why am I such a wimp?

Question

there was a girl being a complete ***** to me in my local pub last night for taking a disabled, blind male into the ladies toilet as he needs to be helped to the loo and I didnt want to go into the men's (as it stinks!) and there were no other men around to help. I told her she was being ignorant, making him feel awkward and embarrassed about his disability and there was no place for her nasty attitude. She then started pointing her finger in my face and getting really aggressive and to avoid a fight I just backed down and me and my friends all went and sat in the other room, I was shaking like a leaf. I'm now really angry at myself that I didnt stick up for him more even if I did risk getting a smack in the mouth. How can I toughen up more and not be so scared of other people??

Answer 1

Wimp? You hard man more like! Real tough people do things like that! Help, ignore insults and walk away. Babies (or so-called tough men) usually throw dummies or punches.

Come on man! Pat yourself on the back. I wish everybody on the planet was like you, or even to try would be a dramatic improvement.

Can I just say you are a star.

Answer 2

I see nothing wrong with what you did, you prevented a fist fight. (not pretty) I wouldn't call you a wimp....I'd have to call you....sensible. Rolling around on the floor pulling hair and punching someone doesn't solve the problem...if it did, all the people out there with a fist and low IQ would be making all the decisions how to do things.When the fights over all you've proved is weather or not you can fight.
Right now all your doing is beating yourself up mentally over what happened. If it helps any.....she's just lucky you walked away, cause if you didn't you would have beat the snot out of her. LOL (that help any).
Your a good person...not many left these days. I bet your an excellent friend too. That's what your friends see...there not with you because your the worlds toughest gal. Just put it all behind you and move on. :-)

Answer 3

Hey don't worry, she probably had too much to drink and someone was gonna get, it just happened to be you.

Being confident and recognising when your attacker is getting psyched up for an attack is the most important thing, you managed to walk away and in your eyes lose a little face but that's better than a beating or worse!!!

If this has really has had an affect on you maybe you should look into some sort of self defence training, this will increase your confidence, strength and hopefully make you more street wise.

My children and i all train in jiu jitsu as this doesn't rely on masses of strength, look for an instructor with whom you feel comfortable with and I'm sure you will feel more happier in those types of situation.

Give it a try.

Answer 4

You are not a wimp! You are decent! In a whole pub YOU were the only person decent enough to help! That is not wimpy. That takes balls! And as for that girl being a cow, I would advise you to look at HER attitude - it stinks! Being a cow is a poor reflection on HER, not YOU. Some people enjoy being nasty or spiteful and clearly she wasnt being very nice - I mean she could have helped you with the person or watched the door so no one would come in and see him but she didnt! Ignore crappy behaviour in others - you have a heart of gold and are the better person here!

Answer 5

The trick here is not to lose sight of your original intention - to help the man. Getting into a fight would have been pointless and to some extent would have devalued your initial action. So I think you were correct in your handling of the situation.

That you had a reaction - shaking like a leaf - after your confrontation with the girl, is quite natural. Only a few more years of life may solve that. Hold on to what you have now and believe in yourself.

Answer 6

Sounds like you did exactly the right thing. You put your cards on the table when you defended your friend at the outset of the incident. If she was the type of person to miss the message, why bother continuing to try? People like that will never understand how miserably terrible they are.

You gave her a fair chance, then had the courage and good sense to walk away when she didn't take it.

Besides, think about your friend. For his sake, getting him away from her and into a quiet environment with supportive friends was the best thing for him. At all times, you were placing his interests above yours. That's more important than being tough and not scared of other people. By any standards of courage, personal integrity, and loyalty to one's friends, you're on top.

 John 15:13 "Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends."

I wish I had friends like you.

Answer 7

Don't be angry at yourself. She's the inadequate one. Everything in life is experience. If you on the receiving end of something like this again, you'll probably surprise yourself by being more assertive and confident than you were last night just because you've been through it before and know your own mind and values better. Fighting's for losers, don't resort to her dumb, ignorant level.

Answer 8

Sounds like you did the right thing to me, takes more of a man to walk away, than it does to stand and fight. She was just being a *****, let people win the small arguements and make sure you win the big ones. People will have respect for you that way.
xx

Answer 9

let it go, you did the right thing. No matter where you go in life there will be these kind of people. You did the right thing by giving your explaination and leaving it at that, you walked away the better person. Enough said. I mean really, what good would have come from a fight in this situation?

Answer 10

attempt some experiments on inconsequential human beings (human beings you have on no account met in the previous and specific will on no account see returned on your lifetime). Strike up a verbal replace approximately not something with a woman and haven't any intentions of asking her out. It does not could additionally be a verbal replace, it ought to basically be a remark, start up with that, yet make specific your remark isn't a %. up line. Say some thing unrelated to them or their looks, because of the fact in case you do they are going to think of you're hitting on them. faux you should care much less in the event that they have been fascinated in you. while status up for your self do not convey regret until you're apologizing for their shortcomings. Like: "i'm sorry you have a concern controlling your temper" or "i'm sorry you're an fool." on the war of words area that's terrific to try this with somebody you do understand, so as that they are not getting upset. yet purely %. a random combat (by using combat i don't mean fisticuffs) with somebody you recognize (not something extreme), just to get the feel for it. as quickly as you have grow to be greater of an extrovert you will finally end up empowered, and not lots petrified of human beings and the failings that would happen to you.