shes pretty young, only 8 yrs older then me............EVERYONE likes her
2006-12-09 10:13:34 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
To love is never wrong.
Get a grip people...she didn't say anything about having sex.
2006-12-09 10:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Love means different things to different people.
Are you sexually attracted to her? Is there something about her personality that attracts you? How well do you know her?
Feelings are never right or wrong...they just exist. It's how you handle those feelings and how you behave regarding them is what matters.
If the question you are asking is if it is wrong to be a Lesbian, the answer is "no". If you are wondering if it would be wrong to pursue some sort of relationship outside the classroom with your teacher the answer is "YES".
Such a thing would be inappropriate while you are still her student and illegal if you were still a minor.
Just enjoy the feelings you have for her and know that in the future you will likely develop similar feelings for others who are more suitable.
2006-12-09 18:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong to love anyone. It can often be wrong to have sex with someone you think you love or even know you love.
In your own words you say "I think I love my teacher." There is a lot already in that love you have, I'm guessing it isn't sexual at this point, yet you describe it as love. Perhaps that love you have now is the appropriate one.
Keep in mind though that even for those who have been around a long time, it's often very hard to tell if you really, truly love someone. Then again there are all sorts of love. Love of mother, love of father, love of siblings, love of friends, love of great authors and poets, love of great music, love for all mankind, etc. Then there also that special love you can have intimately with another person, that is also sexual.
Now clearly, you can't have sexual relationships with everyone you may think you "love", you wouldn't have the time, it would not be wise, you'd probably break-up so many times you'd go bonkers, and you'd miss out or damage the other types of loves, friendships, etc that might otherwise have been so deep and so very rewarding (it also might be hard having to shower 16 times a day and buy a case of condoms every week at Costco).
It is very common for students to love their teachers. They inspire, they care, they teach, they can be living examples of what we'd like to be like. That sort of love, admiration, and trust is very good and healthy. But it's so natural that it can be easily mistaken as a launching point for something more, usually you will be very unhappy if you try to change it into something else.
Most teachers realize the grave responsibility they have with all their students -- yes that is each and every one. They cannot afford to cross certain lines. A teacher should know that they have very soft clay in their hands, which they partly mold, and partly must allow to move in the way that is special to itself, under watchful guidance. A teacher must not simply be your friend, or your spouse, or your lover -- that would be too easy. The teacher must also be a mentor, an example, watchful and caring, yet willing to allow you enough freedom to test the waters and find answers for yourself. She helps you to learn how to formulate the right sort of inciteful questions and then shows you some of the ways to reach the profound answers. He builds your confidence through training and action, through taking on greater and greater problems and overcoming bigger obstacles, helping you to get back up when you fall down, and aiding you back to earth when your head gets so far into the clouds you can no longer breathe. A teacher makes you more human.
There has never been anything wrong with the wish to love. Love is many things: adoration, respect, emulation, trust, assistance, discourse , etc. Sex on the other hand can often be something done without love.
Rolemodels you remember from your youth are often of the same sex as you. They help to make you what you are and you will remain very fond of them for much if not all of your life. That is both natural and good.
It might be best for you to consider how many different kinds of love there are, how each has special pros and cons , and how each allows for certain special moments without baggage, and other moments that are tremendous responsibilities, and how unique each love is as regard to those pros and cons.
Best wishes.
2006-12-09 19:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by LostMyShirt2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no problem in loving another women but I don't think you should go out with your teacher. Its a;right to have a crush on her but I don't think you should let her know. There is this teacher at my school who teaches art and all the guys take the class only because of her lmao....well I still think its ok for you to have a crush on her, there's nothing wrong with that.
I hoped I helped.
Shawna. =)
2006-12-09 18:17:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would say it is not wrong, but I would question your reasons for "loving" her. In what situations have you been in that would qualify your feelings for her as love?
However, even if it really is love, you have another dilemma. Even if she were to reciprocate (that is, love you back), she has an ethical responsibility to be your teacher and not engage in an inappropriate relationship. Never mind the implications of age if you are a minor and she is not.
My suggestion is to admire her from afar but stick to your age group. To prevent from getting hurt, I wouldn't even tell her how you feel.
2006-12-09 18:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by CPT Jack 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is so normal, especially for younger girls, and doesn't necessarily mean that you're gay.
Read the Anne of Green Gables books (LM Montgomery), and you will notice that the girls are so lovey toward each other, or a younger one will have a "crush" on her teacher.
2006-12-09 18:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This type of ctush on an older girl ( especially a teacher ) is perfectly normal. Its also very common. You have no need to worry about it.
2006-12-09 18:21:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, it's wrong. Despite the whole weird homosexual thing, you need to focus on people your own age. You just think you love her because she's nice, funny, and pays attention. It's called being a caring adult. You're just setting yourself up for pain and heartbreak. And, really, find a boy to like.
2006-12-09 18:17:00 · answer #8 · answered by fredtubbs 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes on many different level. Would it be okay for me to be in love with my male teacher that was 8 years older than me? Yes! Yes! Yes!
2006-12-09 18:17:59 · answer #9 · answered by Ryan 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
not its not and I'm not a lesbian but ALOT of my friends are i think that its just fine to love a girl and your teacher but i do think it's a good idea to wait and tell her after you are out of school and she is done being your teacher i support who you are and think that it is just fine and people need to respect you for who you are!!
GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-12-09 18:28:53 · answer #10 · answered by Pom Pon Girl 161377 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'LL MAKE THIS SIMPLE.GOD MAKE ADAM AND EVE
NOT ADAM AND STEVE.try reading mathew 23 and 25
deuteronomy 25 and romans.the human body was never
designed to mate with the same sex.it is no more natural
for the same sex to be attracted to each other than it's natural to have more than one spouse at a time,
please talk to a clergy member about this and most certainly involve your parents.
2006-12-09 18:20:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋