical, but it may spice things up for a guy if a brunette becomes a redhead for a while. (You're essentially tricking his brain into seeing you a little differently for a while - so don't take it as a sign that he's out the door after the next warm body he meets...)
If you have kids, take advantage of "Nana-Care" or helpful friends to get the kids out of the house for a time. We all love our kids, but it can be distracting if half your attention is focussed on where the kids are and what they are doing.
Make time to spend 'together'. Ballroom dancing classes. Catch a movie marathon. Rent an armload of DVDs. Take a long walk together. While some guys will rebel against potentially "girliy" activities, the point is the time together and not the activity itself - and you can always sweeten the deal by promising a 'reward' afterwards.
This is my no means a complete list, but it'll give you an idea for doing something different...
2006-12-09 19:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by keltarr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a date to a surprise outing
then make it out of town, a really neat event outside of your standard dinner-and a movie (or at least pick a good restaurant) and a nice hotel reservation over the weekend.
I would start with something like that. Do that once. 'Cause it's out of the ordinary. Do something like that again if you want.
But don't do this recipe more than twice, 'cause now it's *his* turn to come up with something fun. You're not in the relationship by yourself, right? So why should you do all the work? You shouldn't.
2006-12-09 19:29:38 · answer #3 · answered by bun223 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start by communicating with him. He is not a mind reader, so don't beat around the bush. Let him know that he's your world and tell him often. Men are even more insecure than woman, so make him feel important. Don't shut him off from sex, and don't be afraid to ask him his likes and dislikes as he may be embarrassed to bring up the subject. Show interest in his hobbies, even if you can't stand them. By doing so you will be showing him support... Just make sure it's not a one way street. If you let him know how you're feeling and he is unwilling to do anything about it, it may be time to find a man who won't shut down after the initial flame goes out.
2006-12-09 18:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by Dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, My wife and I hit a slow spot after a 4 years together... We (she especially) got a little more "frisky" in the bedroom. We also tried to work our schedules closer so that we could spend more time together... It takes BOTH of you to try and make it work but once you both really commit, it is great. Try to be sexy for him and be confident in your appearance. Be understanding, Don't nag him too much and let him relax when he is stressed.
Hope this helps, Good Luck!
2006-12-09 18:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by BORED AT WORK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be frank w/ him, tell him dat ur not his door mat. What difference does it make to keep him happy when in return ur not happy & feel cheated. Remember, IN ANY TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS, there is always an equal fair share & comes along with an understanding... "Heart-2-Exist".
I hope dat I've shed some light here....Best of luck-2-u.
2006-12-09 18:48:23 · answer #6 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try spending a short period of time apart. Go to a relatives for a
week (or something like that). That gives us time to reflect on our woman and we realize we miss them. Since he really loves you, he'll start to reflect in a different way on how much he loves you.
2006-12-09 18:44:47 · answer #7 · answered by B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to have in different & new styles
2006-12-09 23:05:31 · answer #8 · answered by viju 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just love him & nurture him.
2006-12-09 18:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him to the curb
2006-12-09 18:52:26 · answer #10 · answered by hazzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋