...you're MUCH more sexual than your wife? My wife and I have had roughly the same number of lovers before we got married, but I have a much more aggressive approach to sex than she does. I think the fact that I watched porn, partied more and had more friends that were less than moral has made me much more perverted or experienced than she is. We've discussed things before, but I'm unsettled, what would you suggest I do about it?
2006-12-09 10:17:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all talk with her, secondly maybe see a sex therapist, if not then take little adventures together, like watch a porn together live out some of your fantasies AND your wife's fantasies! The biggest thing you both need as a couple is communication. As long as the both of you are able to communicate with each other, then anything is possible. It's bad when the both of you stop talking and start finding what you need somewhere else. Oh and the thing about your experience and her "lack" of experience is rubbish, that doesn't make the person. Believe me if she truly trust you and is willing, then she can and will love you like a lion! Best of luck!
2006-12-09 10:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sol 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
think of ways where you could gently initiate her into your sex style, or try to find a happy medium, where you are both satisfied.
she seems not to really be as adventurous as you in the sex department so there's only so much of ways you can go
so you don't have to sit there guessing what to do, maybe write down (yes, actually write it) a list of the things you like to do, as many as you can, then have her do the same. Compare your lists. If there is something on yours she likes or admits she will try, she can add it to her list. If there is something on your list that you are willing to try, add it to your list. Have this stuff out, be ready, so you can do it while it's all still on your minds, like a little game. You guys will both have to try what you said you would try.
Then, next time, remember your lists, and make suggestions from both.
That's a way where she has choice over what she is willing to do, that you like. And both of you have input on it, so nobody should win out over another.
2006-12-09 18:27:16 · answer #2 · answered by bun223 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, if you want to stay married you start satisfying yourself a little more. As time goes on she may come around to wanting to try new things. But don't force it. And by all means don't start the conversation with, "I was watching a porno and the hot chicks did......." Maybe start by asking her what some of the things she would like to try are. The object here to try and get her to relax and be a little more creative in bed. So pleasing her first may work to your benefit.
2006-12-09 18:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by Amy R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people go through that. I am way more sexual than my husband, but we have kinda grown together. I have had more experiences than him and opened his eyes to a few new things! We have been married for 4 years and at first I probably freaked him out at first. Some girls are stuck in their ways. Start her out slow! Dont wonder off looking for a freaky chic! Maybe she has one laying deep with in!
2006-12-09 18:28:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nuthin shes ur wife u have to live with it just ban& her brains out and just move on with ur sexual needs, its not like u can go out and sleep with other woman just enjoy what u guys have between eachother
2006-12-09 18:33:54 · answer #5 · answered by susu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
teach her things let her know what you would like what you enjoy. communicate it to her. so you both can be better lovers. or at least she can come up to meet you where your at.
2006-12-09 20:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
start sharing you weird need to watch porn with your sweet and innocent wife
2006-12-09 18:20:18 · answer #7 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, you both need to compromise. you need to give in a little bit and she needs to put out a little bit.
try buying her sex toys. toys that she can please herself with when you're not around...maybe she will realize what a freak she can be.
2006-12-09 18:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by Jax 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing to worry, every thing wil be allright
2006-12-09 23:06:01 · answer #9 · answered by viju 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, keep talking...maybe you should not have married and settled for one. but you did , so now live with it and talk to her.
2006-12-09 18:21:24 · answer #10 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋