My girlfriend has let me know that even though she loves me, she is not in love with me. We have broken up several times but she continues to want to have sex and be together but with no relashionship commitment. I for one would like to devote more time in a relashionship that will take us both forward in life. she on the other hand wants to hang out with her friends and party most of the time. We lived together for a bit but I saw her less then than I do now. she is very affectionate to me when were together and she does work 3 jobs. i work 1 and make the same money. I think that she needs to focus her life into a more productive path but I won't say anything till I'm sure. here friend do drink an "smoke" all the time, I don't mind but not all the time for me. HELP!
2006-12-09 09:19:37 · 5 answers · asked by lumendelsol 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The word Love in the English language has multiple meanings. It is a shame that this tends to cause so much confusion.
What your girlfriend is trying to communicate is that she does have feelings of affection (love) for you, but is not romantically attracted to you (in love). She settles for sex as physical release instead of as an expression of hard felt emotion (or passion).
Being affectionate is not feeling love. A dog can feel affection as well as loyalty. Your relationship is complex, but it sound like she is looking for the "bigger and better deal" while you are "willing to settle for what you know" instead of taking a risk with someone who might actually love you.
Love and Romance are not the same. Romance always fade. Love does not. The reason why so many people are willing to believe that True Love is a myth is because most tend to settle for Romance and never experience Love.
The choice is yours.
2006-12-11 06:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by Richard 7 · 86⤊ 6⤋
Get rid of her! I dont mean to sound harsh, but you are not seeing eye to eye. Though you may have feelings for her, she is taking advantage of the fact that she can do whatever she wants and you will still be there for her. I have definitely been in your shoes. It hurts- I know, It is hard- I know, nobody understands exactly what you have- I know. Honestly a lot of people have been in your shoes, 10 out of 10 will say the same. You need to move on. That doesnt mean you need to be mean, call her names, or hurt her. You just need to do good for yourself. If she is still around, you cannot grow. Good luck! You will find someone who appreciates you as you do them.
2006-12-11 17:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by Shmesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you 2 want totally different things. I really don't think this is gonna work out in the long run.
Loving someone is different than being IN LOVE with someone. I can love someone enough to love them as a friend and care about them still. But being IN LOVE with someone is seeing your life with them and never letting them go. I take that as a more commitment type love. Not just the "Oh I care about you" love.
2006-12-09 17:30:15 · answer #3 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very hard position to be in. Been there done that. You deserve more. Please don't settle, you won't be happy in the long run. There is someone out there who will love you, like you are wanting to love her. Hope that helps but I understand it is a hard decision when you are wanting to be with her. Good Luck.
2006-12-11 14:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by Fetup 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might be a short answer but sometimes you have to ask if you're content. If you're not - move on! Life is cruel and life is confusing and life is beautiful. Choose one!
2006-12-11 18:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋