Hi. I am a 15 year old female, and im very scared/worried. My boyfriend and i engaged in unprotected sex 4 weeks ago. I am aware it was a STUPID decision..we were caught up in the moment and not really thinking. Well, He was only in for a little while, and i made him pull out at the first sign of "getting the feeling," although he wasn't even close. After that, i gave him oral sex for at least 10 minutes, until he came. I was wondering, what are the chances of me being pregnant? I know i can trust him, and he swears up and down that he wasn't even close, and i even brought up the subject of pre-*** to him. I also mentioned how i read that if the male hasn't urinated since the last ejaculation, leftover sperm could be pushed through the urethra. He says he CAN feel it happen, that it happened while i was giving him oral sex, and that he urinated that morning. (We had sex at about 9:00am.)I've been having stomach pains, but they're not only in my stomach, i also get them in my chest and back, and my ribs are sore, so im not sure if that is a symptom of pregnancy. I'm just VERY scared that i could possibly get pregnant. I forgot to mention that i was on the last or second to last day of my period.
My boyfriend and his guy friends tell me not to trip, but i can't help it! I'm not ready to hae a baby yet, but my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years and we're closer than most couples. I may be 15, but i realize what a mistake i've made and i know it was a stupid decision. I've talked with him about birth control, and we both agreed that for sure we'll use condoms. We had sex after that time, but he wore a condom AND i didn't let him ejaculate while we had sex.
My periods are almost never regular, and i'm pretty sure that's normal with girls my age, and i've heard me stressing about this (which i have been-at some points i'd just break down and cry, and i assume every ache and pain is because of pregnancy.) I don't know!
2006-12-09 08:45:11 · 20 answers · asked by Lovely 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My boyfriend and i were thinking of waiting until the 23rd to take a pregnancy test..just to make sure my period isnt just late.
2006-12-09 08:45:49 · update #1
1) This is SO wrong for a forum for things that you should be talking over with your parents or close friends....having said that..
2) Your body is still maturing. Your periods are going to be irregular for a bit, and from time to time
3) TWO DAYS! at two days your body prob. doesn't even know if its pregnant yet. TWO WEEKS is when you can start to worry.
4) BACKGROUND: Yes you can get pregnant even if he does not ejaculate. The pre-*** (cowpers secretions I believe) can contain sperm. Especially in the young men who often have numerous and uncompleted errections (about 110% of all boys - grin).
In general.. ANY penetration of the penis has the potential of introducing sperm. And don't even ask me about the 'He says he didn't' cause he can not know if he did or not. .
4) No matter how it turns out.. REMEMBER HOW YOU FEEL RIGHT NOW and what you have written above. Think about it next time and, assuming that this all works out for you this time, invest in some protection. Remind your boyfriend too and stick to it................................ No Glove.. No Love
ok?..... good luck to you
2006-12-09 08:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by ca_surveyor 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
From the sounds of it, you don't need to worry too much. The pains you've been having are almost certianly not related. Those sort of pains would be more associated with late term pregnancy, if you were pregnant your body might not even be aware of it at this point.
To be sure, just go pick up a pregnancy test. You didn't say how long ago this happened, but from the sounds of it you shouldn't have any problems. Maybe even buy two different brands, just incase one gets messed up somehow.
Comdoms are only about 75% effective as a form of contraception. You would be wise to consult your primary care physician and ask about getting on the pill, which is more along the lines of 99.5% effective. This is also commonly perscribed as an acne medication, so if you're worried about your parents, tell them the doctor persribed it for acne. Your doctor might even be willing to justify it to them that way. If you don't think that would work, contact your local planned parenthood.
You seem really stressed about this, so you might use both the pill and condoms, that should not only almost elimnate any risk what so ever, but also protect you from STD's.
I understand you and your boyfriend are close and have been togeather for a while and am not saying not to trust him, but there's no point in taking chances with something that could potentialy cramp your sex-life for the rest of your life. People have been in relationships with people they trust and whom do care, but get caught up in a similar moment such as the one you described and end up not only hurting them emotionaly, but infecting them.
You should be just fine, let his experince be a lesson.
2006-12-09 09:03:53 · answer #2 · answered by socialdeevolution 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you should worry about pregnancy every time you have unprotected sex, but don't worry too much because you'll end up making yourself sick. You took the morning after pill, so there's a good chance that you'll be safe. Honestly, I've never experienced that before, but from what I've read and heard from other people, you should always wear protection. I'm not going to go on and on about that because I think you already know that. Anyways, you should be alright. The cramps are there so that's probably a great indicator that your period is on the way. Hope this helps reassure you a little! :)
2016-05-22 23:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The chances that you're pregnant are slim, if you are the only sure way to tell is to take a pregnancy test. If you're not pregnant, I would strongly suggest the shot or some form of birth control that is with you all the time, so you don't have to worry about getting caught up in the moment. Trust me, I've made the mistake before, I had my daughter when i was 15, and now I'm 3 months pregnant with my second (but I"m happy about this one!) So take precations before you two have sex anymore, if you're not pregnant you won't want to have to deal with this again.
2006-12-09 09:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are most likely to get pregnant about fourteen days after the BEGINNING of your previous period. But of course that varies. If you are irregular anyway, don't get too worried yet. But be careful in the future and let this (hopefully just a scare) situation teach you to take this stuff more seriously. Get at home pregnancy test double pack or something. Try one NOW and try one in a few days. If you were actually HAVING your period when you had unprotected sex, then you probably were not ovulating yet, but you never know. that is the problem! you never know for sure. You could learn how to keep track of when you ovulate by measuring your basal body temperature and by checking the texture of the mucous in the vagina, but most girls don't want to bother doing this. I tried it for years (I am in my forties now) and it worked well for me all the time. I never had an unwanted pregnancy... and when I wanted to have a baby at the age of 35, I was able to do it first try. Who would have guessed? I might have just been lucky.
2006-12-09 09:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by Carol 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BREATHE!! Now, it is not very likely you are pregnant. But it is possible. And you're right, GIRLS your age have irregular periods. Wait another week and if nothing happens then take a test.
Also, if it was such a mistake, why did you do it again? You shouldn't be having sex if you aren't able to handle the consequences.And what about STD's? Why are you not worried about them?
Anyways..You should also be on birth control if you plan to continue having sex. Planned parenthood can help. Because condoms don't always work, you should have back up.
2006-12-09 08:53:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Pulling out" is not a recommend form of birth control. :( You can get pregnant from pre ejaculate because there are trace amounts of semen in it. The aches you describe can be related to anxiety. Not having a period on time can be related to anxiety. At 15, your body is still going through adjustments and may be fine tuning your cycle. I would suggest taking a pregnancy test this coming week. If you do find out your pregnant, there are three options: keep it, abort it, or give it up for adoption. If you keep it, you're in for a long struggle; if you abort it, you may possibly regret it; if you give it up, you have a few different options how: closed, open, or partially open. Please research/think on all options if it comes down to that kind of decision. Otherwise, try not to stress on whether or not you're pregnant--you'll just delay your body even more. Best of luck.
2006-12-09 08:56:50 · answer #7 · answered by nichole n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your period is late, you can take the test within 4 days of missing your period, I would not wait until the whole month is almost gone, and besides your boyfriend should be helpful and recommend that you take the test, you should talk to a close friend or family member that you can confide in about it's, your boyfriend is young just like you and may not have the best advice to give you, don't wait the month is over to do this, it is ever important that you get yourself checked out, and please young woman, if your not prenate,got on so kind of birth control to prevent this stress and worries not time, and then you don't have to worries about not knowing.
2006-12-09 09:09:55 · answer #8 · answered by Terri M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just calm down a bit, Your stress of knowing that you had sex without a condom is probably causing your lateness [period] The chances that your pregnant are very slim considering that you had sex during your period! But not totally ruled out...once you are a week late, take a test...and that should put you mind at ease. I was 9 days late, and once I took the test and it was negative I started a few days later. It is most likely your stress that is causing this and all of your symptoms. Hope all goes well, best of Luck!
2006-12-09 08:55:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say you were still within your menstrual period when it happened
though i believe nothing is impossible, medical fact states that it is almost impossible for conception to occur during that period
about 14 days to the menstrual period the ovaries release an egg/ovum which sits waiting to be fertilised by the sperm
the ovum usually doesn't last for more than a day, while the sperm can exist for up to 3 days
so technically a woman can get pregnant if she has sex 3 days before, or a day after the 14th day to the menstrual period
that said please be advised to take your expressions of intimacy more seriously.
the consequences could leave very grave marks on you
by now you've heard of unwanted pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases, etc.
i also want you to acknowledge that intimacy of any kind with a person goes way beyond the physical act. a lot of psychological and spiritual issues are involved
2006-12-10 00:55:03 · answer #10 · answered by thexper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋