My ex. bf and i broke up 6 months ago after having dated two years i really feel i still love him.Anyway around thanks giving he called me to tell me he still loved me and was sorry for how things ended.We were both imature and stuborn at the time and neither one of us wanted to admit that we were both wrong at the time of the break up.We have been talking over the phone and online to get to know each other again and take it slow.He wants too see me again to meet up and talk about getting back together in person should i go is it too soon? Can we mature and grow together?or am i just fooling myself ?we are both in are very early twentys.
2006-12-09 08:34:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The problem was last time his old school italian mom did not like me and provoked fights between us and he is a bit of a hot head.
2006-12-09 08:38:54 · update #1
Try and see, you will not know until you try. And if both of you have feelings for each other, it is worth trying. You are both young adults and have come to a different level of maturity since the break up. Go with what you are feeling and take it slow. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-09 08:37:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned that he is a bit of a "hot head"...does this mean he was verbally abusive to you? Was it more than that? B/c that makes a HUGE difference. He believes his mother over you the first 2 years what makes either of you think it will be any different this time? What is he going to do to prevent his meddling mother to interfere with his happiness? He will have to set up bounderies. If he can do this with his mother then I'm sure a 2nd chance would do you both good. I am with a man now, going on 4 yrs next month, I almost ended it with him b/c of his meddling mother and sisters and exwife. I asked him how important am I to you? Important enough to go to marriage counseling at our church? (they accept us as married and there is NO charge for therapy there, we can not be married till his finances are taken care of, IRS...) Anyways, he agreed and it's been 7 weeks since we began and what a difference! I prayed a lot to God as well and He has answered all my concerns. If your "hot headed" bf ever laid an angry hand on you then please stay AWAY! If he NEVER did then ask him what will be different this time and how will you be different as well? Have you both been maturing during this brief interlude? Do you both have the same goal? Just some questions to ask yourself and him. Then decide...if his apron strings are still attatched...I'd suggest to let him go. Out of my own experience, a man too close to mommy will put wife/gf on the back burner. Is 2nd ok to you?
2006-12-09 16:59:38 · answer #2 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as neither of you did anything to really hurt the other, than why not give it a chance, and learn from the first time you broke up. If you see things aren't getting back on track, then move on. This time, don't be stubborn with eachother. And if one is, someone should be the bigger person. Too much bad can turn into worse, but you won't know til you give it another try. Good Luck!
Krazy Libra
2006-12-09 16:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know till you try!!! Love is a precious commodity! And if the both of you truly feel compelled, and drawn to each other, then YES!!!! What would it hurt to just meet up, somewhere public....have lunch! Talk about your feelings, be honest! Discuss what drove you both to this situation, and let him know that if you are going to be together, and share your lives, then his mother needs to accept you for who you are. And your bf needs to express his feelings for you, and his concerns to his mother also. Parents, finances, friends, are too often the underlying instigator of failed relationships. A couple needs to let others know there is a line, and that crossing that line is unacceptable. Opinions and advice and great ways to communicate, but negativity...in itself can be one of the most damaging, hurtful things to enter a relationship. Talk....talk....talk. Time is just a way to measure things. Its up to you to decide if your measurement of this, being apart, and now to start over is healthy for you. Think about hon.....make sure this is what you, and he both want. And....if your goals are equally important to one another....the rest......will come......in time.
2006-12-09 16:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by westernstargal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mature and grow together...yes you can...however you need to think about why you broke up in the first place.....
Mother-......and hot head.....not a good combo.....
Trying being friends first.....see where it leads....that way its easier to break it off if it doesn't work.
Time will tell
2006-12-09 17:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is meant to be then why not and try it and if it doesnt work out the 2nd time well at least you tried and there would be no more regrets
2006-12-09 16:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would, since you have a chance to be happy and to have a great life! You shouldn't throw that away!
2006-12-09 16:37:21 · answer #7 · answered by dragons777dr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u could just depends on if u both want to
2006-12-09 16:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to have sex with you. He's lonely. Don't fall into his trap.
2006-12-09 16:37:35 · answer #9 · answered by jerjer09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could give it one more chance
if you both want to
2006-12-09 16:37:53 · answer #10 · answered by Bren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋