My boyfriend of 5 years within the last year has started calling me names when we fight. The one that I hate the most is the C word. Can he still love me and call me this when we fight?
2006-12-09 09:19:59 · 20 answers · asked by wondering 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To me, a guy, the C Word is by far the worst thing to call a woman. So, this is totally disrespectful in my opinion.
If, by the way, you are still "boyfriend and girlfriend" after 5 years, then this relationship has bottomed out. Perhaps this is how he feels too.
2006-12-09 09:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by Abby O'Normal 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if u feel as if u are getting abused, and being disrespected, than get out of the relationship, just gets worse. no he can't still love u and call u those names. the c word, shows total disrespect, and no one needs tp live in that kind of enviornment.will turn into physical abuse later on. he doesn't know how to handle a disagreement, and u can tell a man's true character when they are under stress, or going through a conflict.
2006-12-09 18:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are a few words which thrown into the mix cannot be taken back.
Next time he uses the C word tell him your other lovers were bigger and that he's a lousy lover compared to them. It won't cure anything but after he's moved on you can find someone a bit more respectful.
You may consider giving him the list of names, which when used will indicate that he no longer has a relationship with you.
2006-12-09 17:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All the while you are in a relationship, you will be pushing boundaries.
If at any point you think one, or the other, has over stepped these boundaries, you have to voice it.
The word, I think you mean, is unacceptable at any time.
You have to tell him. Before it becomes a habit and is acceptable.
It is the one word my mrs absolutely hates and recoils when ever she hears it. I never use it.
2006-12-09 17:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by Moorglademover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no. Do NOT continue to be involved with someone who calls you names like that. Run for your life. This is only the beginning of what he will put you through.
2006-12-09 17:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't call you names at all that is called mental abuse and he can get into alot of trouble for that. I can't say he doesn't love you but if he does he shouldn't be calling you any names at all, and he really needs to stop calling you names.
2006-12-09 17:27:44 · answer #6 · answered by mommys_girl1234 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not right that he should use demeaning names with you. I had a girlfriend who asked me to call her some of those names, but that was in the bedroom.
2006-12-09 17:24:39 · answer #7 · answered by incubus760 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Name calling is pure crap. My wife and a girfriend I had before her started to get that way when we fought. I would not disrespect them, but when they did it to me I told them I would be gone in the wind. I was serious, I would have dumped them and was prepared to do so at the time of those conversations. The disrespect ended. Bottom line is you can't put up with disrespect from your partner. Period! You may have to dump him if he refuses to change.
2006-12-09 17:50:57 · answer #8 · answered by B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to stop calling you that word if you hate it so much. I suspect however there's a bit of resentment in his heart if he keeps doing this. What the heart feels comes out in words when we're not on guard about ourselves.
2006-12-09 17:26:53 · answer #9 · answered by tagara 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's abusive to call names. Stuff like this tends to get worse, not better.
2006-12-09 23:12:32 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋