because he's in Korea in the Army, people keep telling me that with all this going on our marriage is going to be harder to work at than anyone elses, do you think thats true??
2006-12-09 08:43:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
Take what I say and what everyone else says as a grain of salt. Don't listen to those who say divorce. Being a military wife is very hard. Exteremly challenging and yet so very rewarding. You didn't jump up and run to Las Vegas to have a quickie wedding with some guy in a uniform RIGHT?!? You married a HERO for love and all the right reasons. Christmas is truly a challenge when your spouse is away from you. I would set up a budget (both of you) so you could save money and still have little luxuries but in your budget I would set aside money for phone calls or calling plans and I would most definetly invest in a good email provider (yahoo- it's free) and talk to each other daily, include one another in decisions, and talk about the daily going ons in life. He will enjoy it, hearing about his love and what she is doing and you will come to learn about his job, and what happens daily in his life. It is interesting. Never keep anything from him. If he is commited to you and you to him then your pyshical wants will be the last thing that you care about. You will get time down the road to take care of that stuff. You could send him stuff that reminds him of you. Send him one of your sleep shirts so he can smell you in his dream.
There are lots of unfaithful, cheating military couples out there. It is hard to watch it happen. But the forever couples have strong faith in their spouse and the couple has a strong FAITH in the LORD. Don't fall for the temptations of the devil and the Lord will reward you richly.
2006-12-09 09:22:56 · answer #1 · answered by samantha s 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As anybody reported, once you're lengthy previous 30 days, you're literally a deserter. you'd be charged with Articles 86 and 87 (Unauthorized Absence and lacking deliver stream). more beneficial than probable, you'd be sentenced to a precis courtroom martial, get carry of help in rank, 0.5 months pay, and serve someplace between 30days to six months brig time. for the duration of that aspect, you'll more beneficial than probable be administratively discharged with an except Honorable discharge and an RE code 4. once you've had the different UA's on your record, your command will probable push that you'll get a BCD (undesirable habit Discharge). At this aspect, a federal warrant has been issued on your arrest. Any regulation enforcement officer can arrest you, detain you, and anticipate delivery from the carry close at fingers decrease back for your command. only turn your self in. Get it over with.
2016-11-25 01:21:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was in the military and we seen each other maybe 1-2 months a YEAR. We went on with that for almost 8 years, and in the mean time raised 2 loving kids. We grew more and more fond of each other. Not farther apart. It made the years fly by!!! If your love is true, distance and time will not make it fade.
2006-12-09 11:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen, you have a husband and you married him. It is not his fault his commitment and career take him to Korea. Can you go to Korea and live with him there?
I know plenty of people who were married and separated by the Vietnam war and as couples they were stronger.
It's tough but you need to quit listening to people and focus on making a home for your husband and working (whatever you do) and saving for when he comes home. You knew he was going to Korea when you married him, so keep him foremost in your thoughts and dreams.
Concentrate on writing him letters and sending him packages from home. I am sure it will all work out when he returns home
2006-12-09 08:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He won't ALWAYS be in Korea. This is just what you're working on now, and it's true that it is hard. But, you're learning how to keep in touch long distance, and that says a lot about both of you. You are a military wife. There are a lot of them out there! I'm sure you'll be able to be stationed with your husband at some point - and you'll have lots of other military wives to talk to and learn from. Hang in there. It might be hard now - but the rewards will come!
2006-12-09 08:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by liddabet 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I have to assume you knew about his military status when you got married, yes? How could you expect to grow your marriage and your bond together if you never see one another? Yes - I think it is very difficult to have a marriage when the two people never see each other. I think it's even harder on the children. But hey -- thousands of people have done it and survived somehow... but thousands of people have divorced because of it or cheated on their spouses. It's difficult and you have to be willing to work through it. If you're not, it's time to get out now before it gets complicated with children and such.
2006-12-09 08:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
of course it will be harder. you're lacking physical intimacy, which is one of the prime components of a successful marriage. you will have to develop a comfort level that most couples that spend every night in the same bed have the luxury of having.
keep in touch with him, and try to talk to him as regularly as you would if you lived in the same home.
2006-12-09 08:52:33 · answer #7 · answered by Kendra G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get on one of those cheap international plans and talk to him everyday.
Visit him if possible.
Yes, physical seperation makes a marriage difficult, but make every effort to keep your communication going.
2006-12-09 08:49:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know this must be hard but if you love each other as much as you think you do then you will come out of this with great spirits you need to remember that he is trying to help his country and that you should be proud of him also didnt you know that he would be leaving soon after you got married if you did then you should have thought of that before saying i do if you didnt just think of this as your first test of your love and remember there will be worse tests of your love and faith and just support him with letters and love i wish you all a wonderful life and good luck
ps
your friends arent always right you need to listen to your heart and your feelings
2006-12-09 08:50:06 · answer #9 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have a harder start than most, for sure, but hopefully it won't be too long. Why didn't you go with him? It would be a great adventure you could share together!
With on-post housing it would be free, too.
2006-12-09 08:46:53 · answer #10 · answered by Sir J 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋