How do you get your husband interested in sex?

Question

He has a very low sex drive and I don't....how do you handle the conflict....I'm affectionately starved...we've talked about it and it gets better then he goes back to his usual...should i have to remind him to pay attention to me??

Answer 1

Don't give him a choice. Dominate him. Use him for your pleasure, and find out what makes him tick. As for a low sex drive, place a cb-2000 on him. After a few weeks of not being able to orgasm on his own, he'll be begging to please you.

Answer 2

You mention that you want to get your husband interested in sex but then you say you are "...affectionately starved..." and you want him to "...pay more attention..." to you. It sounds like you are equating sex with intimacy and affection, so let's clear that up first. You can have the latter two without the first, but you'd be missing out on experiencing a special part of your relationship. And to have the first without the last two is just a one-night-stand. So, let's assume you want all three. First, find out what your husband love sign is. (No, not zodiac stuff!) Does he like to be touched? Then rub cocoa butter or shea butter his shoulders or his feet. Is he visual? Find some sexy (but tasteful) pictures or videos you can share. Does he like sexy/naughty talk? Read to him from a trashy novel or magazine. Plan a "date" night and go out together the way you did before you got married. Don't even discuss how the date will end; enjoy the anticipation. Are you sure he has a low sex drive? Maybe he's a morning person and you sparkle at night. Maybe he's bored. Not with you, but with what you do together. Consider moving the action from the bedroom to the living room floor, the kitchen counter top, the washing machine (don't laugh!) Finally, have fun. Don't take sex too seriously. Woody Allen once said sex was the most fun he ever had without laughing. Good luck!

Answer 3

This is how he has always been with you, but you made the choice to stay with him. It's not true when he says "most people are like this." That's just his way of deflecting the problem. Although some people may suggest he's cheating or even gay, there's also a possibility that he really has a low sex drive. Many men love to have sex, but there are some nuts and berries that simply don't. Does he watch porn? Does he masturbate? You need to know if his sexual energy is being directed elsewhere or if he simply doesn't have any. Does he take any types of medications such as anti-depressants? There are many things that can contribute to a low sex drive, even stress. Find out the "why" part of it first. He can at least try to please you other ways as well, you guys need to talk about what your needs are and come up with what he's willing to do to contribute.

Answer 4

This is a tough question. If you press your husband, he will likely begin to feel sexually inadequate which may make this problem worse. You might try to discover if there is some valid reason he has a low sex drive. Proper rest, good nutrition, and exercise are all essential to being able to perform sexually. But back to your question -- should you have to remind him? Well, in a perfect world, no. But this isn't a perfect world. If reminding him gets you what you want then do it. But if reminding him only makes things worse, then a reminder might be more like a nag. And your other question... How to get a husband interested in sex... Women have different triggers than men do. Women like candlelight dinners and walks on the beach and holding hands and talking and so on. Some men like these things but most men are visual and don't take much convincing. Of course, this might be a power grab on his part. You want it, he withholds, he's in control. I'm hearing this more and more from female friends in their 30's and 40's. So after all this typing, I think my answer is to enter into counseling with him and talk about it with a good couples counselor. Somebody who is familiar with the Gottman method might be best. Best of luck to you. Sounds frustrating!

Answer 5

Dress sexy like your going out , but then ask him to follow you in to the bed room sit down and close his eyes then floor him by pulling a domanatix move and push him back and take his pants off and caress his peinus and talk suducctivly, then make love to his cock with your mouth, tell him you want to try some thing new and kinky ,a new possition ,roll playing ,more for play, sexy filthy,kiky,raw *******!!!!!!!!!!!!!! or ask him what his secreat sex fanticy is and make it come true!!!!!!!! or just slip him a mikki and then h'll do just about any thing you tell him to do , buck up and tell him to learn his roll as a man and satisfiy his wife ,take care of your kneeds , so you wont want to find some one else to do it for him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!what he dosenmt know wont hurt you!! take care of # 1 you!! if he isent fully providing, then find you a side job, a **** and chuck!!!!!!!!!!! hope this might spark your sex life up!

Answer 6

That sounds just like my marriage, and now I'm divorced. When somebody's libido is that different than yours, you either need to accept that your sex life will be less than wonderful, or you need to find somebody who has a similar sex drive as you. I felt that it was me...was I gaining weight? Why wasn't I sexy enough? It turns out, it was him. Now I am with a man who thinks I am the sexiest woman alive and wants to have sex with me all the time.

Answer 7

I bet he is older than you right? I have similar issue. I have thought about having an affair, but not worth my guilt. I doubt hubby would care, but I would.

Just fanatize and let that be it. If hubby cannot perform, then tell him, if he still can't, then ask him to take some Viagra.

If he still doesnt want to, then he is gay. Look on his computer and see if he is looking at internet porn.

Answer 8

I flirt with my husband a lot.I send him sexy text messages,e-mails that sort of stuff.Then again sometimes all I have to do is walk up to him and flash my 42 DD breasts at him.These things have worked for me for the past 16 years.Maybe flirting with your husband will work for you too?Best of luck to you.

Answer 9

sounds like some counseling is in order, or buy yourself some new toys.

There's more to this story than you know...drugs, another woman, possibly he is gay....a lot of options, but unless he's old, there is something wrong.

Answer 10

Do housework in the buff...or give him BJ's while he's watching football..

I would also suggest marriage counseling, because it sounds like hubby may have some issues.