2006-12-09 10:33:28 · 17 answers · asked by catriona0285 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Love is such a strange, wonderful thing that nobody really has codified what it is yet. And to further complicate matters, there are so many different kinds of love: the love you feel for a friend, a family member, a sport or even a pet. This is such a crazy emotion that there is absolutely no way that I can definitively answer how you know it is love… but I am going to give it a try!
Now, in order to find out if you love someone, the basic place to start would be to ask yourself, do you want to be with them? If the answer to that question is no, then it really can't be love. When you love someone, you want to be with them. Not just be with them, but share everything with them. You have a great day at work and want to rush home and tell them every wonderful thing that has happened. You feel excited at the prospect of just being in their company, just being close to them isn't enough, you want to be a part of them, a part of their life forever. You can't stand the thought of being away from them yet, when you are, you still feel that ever-present bond that ties you together wherever you go. You can almost feel what they are feeling. You feel like, with a little bit of effort, you can see what they are seeing and think what they are thinking. It is almost as if you both can occupy each other's bodies with complete trust and harmony. That to me is love.
Now, on the other side of the spectrum, there are a host of emotions that people confuse with love. One of the most common is lust. There is a difference between wanting to sleep with someone and wanting to spend the rest of your life with someone.
Being overly dependent on the other person is also not a part of love. Some people fall into the trap of thinking they love someone just because they are afraid to be alone. They have become dependent on the other person for so much that they don't know how to make it on their own, or they would much rather be with someone than no-one.
This leads to the old cliché, in order to love someone else, you must first learn to love yourself. Well, we've all heard that before, but what does it really mean? It means that you have to be confident in your own ability and your own judgement. You really have to like yourself and know what you have to offer another person. There is no way that you can love another person if you are so stuck in your own hang-ups that you bow down and propitiate to the other person. That is, you do anything they ask and agree with everything they say out of fear that they will love you less because you don't do those things.
Basically, the question of whether or not you are in love with someone is pretty cut and dry: you either are or you aren't… and deep down, you know the answer. You just have to trust yourself to recognize it.
2006-12-09 10:49:13 · answer #1 · answered by ladylamp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to put a downer on this, but you can never know if someone really loves you. Possesiveness can be misinterpreted as love but is not good in long term.
If you are happy to see hime & enjoy his company and he treats you well, that's all that matters.
After all, what is love? It is different things to different people. Quite common for someone to say 'I love you' but what do they mean by it & is it only at the moment!
2006-12-09 10:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
always be honest. listen to her. talk to her about absolutely everything. spend time together just walking along the beach or through a park, and most importantly tell her you love her. Don't over do it though. Only say it when it really means something, not just at the end of a phone call or like that. Share all your deepest thoughts and passions. Let her know the complete you.
2016-03-13 05:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't 'know' as such, but you can feel it, in the way they treat you, respond to you, respect you. You're their first thought when making decisions, they think of you before planning things, before arranging things. If your partner is thoughtful towards you, respects your feelings and opinions, it's quite likely that they love you. or they may even tell yoo, and that's cool!!!!
2006-12-09 10:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by sharon r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you will ever really know, i've thought that i was loved and it i was wrong..and i've also thought i wasnt loved and was wrong !.....you only truly know when you love someone its when you would give anything in the world for them to feel special and be happy....just enjoy what you have as no-one ever knows what is around the corner.
2006-12-09 11:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is easy, They just love you don't matter what? And love is unconditional, he will like you he won't never make fun of you or judge you what so ever or look in you defects etc...And that when you need him he will be there for you I guess that is love...
2006-12-09 10:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They way the person treats you, the way the person acts around you, in all scenarios, even if the person doesn't say much. If you want a person to really like you, or to approve of you, girl, you're likely in love or close to being in love.
2006-12-09 10:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just know! in previous relationships ive always needed to hear it from the guy that he loved me. my fiance could never say those words to me again and id know! its in a lot of things, the way they look at you , the way they touch you etc. if you have to ask yourself if someone loves you or not then they probably dont truly.
2006-12-09 10:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by serephina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're together for more than a year
2006-12-09 11:21:32 · answer #9 · answered by BassMasta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is true love you will know.
2006-12-09 10:38:01 · answer #10 · answered by George K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋