For my 10th wedding anniversary gift my wife gave me some sexy nude fine art type pictures. Very out of chracter for her, but I really loved them. However, she later told me the photographer was male. That makes me a little uncomfortable, should I be?
2006-12-09 08:52:40 · 11 answers · asked by SMack 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would be upset. I'm a female, so I'm assuming that it wasn't as sexually arousing as it would be for a man to be photopraphing a naked woman...but I'm watching a man staring at my naked body no matter how professional...would be stimulating...
Have you asked her about her feelings on this subject? I would tell her that although it was very erotic and exciting to receive the pictures, You question why she would agree to having a male photographer.
2006-12-09 09:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by sincerelysarah117 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be, but I have standards not everyone has. I would let her know that it makes you feel uncomfortable that she posed sexy - naked - in front of a total stranger-a man-especially when it is so out of her character.
You may find though, that she is going through a phase where she wants to get closer in her relationship with YOU and was trying to come up with some clever way to do so and just wasn't thinking. She may feel your relationship needed something to rev it up. Be gentle when you let her know and find her motivation. Maybe suggest she use a female photographer next time. ( you win both ways if there is a next time HA!)
2006-12-09 17:03:18 · answer #2 · answered by jamocha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont be too upset she had themdone for you had shedone the pics and said nothing and you found pics then ok you be right to be upsetbut not the case as she knows she be caught wich would then make her dumb so she was honest nothing went on she may have picked him coz he was agreat photographer and felt comftorbale with him also he could be gay and so even more not to worry hey enjoy the photos im upset coz i cant see photos
2006-12-09 17:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by ariesfunram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may be jealous but know she meant no harm.the photographer was a professional.and the gift is from her heart.i have even thought about doing this.also if you look at playboy or anything like that,she thought maybe you should look at her while you masturbate for a change.
2006-12-09 17:01:14 · answer #4 · answered by sweetj063 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not be upset. She had the pictures taken for YOU, and she had to take her clothes off in front of someone else to do it, which takes a lot of courage. She must love you an awful lot.
2006-12-09 16:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have anything to worry about so don't make her fell like she was wrong she was honest with you and I'm it will bring you closer if you don't show any insecurities toward this gift
2006-12-09 17:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by Eric c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i take it the pic's were of your wife then???
maybe a little upset....but I would imagine, she thought you'd really like the pic's...which you've said you do. So don't stress over it a whole lot.
2006-12-09 16:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by celeste_moon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should be. I would have been had she NOT told me he was male and then I found out.
2006-12-09 16:56:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be a little uncomfortable. If I were you I would speak to her about it.
2006-12-09 16:57:14 · answer #9 · answered by Webballs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so they were pictures of her......
Its done....Its over.....and she did it as a gift.....
Unless you thinks there's more.....let it go.
me myself....couldn't do it....too shy....
Best wishes
2006-12-09 17:09:41 · answer #10 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋