i don't really have anything against it. it's just now i kind of feel awkward whenever I'm around her.
2006-12-09 08:04:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You need to deal with this issue yourself too but please don't let the ignorance come out and think she wants to kiss you or likes you or every single woman she sees.
Support her if she is really your best friend, tell her you care and you are there behind her 100% if you really love her.
2006-12-09 08:06:55 · answer #1 · answered by åߪõ£úţέ мåŷá 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Are you attracted to her in any way? Maybe your awkwardness is trying to work out your own feelings or just curiosity.
A lot of straight people have this crazy idea that if two people are both gay or bi that they're going to get it on. Or that ALL gay men/women are attracted to ALL men/women. That's just silly. It's not true for straight people and it's not true for gay folk either.
She's the same person that she's always been. Look for the reasons behind your feelings of awkwardness so you can keep your friendship strong.
2006-12-09 16:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by The angels have the phone box. 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Bre-Bre, I agree with everything that you say, except being gay is not a choice. It is just how you feel and how you are. Acting on it is the choice, and there shouldn't even have to be a choice about that, but unfortunately many people are afraid of the repercussions. But having the feelings is not a choice.
2006-12-10 01:08:13 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just treat her like I treat everyone else. I would still be friends with her because that is her decision and I don't think that you should stop being friends with her because of her choice. I have gay friends and i treat them like I do anyone else. I wouldn't say anything to your friend I would just accept it!
2006-12-09 18:10:53 · answer #4 · answered by Bre-Bre 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been in that same situation, only my best friend is a guy. He told me he was gay and after he told his parents that he was gay they through him out, and he had to live with me. Your best friend is probably going through a lot of emotions right now and needs your support 100%.
When my best friend had to live with me, he had to stay in my room with me and we had to share a bed. I still live with my parents and we don't have a spare bedroom, so he had to live in my room with me for several weeks! lol!
If your afraid of her having a crush on you or something, I doubt that will happen. She knows you are straight and that you only like guys, so she'll only date girls that are like her. My best friend is still friends with straight guys, and he isn't interested in them at all. Why would he be? Their off limits, so why waste any energy on them?
And remember, she hasn't changed at all. She has always been gay, you just didn't know it.
2006-12-09 16:31:26 · answer #5 · answered by Manx 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Why do you feel awkward? My sister told me she was gay and I was flattered that she finally let me into her secret. It has been almost 10 years since she revealed it to me, and honestly it has strengthened our relationship. With your straight friends do you imagine their sex lives? Why would the personal private sex life of a gay friend change your friendship?
2006-12-09 16:13:24 · answer #6 · answered by djk 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Why do you feel awkward your friend was gay a month ago and you felt fine. You are still you and she is still your best friend. Buy her a cake and tell you she's still your best friend.
2006-12-09 16:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
you should do or say... whatever you used to do o say... I mean, your friendship with her wasn't based on her sexual preference, so if she's gay or not shouldn't be an issue.. it's just as if instead of telling you she is gay, she had told you she likes a guy you consider looks like a toad. Would that affect your friendship??
2006-12-09 16:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by Morphosys Mx 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Just treat her the the same because she is just as good a friend as she was when you thought she was straight.
2006-12-09 16:16:13 · answer #9 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
nothing has changed..its just that u know a minor detail about her that u didnt know...treat her the same..she isnt a different person. she is the same person whome u call your best friend...
2006-12-09 16:10:30 · answer #10 · answered by Shawn C 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋