Were you bullied at school?

Question

How did it affect your life?

Answer 1

Yes.
It made me paraniod, I had no self esteem, I had depression, anxiety, etc...though it made me more sensitive and empathic.
and it was the major point where i realized that I should do taekwondo.

Answer 2

I think everyone gets bullied at one point or another. Some more than others. It just depends on how the person handles it. In the end, I just wouldn't put up with that kind of crap. One has to learn to put their foot down, they learn to do that once they've built confidence. I don't like to see other people being humiliated either, so I will speak up for someone who isn't being treated properly. When I was in highscool I would try to help these people who get bullied build their confidence. When I was younger I was really shy, so it was harder to put my foot down and say "NO!", so I got teased because I was too shy to defend myself. I wasn't bullied too much in school so it didn't affect me psycologicaly, but I knew what it felt like to be teased for being different so it made it easier for me to step in and say something on the bullied persons behalf. The thing is, one can't always be there to protect the bullied, so they have to learn to speak up for themselves. The best way I found to help build confidence in a person was to take the time to get to know them and to be there for them if they needed someone to talk to. I would give them tips on what to say if they were teased and I would be there for them for moral support. I just blocked the bullies out like they were nobodies and eventually they faded.

Answer 3

It taught me how to avoid negative non-productive people with no life and waste their time bullying other people. It also taught me how insecure they were, especially when I gave them a black eye or a bloody lip. These tactics were necessary to learn as well. For they had a limited vocabulary and they started pushing and they drew first blood, but he who laughed last laughed best. And I never had a problem with that nonsense again. Geeks are not all wimps.
Yep it taught me self-defense as well, and certainly school was the best place to learn that instead of the street, because there were reprisals but I learned.

Answer 4

I was on both ends of that coin at one time or another.

I was first bullied... badly too! Probably more so than most and in horrible ways too by people that should have known better.

I then, in turn, out of hurt and error BECAME a bully in trying to get my power and self respect back through taking it from others in the same ways it was taken from me. (not ALL of the same ways but many)

then... I realized that this way of treating people, hurt me even worse because it is not in my nature to hurt people with no reason. I went about raging and screaming and hurting people verbally and physically for years! It was never in my nature to behave like that so It killed me inside. It lead to drugs, psychological trauma... loads of bigger problems.

I realized after years of it, that was not the way to go about making myself feel better and that most people are not spiritually able to see beyond how you treat them to understand that however someone treats you, is how they themselves were first treated by someone else.

That is what Christ meant when he said "Judge not lest ye BE judged." and "Turn the other cheek." If someone is bullying you, it is because they are trying to make you understand how they feel inside themselves and compassion and right action is the ONLY solution that works. Most people will never learn that and it is sad!

I gained self confidence on my own, I learned what no one else was going to ever just sit and tell me out of the blue. That I am valuable, and worthy of love and kindness and respect.

"You teach people how to treat you." Someone taught me that and I never ever forgot it!

I decided on my own to always be honest... That way, if it hurts you, it is only because it is true, not because I made it hurt.

Answer 5

The bullies never really paid any attention to me.,,except a couple of times. I couldn't understand why, but a couple of times someone just walked up to me and asked if I wanted to fight. It seemed so unreasonable to me that I just stood there for a while. On both occasions someone jumped in and told the guy, "If you want to fight, fight me." There always seemed to be the type who bullies just enjoyed bugging. I was always low-key and I never drew attention to myself. I had a few good friends, and that was enough.

Answer 6

Well, I was suicidal because of it for many years(Jr High), and then in High School senior year the biggest bully was in a really bad jam and I stood up for her, not because of her, but because I thought the situation was wrong...she thanked me for it, and my satisfaction was being able to say, "I didn't do it for you" and that released me..
I also became a knockout that year, and 30 yrs later I still am and she looks like a bald fat man..
(she used to beat me up and nobody ever believed me)

Thanx to those awful horrible girls, I am one of the greatest people I know..

The best revenge; Living Well.

Answer 7

When I was in elementary, yes, but the older I got I learned that bullies are cowards and when you stand up to them they then want to be your friend.

Answer 8

In elemetry school I was. I told my mom once, and she called my teacher, and the kid never bothered me after that.

Thats really tattle tale-ish though...

But, once i got to Jr. High, i had a big circle of friends and people left us alone.

It was tough... I still think about it sometimes...

But, now i have a wonderful boyfriend and he makes me feel better about myself then i ever have.

Anyways... (hey, you asked!! :) )

Answer 9

Yes, I was--until I began defending myself with my fists or whatever. I never initiated force, but I soon got the reputation as one who wouldn't take any guff.

Answer 10

yes, I still want to look for the guy that bullied me and kick his A*****