I was done for drunk driving and no insurance a few weeks ago -and because I already have a suspended sentence from before I will probably be going back to prison in the New Year when I go back to court.
I've been to prison before so I know what to expect but am worried about how my girlfriend is going to react. I haven't been in any trouble since I've been seeing her - she knows about my past record and said she would dump me if I got into trouble again. She has been great for me and I don't want to lose her.
She doesn't know about this yet and I'm trying to keep it from her as I am worried that she will dump me. I'm hoping that if the worse happens she'll stick by me and visit but I'm not sure if she will.
Just wondering if you would stick by your boyfriend if they were in this situation?
2006-12-09 08:24:18 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
go ahead and keep hiding it from her if you want to lose her. Honesty's the best policy here, you need to tell her what happened and be ready for anything. As for if I would stay w/ my partner under similar circumstances, I think that there would be a possibility if I were truly in love and had been together for some time.
2006-12-09 08:27:32 · answer #1 · answered by mike w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if I would. We've been together for 9 years. If she does dump you, don't freak out like so many other inmates do. Just hold strong and support yourself inside. Be your own best friend and rely on your own worthy future. I know its a lot better to have company on visiting day, but either way you can make it through this! You'll find love again if she doesn't stay together. You've got to tell her the truth if you do expect her to stay together. I would definietly leave if you kept it secret for too long. Just know in your heart that you are worthy of love and no matter if she stays or not, you'll find peace deep in your own heart. And believe that you will find that love again either way.
2006-12-09 08:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a similar situation before (on the side of your girlfriend).
When I met him, I knew he'd been in trouble before, but he had been "good" for a while. Then, he ended up in the middle of something, called the cops and HE was the one arrested, because he had a bench warrant.
He only did 20 days and I stood by him.
THEN...I went home for a visit for a week and while I was gone, he partied with some buddies and got popped with Marijuana (in Nevada) AND was stupid enough to show his Nevada drivers license (not his CLEAN CA license). Since he hadn't taken care of the issues in Nevada (as I was trying to help and encourage him to do) and had the added charge of possession, he ended up doing 90 days and I dumped him.
I believe in giving a person A CHANCE...so maybe your GF will be understanding. But if not, move on and who knows...maybe if you can keep your nose clean when you get out, you can try with her again.
Good luck.
2006-12-09 08:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by Dolphin lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you already have a suspended sentence, your drove drunk and with no insurance!!! Good god man i hope they do send you down and she does dump you!! your a disgrace and hopefully while your banged up you might give some thought to your life or all the damage and harm you could of done if you were involved in a accident!! and as you have no respect what so ever for the law i douth you could be honest!! and to answer your question if it was my boyfriend i would dump him in a heartbeat for being such a sad,selfish loser!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-09 08:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by ral 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somebody ran out in front of my boyfriends car and died. this has devastated our lives and that of the family of the woman who is dead. This was purley an accident down to fate 2 ppl in the wrong place in the wrong time. what you have done is irresponsible and dangerous - how would u feel if an accident had happend at the time. you deserve to lose your licence and your girlfriend and hopefully this might be a lesson learnt so you dont take your own and other peoples lives into your own hands again
2006-12-09 08:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by bow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given that she told you 'up front' what she'd do if you got into trouble again then asking what I (or anyone else) would do is irrelevant. But since you have asked........had I made that 'upfront' statement I would abide by it. Accepting that someone has made mistakes and paid for them is one thing. That they haven't learned from them is another thing altogether. Ultimately, you can not keep it from her, it is bound to come out so maybe it would be better that she hears it from you first, otherwise the deceit (even with best intentions) will do for the worst damage.
2006-12-12 07:14:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, getting a DUI is not the most responsible of behaviors and not very safe. However, we all live and learn, and hopefully you have and will learn from this mistake. However, you need to tell you girlfriend now rather than later. And you will just have to deal with the consequences of your choices. My thinking is she is going to be very disappointed and upset with you. However, if she loves you she will probably stick around and give you one more chance to get a grip. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-09 08:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm sure most women would be worried that their boyfriend is going to become big bubbas girlfriend. But to answer your question...she should be angry, very angry... but if your sentence is very long...don't expect her to stick around...she deserves a better life than sitting around waiting for her man to get out of prison.
2006-12-09 11:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you're going to have to tell her, and if she decides to dump you then you deserved it. If she doesn't then you're very lucky.
Trying not to get in trouble is good, but (in the words of Yoda) "There is do or not do, there is no try."
I'm not making fun of you, just making a point.
There is a rehab scheme that has a very high success rate, and it's not too hard. You can read about it here:
http://www.criminon.org.uk/
Good luck. You can contact me if you have any other questions.
2006-12-11 03:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by replybysteve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you blew it big time. DUI & no insurance? The simple truth is you're a menace and deserve to be locked up. You knew what your situation was when you decided to drive drunk, so that should come as no surprise to you. Keeping it from your girlfriend is wrong, so you should tell her immediately so she has time to properly dump you.
2006-12-09 08:27:34 · answer #10 · answered by My Evil Twin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋