There is something wrong with me. I know I need to get out of my relationship. It is bad and its making me a bad person. There is some though little physical abuse. I'm scared to. I live in Orlando, have no family and not many friends due to me letting him have me reserved. I'm scared of not making it on my financially also. I don't know safe apartments to go to and it is exensive here. How do you give advice to someone like me?
2006-12-09 09:31:41 · 6 answers · asked by wondering 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It seems your a very strong person, to be going through this. You should consider researching where the closest womens shelter is, this could just be temporary. Consider the one below. You dont need to continue in this abusive relationship.
I commend you, and respect you, it seems like you are really strong, as I said. I wish you the best of luck, and hope you take my advice.
Remember, you are your own person.
Shelter for Abused Women and Children Hotline number: (239)775-1101 PO Box 10102 ... Orlando, FL 32868-0748 Administration: (407)886-2244 FAX: (407)886-0006 ...
www.fcadv.org/centers.html
2006-12-09 09:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by tinax3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey dont be scared you can do this. ask what friends you do have for help. If you do not have a job, get one. If you have one start saving your money for your get away. Do not tell him of your plans but start making them right now. You do not know where it is safe to live. Ask your friends what they think is a safe place in your area. Travel around and check out some neighborhoods and see where you feel comfortable. Everyone is scared so join the club. You will be surprised what you can do when you have to. Just trust in yourself and keep telling yourself that you can do this even if you don't believe it right now. Look in the phone book or check at the community board to locate women's services agencies. It might take a little searching but there are resources out there. Mainly you willhave to change your attitude to one that says you can take care of yourself. If you do not yet have any children with this man, good and for pete's sake do not get pregnant or you really will feel trapped. Now Say strong prayers, do your homework, make your plans, keep your mouth shut and set a date to get away. It is not so bad to be alone but it way way better to be alone than to be used and abused. Do not wait for the abuse to become a regular thing, you do know that is will get worse don't you? Get away now and as soon as you possibly can. Good Luck and God Bless
2006-12-09 17:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I imagine that you are also depressed along with evrything else. The first thing I had to do was get medical help for that along with prayer. Once I was better than I could see the only obvious. Professional people will not tell you to leave but help you see the consequences such as ... if you stay now that you are better make sure that you dont lose yourself again. And as been mentioned ... it is amazing what you can do when you have it. Then get those job applications in.. also, at the same time housing applications. Some places run on a sliding scale. check it out.
2006-12-09 18:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by carole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run, don't walk, to the nearest domestic violence shelter. I am sure that you could find one in your local phone book or call the police and ask for their assistance in relocating. The people that run the shelter will be able to help you find an apartment, look for a job and in general, become independant of your relationship. You cannot have anymore contact with this man. If you are truly serious about breaking away from him, you have to walk away and never, ever look back. Do not be afraid of not making it financially, that's why there is assistance through the government and that's why people like me pay taxes, to help people like you who need it. I think in just a few short months you will be living free and doing well. Good luck.
2006-12-09 17:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people have to hit the bottom before they really make a change. You might be one of these people. If not, then there's something inside of you telling you that it WILL be okay if you leave. A still small voice reassuring you that while in the fear of the unknown future and while being all alone, that things will still work out okay. The question might be: will you trust that voice or just ignore it?
2006-12-09 17:38:27 · answer #5 · answered by Denny L. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a police station and ask about safehouses for women trying to escape abusive relationships. most places have them.
2006-12-09 17:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋