I have been divorced for 10 years and my ex and I have a daughter together who is now 15. She and he are not very close and I was always wondering whether I should be the one to purchase gifts for birthdays, Christmas, for my ex's mother, or should he? I realize that this is my daughters Grandmother but I was just not sure of the etiquette. We live in a different state so it is not like she even sees her grandmother that much. Her grandmother does send her Christmas and Birthday gifts. Should I continue to purchase the Christmas gifts or should this be her father's responsibility. By the way.....the father does not buy our daughter anything for her birthday or Christmas.
2006-12-09 09:16:00 · 7 answers · asked by jeanac44 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your daughter is old enough to decide whether she wants to send her grandmother gifts. If she does, it would be sweet of you to help her pay for them if she doesn't have money of her own. ... But, at her age, the gifts should be from her, not from you. Let her be responsible for picking them out and mailing them.
Since your ex doesn't even bother to send his own daughter gifts, I certainly wouldn't expect any help from him.
And, btw, I think you're lovely for helping your daughter maintain her relationship with her grandma.
2006-12-09 09:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by some chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are to be commended for being so much more adult than your ex. Yes, since you have established the pattern of being the one who recognizes Grandma, please don't cut the old lady off now - that'd just be cruel. She's not responsble for how her son acts, and I'm sure she cares about her grandchild. Think, too, of the example you're setting for your daughter. Would you prefer her to grow up cold and abrupt or kind and caring? She need not be so kind and caring as to put herself in harm's way, but we've enough ice princesses in the world. One should always encourage one's children to respond to a gift with the appropriate thanks, as in a hand-written note or a personal phone call. For youngsters, the written note is often much easier, and believe me - Grandma will very, very much appreciate it!
2006-12-09 09:31:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give her something small from your daughter as a symbol of respect. Nothing major. This is not a gift from her father and her, be sure the card is from you and her or her only. Shame on her Dad, what a jerk!!!
2006-12-09 09:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by justcurious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget the father. He's not worth it.
Keep the grandmother happy. She does care for your daughter.
2006-12-09 09:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by wisdom tooth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your daughters needs to buy grandma presents so too keep family bond as this is important as grandma wants to be part of your family and if she good to you include yourself in the present giving as your daughter deserve s to have her in family forget the father doing it as hes a loser
2006-12-09 09:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by ariesfunram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice if you bought your ex mother-in-law a gift. And just because you want to.
2006-12-09 09:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably doesn't buy his mother anything either.....so if she sends to your daughter, and you can afford it, she probably likes getting little gifts from her grandaughter..
2006-12-09 09:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by celeste_moon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋