I see these questions posted on here and was curious myself. I weighed 115 at 5' 3" when we married in 97 and now I am 175. So 10 years later, yup, I am fat cow.
Working on losing the weight, but can weight be a big issue for sex drive? Are all men caught up with appearance? Just windering.
2006-12-09 09:18:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not all men are sorry like that.My husband isn't. He treats me the same no matter what my weight is.When I met my husband I had an hour glass figure that made barbie look like a boy by comparison. But then I gained weight about 60 pounds within the first year of our relationship.No I am not a piggy or anything I had an eating disorder I would binge eat when I was under stress and about 5 months into our relationship I had a tramatic experience that caused me to relapse into my old ways.Over the years I have lost weight here and there but never went back to the size I was when we met.I am trying to get back down to a healthy weight but it is hard.In the past 16 years since I originally gained the weight back.My husband has never said a word to me about my weight.He tells me all the time how much he loves me and how attractive I am.We have an excelent sex life and my weight has never been a factor.Personally I think if a man really loves you he would love you no matter what.Maybe the men whom do have a problem with their wifes weight is only using it has an excuse because the truth is they don't like themselves and are taking it out on their wifes.My husband is very secure within him self. But ofcourse there isn't any reason for him not to be.He is 6' ,Blonde hair with green eyes and a very hot body.But I guess that it is the fact that he is comfortable with himself that allows him to be compfortable with me.Also you shouldn't call yourself a cow. You should have confindence within yourself.Confidense is sexy .
2006-12-09 15:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Men are attracted to things that appear hot to them. It's practically instant, and that's how we work. You are going to have to lose some weight. Probably not as much as your 10 ago weight but a signifigant amount of weight. Then you get some new clothes and fix your self up more often and he should start climbing all over you again.
2006-12-09 09:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, when you become fat, you could become less attractive sexually. Secondly, the mechanics of having sex can be difficult, because of the big tummy, big hips and big thighs.
The best diet of all: Eat everything you are eating now. But only eat half of it. Only drink diet sodas. No cookies and candies. Cakes and pies: Take just one teaspoon and put it in your mouth for 5-10 minutes. This should satisfy your taste buds.
2006-12-09 10:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by kenneth h 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not all of them.
for some men, it's just that they get tired of the same thing over and over again. It's like eating Hamburger every day for years. After awhile, you just roll your eyes everytime you see a hamburger... but then a nice chicken sandwich comes walking by and you're like "Damn.... I'd like to sink my teeth into that one... nice juicy breasts...." and the hamburger doesn't look as appealing anymore, BUT the hamburger is still very good and would be appealing to someone who only gets to eat Chicken all the time. See what I'm saying? Men need variety sometimes.
2006-12-09 09:25:48 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wives getting fat is the greatest fear of men to get married or have a long-term girlfriend. Being fat is gross.
2014-10-24 19:27:39 · answer #5 · answered by starfishman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your beinghard on yourself i think after 10 yrs your stuck in rut life moves faster especially after having kids and nothing new more like bored worked each other out if you only do it say in bed or same position hey presto boredom sets in hey eat steak every day for 10 yrs i think yoou be bored
2006-12-09 09:26:37 · answer #6 · answered by ariesfunram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter but i believe it does. Besides he should have married you for who you are and not what you look like. But that isn't always the case either.
2006-12-09 09:26:19 · answer #7 · answered by Sue B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm tempted to say how awful, it shouldn't matter . . . but then I think for myself, if my partner gained 60 pounds would I care? Yes, I would.
2006-12-09 09:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think appearance matters alot.... i have been in a relationship for 4 yrs and my Boyfriend honestly encourages me to 'look good' and take care of my body so that he can feel aroused....its psychological with men !! even i have to 'dress nicely' everyday - although he ocasionally looks crap !!
2006-12-09 09:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by In Search... 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not all but most.
It goes both ways though.
2006-12-09 09:35:37 · answer #10 · answered by Flagger 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋