I know i married too young now with grown children and i feel like I missed out lots . do you feel this way?

Question

I love or i think i love hubby and children now with grands I dont show them enough love I feel like a basket case and i should be strung up by a rope. I missed the opportunity to see the world as in armed forces which i wanted to do but didnt get the chance.But now i am here with my mind on other things.

Answer 1

Everyone wonders what might have been.That is normal.But you can't live off of what ifs.You have to live in the here and now.Your life is passing you by why you worry about things that may never have happened even if you hadn't gotten married so young.You may not think it now but your life is wonderful and exciting you just have to look around.You are so lucky to have a family who loves you. And for excitement just look into your grandchildren eye's watch how much amazement and excitement they contain.The world is new to them and they are experiencing everything for the first time and learning about this life.They are learning about it not only from their parents but from you be apart of that.Participate in life it is to grand to miss.

Answer 2

Stop knocking yourself. You are not a basket case and it is perfectly legitimate to ask yourself some questions about the wisdom of what you did. But look on the positive side.You are now still young and can do things which you will enjoy all the more because you have the maturity to appreciate them. Your children can be your best friends. Your grand-children have a lovely young granny who will understand them, and do things with them because she is still fit and able. You can now travel much more cheaply and much further than you would have done when you were single, and life in the forces has never been a bed of roses. The chances would have been that you would have been stationed somewhere absolutely dull where you could have done very little. Get those travel brochures out, pick a nice destination to go to with your husband, and celebrate together the fact that you are both in good health, fit, and able to do things you could not afford when you had a young family.
As to the loving bit, wait until something unpleasant happens to your hubby or your kids, and you will realise immediately how much you love them really.The deepest love is not always the most demonstrative one, believe me.

Answer 3

you might want to quit focusing on what you may have missed out on and think about what you have...I was a father at 17 and am now an empty nester dealing with the emptiness of my home. The wife and I divorced many years ago and I wound up with custody. I don't have grand kids yet, but am actually looking forward to it now. Since your kids are grown, you can now start to do some of the things that you always wanted to, but were too busy raising the children. Save up and take a cruise, travel when you can, but try to enjoy your family when you're home as well.

Answer 4

I felt that way with my 1st husband. I was married at 18 yrs old, even though I felt exactly the same way, I was thankful for what I had. I always wanted to get into acting most of my life and never had the chance. So I decided to get my grand daughter into modeling and acting, and I'm loving it! LOL EVERYONE says she looks just like me. We can not turn back time, but you can go forward. There are many things you can still do, you are never too old!! THINK OF SOMETHING SPECIAL that might help, and GO FOR IT!!! LIFE IS TO SHORT HUN. GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 5

I was married at 18 and now I'm 34 I feel this already and just keep on thinking that when my youngest leaves the house i will still be young enough to see the world. Or is that just a dream?good luck

Answer 6

Feeling this way is normal, from my personal experience it is a tough time. The best way that I have found to make things better is to talk with your family. You would be suprised how many family members have the same interests as you. That is a way to do things you want to do without neglecting anyone, especially yourself. Live your life in the now, not in the past.

Answer 7

well i must say what you are feeling is way normal, my uncle got with his wife when they were 14(her) and he was 17 and when they were into their 10th year togther with 3 kids she decide to go through her midlife crisis and she wanted to go out and do all the things she never had the time to do cause she was taken for 11 years of her life.. i would say let your hubby know how you feel and you love him dearly you just feel like you want to do some of the things you missed out on.. maybe you two can compermise on things and you can go out and have fun and do the things you want to do.. i just feel bad for my uncle cause he was torn up and spying for 2 years after she left him.. so just try to make things work first and if things don't go your way then i guess theres only one other thing to do, walk away from him and do what you have to.. good luck and very best wishes!

Answer 8

In my world, this is normal. People change as they age. There's no way to know how things would have ended up if you had chosen a different path when you were younger. Eventually you will know what has to be done in consideration of your near future. Try to be calm and listen to that still small voice. And please don't withhold your love. Not love for yourself or for your loved ones. If you feel it, show it!

Answer 9

yes i think most people wish they took different choices but cant replay life instead focous on what you want to do you still have them as family just work around them and achieve things that will fullfill your desires without turning your back on them hey hubby may feel same way dont be hard on yourself if your happy you wont be abascket case

Answer 10

if you stop thinking about what you missed and start thinking about achieveing the ambitions you always wanted to achieve you will be a much happier person. there is no point looking back on the past and regretnig what you did, its too late. think about the future and how to make the most of that.