I am in my early 30's. Excellent shape and handsome...I've been told. I often wonder why my wife is not as affectionate as she use to be when we dated and our first years married. I feel like I am only good enough to give us children. How can I become more sexually appealing to my wife for the fun of it as suppose to having sex only when we're "trying to get pregnant"?
2006-12-09 10:03:04 · 9 answers · asked by rosenbrg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I cook I clean and I do comment on her body often ,but i feel like I molest her now because she doesn't respond. This what else I'm bringing to the table.
2006-12-09 10:58:48 · update #1
On one occassion, I threw rose pedals in our hot tub and put on some music for her after work. I had candles. After the dip i took out some women's magazines that I picked up at the cashier stand for her to page through. She loved this but I waited to see where else it would go without me suggesting anything. She was happy and slept with a smile. No sex.WTF?!
2006-12-09 11:02:31 · update #2
I opened this just for the title..how cute :)
Try complimenting your wife...all the time. Tell her she looks good or ask if she's lost weight. If she all of a sudden starts feeling better about herself, she'll feel more sexy and in turm, act more sexual.
2006-12-09 10:08:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her something sexy and leave it on the bed. Get a sitter and make a date with her. Or perhaps you can get a hotel room for a weekend, have the in-laws take the kids. You two can meet up in the bar as if you dont know each other.
Kids can kill any woman's sex drive. They tire you out. Maybe you should give her some time out and get her a spa treatment for the day.
There are different ways you can go about breaking the everyday norm in your relationship and rekindle what once was a fire.
2006-12-09 10:17:14 · answer #2 · answered by triciasdish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it
If you feel like a mule, or like you're just being used to produce more and more kids, talk to her about it.
there might be something wrong. Being pregnant, or having the kids might be like, something she has been made an emotional junkie off of right now. That's not good. Nor is it good for her to really be that, off of you, either. That's not the next best substitute.
I mean, you can dress up and wear cologne and work-out until you're blue in the face, but this problem seems deeper than just your becoming more sexually appealing. You might try first talking about it, but after that, you might wanna hook it up with some marriage counselors, or just some regular counselors.
You won't come across as being pushy though, if you talk about it at home first, with the TV off. And the kids to bed.
2006-12-09 10:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by bun223 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was motivated to have kids. Once she got what she wanted
(marriage,husband,kids, etc) she put sex on low priority. She has what she wants and now doesn't need/want sex. Simply talking to her won't help because attraction doesn't work that way.
You need to "have a life". In other words, if you are boring, you must learn to be fun. Do you do the exact same things every day? If so mix it up, try some new things!! Even if things ultimately don't work out, you will be able to attract a new woman.
2006-12-09 10:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am 27 and my husband is 29 and I feel like that towards my husband, I just want him if he can get me pregnant and you want to know why? Cause we have been married too long to care about what you look like.... what else are you bringing to the table other than your looks? If there is nothing else you can offer then all you are good for is to make babies and work..........and my husband doesn't seem to get it, no matter how much I tell him, it doesn't get into his little head and it is going to get to the point where I am really tired of him and will just pick up and leave with my 2 kids.
2006-12-09 10:11:55 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well to any female men are an important factor in our lives, but most men like the same things when they get older, unlike any women in love witha male were willing to try new things. So make sure you say things that you wouldn't normally and set up romantic things to get her in the mood( girls love that). And offer her sexual activity, maybe she is scared to ask!
2006-12-09 10:15:06 · answer #6 · answered by XxSnowboardBabexX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her feel sexy. Romance her as if you were just starting to date her. Alot of women stop feeling sexy after they've had chidren. So they need to be re-assured they are as sexy now as the day you were married. Make her feel special and appreciated for what she has done. Remember, you do everything to keep her happy, and she'll make you happy, too, if you know what I mean.
2006-12-09 10:26:30 · answer #7 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know but i think it is sexy that you are trying to be sexy! Let her read this question and she might feel the same way!
good luck!
2006-12-09 10:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by kmiller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be wild. Be romantic and take her out, present gifts...
2006-12-09 14:50:25 · answer #9 · answered by viju 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋