i like stay with my mom and i want to move in with her because i get depressed at my house and one of my friends told me she didnt want me to because she will miss me but she does because im depressed and im happier there well that means i have to go to court anothe reason i want to is because i need to get to know her side of the family so i guess the real question is should i take my dad to court or wait 3 years and go when im 18. sometimes i think i cant wait 3 years please help.
2006-12-09 09:54:51 · 4 answers · asked by eaw_mkj 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
There is no magic age, when kids get to say which parent has custody- only parents and the court can change the way your parenting time and custody are set up- but your feelings should be considered. Custody is decided by a court weighing a lot of factors, to decide which household is going to be best for you, not just which parent makes you happier at the time.
You need to think about a few things: first, if you're really depressed, maybe you're going to be depressed there, too; secondly, is there a chance that you have more fun at your mom's house just because you don't have the same responsibilities there (ie. chores, school, and homework)? As someone with divorced parents, I know it's easy to look at your situation and think that it would be better if you lived with the other parent, but that's not really how it works out all the time- it's hard to be 15, no matter where you live, and school is school. Trust me, your mom's school is not going to be six flags, either ;)
Talk to your dad about this. If something is really bothering you, I'm sure he wants to know. Parents really do want you to be happy, but even more, they want what is best for you. I guess I've just seen too many things not work out the way I thought they would, so if I were in your shoes, I would try work things out at home before jumping into a new situation.
2006-12-10 19:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by Fanafofana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age Fourteen You Decide Where You Want To Live. Go For Court, If You Feel Safer And Happier Wth Your Mom. But Talk To Her About It First.
2006-12-09 10:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by LanaLyn15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your dad, its very common when a mother has custody of a son to allow the son to go with his father when he is in High School.....they need to bond and learn that manly stuff. The reverse is true of girls too, right now you need your mom and you need to get to know her better. Why not ask your dad to allow you to try it for awhile and see if you all see improvment in your depression. Its worth a try and if not you can go back to court. At your age its likely you will be allowed to choose which parent you want to live with. Your dad has had you for awhile now, its time to let mom have you too. Good luck hun.
2006-12-09 09:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually at 14 you can decide who you live with. If that is what you are asking. I would talk to both of your parents and see what can be worked out. Good luck
BTW... not to be rude but your question was difficult to read due to no punctuation, etc. Please try to make them clearer if you want people to understand you.
2006-12-09 09:57:33 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋