we almost broke up yesterday but she stopped me and told me d things that upsets her and told me im a bit needy since im 8 years YOUNGER than her. We only see each other once a week and talking to he ron the phone is the only way of communication we have for d rest of d week is it too much to ask for longer "talk time" She's a nurse and work (she says keeps her busy) how would i know if she still loves me and if i should still hold on or let go. I really love her and i know she loves me but i have to make her TRUST me more and not think of me as a KID. HELP...
2006-12-09 08:33:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The solution to many relationship problems is talking and honesty. First you need to find the time to have a really serious conversation (it would be better if it was face to face and not over the phone). After that, tell her everything you feel. Try not to get too emotional (since you said she thinks you're needy). Tell her what annoys you and how you feel about everything (her work, your lack of "us" time, the telephone conversations, that fact that she said you're needy... everything). Listen to what she has to say, maybe she really is under a lot of stress at work and she wants a little bit of space.
In my opinion, the fact that you're 8 years younger than her shouldn't be an issue. If she said that in the heat of the moment, I think it could be overlooked (as long as she's really sorry about saying it). If that's how she really feels, then I really don't have anything else to say than... maybe she's not the one for you. I don't want to be judgemental, but your partner shouldn't think that about you whatever the situation was and regardless of your age. She should see you as her equal. I don't think it has anything to do with trust.
2006-12-09 09:08:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just at two different places with your lives. You seem to want different things.
She wants to see less or the same ammount of you. You want to see her more. That is pretty much irreconcilable.
Maybe you should take a break for a couple months.
As to not seeing you as a kid, until you have accumulated a lot of the life experiances she has, and are no longer as needy, she will always see you as younger and less experianced. If that is really not what you want, break up with her, love and live for about 5 years, then call her up again.
2006-12-09 09:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your insecure and lack confidence in the relationship you should probably get out of it. It doesn't sound like its healthy or making you happy. If spending time with you is important to your girl then she'll make time for you. If she loves you like you said she does then she should not have a problem showing you all the time. She may say one thing but if their actions don't back it up then she's probably all talk.
Bright side: Your young and you can move on.
2006-12-09 08:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by Topaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a gay or lesbian question this is just a realtionship issue. If you are not getting what you need from this realtionship walk away. The longer you stay the harder it gets to move on. You aren't meant to spend your life with every partner you meet some realtionships are meant to teach you and prepare you. Which one do you think this is?
2006-12-09 08:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All relationships are the same, straight or gay. Someone always loves the other more. In this case the one who loves more is you. You have to decide who you want to be. If you need more from your partner then look for someone who is willing to give more and see you as an equal. Good luck.
2006-12-09 08:37:25 · answer #5 · answered by cutencurley_05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been were ur @ you can't make her trust,you. but u can just show her & b supportive,some x's people have been badly hurt & they don't even know what trust is.so if u really love her show her,give her what she wants,if it's true it will come back if not u know the answer.sometimes it hurts but it always works out,trust yourself & she'll respond.
2006-12-09 09:06:00 · answer #6 · answered by cleo 888 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋