how do i tell my mom that i'm pregnant?

Question

i'm 19 and a few weeks ago i found out that i'm pregnant. i'm really scared to tell my parents but especially my mom. i don't want them to think that i'm like most teenagers and have been having sex all the time. it was just this one time and i really love my bf we've been together for 3 years. i think thats pretty good. he already knows that i'm pregnant and hes actually excited. i think he may even marry me so yeah he's a good guy. but i know my parents are going to yell at me and make me feel like trash.. i men yeah i'm disappointed in myself too but i can't change what i did i can only try to make things better. how can i help them accept it and not disown me?

Answer 1

Difficult situation, huh? Well congrats on the pregnancy and listen to me when I say the 'rents may give you hell now while you're still pregnant, but once the baby comes-I bet you 10-1 that they'll get over it. Most grandparents are wusses when they see their granchild....trust me.

Answer 2

i was 19 when i fell pregnant, i was so scared of telling my mum coz she was always saying that i should wait till i was settled in a career and married then have kids.
i live in a different state, so i told her over the phone. she didn't say much, and we didn't talk for a week or so. that made me feel really hurt and upset but i had been with my man for 4 years at that stage and we were living together, and it wasn't like i was 16 or younger.

in the end she came around and basically bought everything for the baby and now she is the proudest grandma and our relationship is closer than ever.

just tell her the truth, and that you would really like her support on this and not a lecture. im sure you will be fine.

good luck with this and the baby.

Answer 3

I am 19 to and pregnant. It sounds like I am jst like you. I have been with my bf for 5 1'2 years and we are going to get married in a month or so. I have to drop out of school though (college). I was so scared to tell my parents but it has to be done. I told my mom right away and I told my dad a couple days later. It was very hard, but I just came out and said it. "Mom, I have to tell you something." " I am pregnant." She asked some questions as she cried and we cried together, but we got through it and now I am 21 weeks and my preants are dealing with it. That is all they can do. They are not going to pay for my college anymore, but I can bring the baby over and stuff al least. Just tell her asap, because the longer you wait, the harder it will be for her. Think of it as: if you tell her earlier, then she will have more time before the baby is born to come to turms with it. She also will know that you were not tring to hide it. Good Luck and you will be ok. We can make it. God Bless you, your baby, and your relationship between your bf and you, also your mother.

Answer 4

Mary,

It's a hard sell. Problem is that parents spend a lot of time trying to make sure their kids don't make mistakes. Parents also have the personna that they know best.

Best advice I can offer is find a quiet place to sit down with your mom and possibly a day when no one else is home. Tell her how much you love her and just give her the news. Sometimes it helps to go to an Aunt first for support. Your mother will trust your your Aunt's opinions. Good Luck.

Answer 5

well everybodys family is different . i know when i told my mom she said back to me i know you are she knew before i did. and mine was my grandparents i was terrified to tell them because they have in the past disowned my mom. but when the time came to tell them they were very happy for me and my family. so it all depends and maybe at first they might get mad but in the end they will come around. if you have been with this guy for three years i think all will be fine especially if he is happy about it cause most parents are just scared for their child's sake. scared that the guy might run off and not take responsibility. but just take it as it come let them know you never know they might be happy right off the bat too. just tell them its the best thing you could do. and like my second child my mom looked at me yet again and said are you pregnant i said no I'm only like a week late and sure enough i went to the Dr the next day and the test came back positive. so hey you never know your mom might already know.

Answer 6

If you are thinking about getting married because you love eachother, then go ahead and do it. But if you are only thinking of getting married because you are pregnant, that is the wrong reason. If you guys decide its time to get married. Tell your parents both at the same time, they'll feel a lot better about it. Don't let your parents verbally or emotionally abuse you. Tell them, I'm in love. I'm so excited that I'm having this baby. I know I'm young and this was unplanned, but I'm so happy that this baby has so many people to love in this world. I know we're all going to love him or her so much. This is a great miracle and a big surprise.

Answer 7

Ok I know exactly how you feel!!!! I had my first baby when I was 16 and I waited for 2 months before my Mom found out...And she heard it through the grapevine. So my advice is that the sooner that you tell your parents the better. Trust me you will feel better and be able to talk to you Mom about the things going on with your mind and body. I know that you are scared but you may be surprised about the reaction that you get.

Answer 8

I got pregnant at 19 also, my parents were disappointed but they did not dis own me ; because I was 19 (an adult). Just tell them that you realize what has happened, and ask your mom to help you understand what to expect during your pregnancy. My mom helped me through mine, I don't know what I would have done without her through my pregnancy. Have your bf with you when you tell them if you feel comfortable with that idea ; maybe he tell them how he is going to help you. -Good luck -hope this helps

Answer 9

hi hun. i was in a similar position when i got pregnant. i was 19 when i got pregnant.

me and my partner decided we wanted a baby so we started trying but never told anyone apart form my friends. when i got pregnant i didnt know how to tell my mum so i text her. i know lame way of telling her but suprisingly she was ok with it and now that my daughter is here she adores her so much.

i'm sure if you tell your mum what you have told us i'm sure she'll be ok.

you will be 20 soon so no longer classed as a teen and you have been with your partner for 3 years. so i'm sure your parents know that you both are in a loving relationship and are ready to be parents.

good luck and i wish you all the best for the future.

Answer 10

if your 19, theres nothing your parents could really do, your a adult, and youve made up your mind that this is what you want, you bf is a great guy who will take care of both of you and your child, i am also 19, this happened to me when i was only 17,so i know that you will raise this child with love, and if your parents cant except that, then its there bad.do what you want to do,and when you wake in the morning, with or with out a baby by your side,you've made the right choice, tell your parents that this is what you want and go with it, tell them to give you a chance, after all, they are your parents, and they love you