I've been in touch with an old boyfriend from high school. When we were in high school, we were inseparable. We both believed it was our fate to be married, have kids and so forth. But, it didn't happen. We've both since married. I'm still married and he's divorced and we both have kids. We are wonderful friends and get along as if we never missed a beat over the 13 years. I think I still love him (actually, I know I do). But, I'm wondering is this just old times playing a trick on me or could something still be there?
2006-12-09 08:09:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's nothing there......but a ring on your finger! Honor it!!
2006-12-09 08:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
BEEN THERE! An ex and I had been together for almost 5 yrs, we were 1st loves, ect. I got with my husband, and the ex and I had started talking every now and again. My husband and I got married, and even for months after the wedding I still thought I was in love with the ex. But I realized that what I have now is what is meant to be, a VERY HAPPY marriage, a BEAUTIFUL son, and the best husband/daddy in the world. I know that the reason I still had feelings for my ex was because of the past, because I dated him through school and he had my childhood. This will pass I promise, your marriage isn't worth giving up on because there MAY be something there, you already HAVE something in the marriage.
2006-12-09 16:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You once had an intimate relationship with this person, so of course there will be some re-surging emotions from the past. You did however pledge yourself in marriage to someone else. I am hopeful you love this person you married. One thing you must ask yourself - How would you feel if your spouse was struggling with the same feelings over someone else?
Just because you ran into someone from your past is not a reason to break up your family. Believe me, you will be miserable if you do!
I am sure he is divorced for a reason and there are always 2 sides to every story.
2006-12-09 16:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by jamocha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation, and I hope Mellybel is right. Because I have been struggling with this for a few months and I still feel like I made a huge mistake. I have never loved anyone like I love my first love and nothing is making those feelings fade away. But I am concentrating on my husband and kids and am no longer talking to the old boyfriend. Check back in with me in a few months.
2006-12-09 21:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It very likely could be love but are you willing to risk your marriage and take your children away from their dad? If your husband is good to you and you love him then stay with him. On the other hand, if your relationship is not going well you might want to take the risk. Don't take the risk though if you are happy where you are. It just is not worth it. What ever you do don't sleep with him! That would be a giant mistake.
2006-12-09 16:15:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line is this: You have made a commitment to your husband and kids. You have a family. You will regret ruining your marriage for an old flame. Don't be a fool.
2006-12-09 16:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by Amy D.R. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing there. don't give up everything you have for a chance that things could be like they were in high school. because trust me, things won't work out, and then you'll lose him as a great friend as well. that is all you are meant to be or you would have worked it out in high school. things change, and people change, neither of you are the same. i wouldn't risk it.
2006-12-09 16:15:25 · answer #7 · answered by pikachu 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just old times, he's divorced, but your married to someone who you loved enough to marry and have kids with. your happier than you think.
2006-12-09 16:15:14 · answer #8 · answered by Festive! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well right now it's fresh and new again but when the newness wears off your back to square one, you no what you have but you don't know what your getting.
2006-12-09 16:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
is just old times
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2006-12-09 16:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋