Is this really CHEAP of me?

Question

I have only been going out with my boyfriend for two weeks now and Christmas is coming. Anyway, I asked him what he likes and he always answers with cigerattes. Point, I don't want to contribute to bad health. So I is this a good gift?

Brownies, A Coffee Mug (he drinks coffee), A Homeade Card with chocolate attached as well as One OR Two flavoured cigars. Now, he likes cigerattes WAY MORE than cigars. But if I attached two cigerattes that would be way cheap that I didn't get him a whole pack. Right? Anyway are the two cigars CHEAP of me?

Also, is the gift in all good? or stupid?

(i am really confused right now, so sorry about my questions)

Answer 1

If you've only been dating for 2 weeks, that's a perfect gift and more personal, like genuine. Good idea's! Good luck! I hope he likes the stuff!

Answer 2

I would make him a gift that comes from my heart. I would NOT give him cigarettes nor the cigars,but that is my own thoughts. The brownies and a coffee mug sound the best,maybe you can find a mug that has something on it that is one of his interests. Even the homemade card and brownies would be good enough,especially since you have only been going out for 2 wks,new relationship,and you are NOT being cheap,sorry no smokes is my vote,are you sure this guy is worth it?

Answer 3

I think he's telling you cigarettes because he may have no idea what he wants and may have been a little caught off guard about the whole gift idea because you've been goin out only a few weeks.it's a very kind gesture,speakin cause i'm a guy mind ya,i'm sure anything you do for him will be recieved well by him so here's a guy perspective to what to get a dude you've just started datin. forget the cards and cigarettes,all you're tellin him is you may oppose them but who cares if he smokes them.stay off the subject by buying him somethin that will take his mind away from the cigar/cigarette as a gift thing.get him a coffee mug personalized with you and him on it,or a mug that says somthin like "my favorite man's mug" or whatever.brownies are a cool thing, better if u make em though, you can get a digital picture holder
(bestbuy) and have a picture of you 2 sharing a cozy moment togeather.the one thing to keep in mind is that assuming he's a nice dude you shoul'nt have to go overboard to finally win the day.

Answer 4

It's not cheap at all. Just make up a little basket with the stuff you listed. Some cigars cost a$100.00 each - so depending on what kind of cigars - you are probably not being cheap. In fact - you don't even have to get him the cigars. You could get him some high end coffee - or a gift card for Starbucks. I think you're wise not to contribute to his bad health.

Merry Christmas!

Answer 5

I know what you mean about not wanting to contribute to his potential bad health, but the cigars are a good way to show that you are not nagging him but still not supporting his smokig per se. As for the other gifts suggested, you seem to have put a lot of thought into it in a very short time. I think that if he is smart enough to see that, he should love the gift. Put it all in some sort of basket type thing he can stick on his desk or dresser later to toss spare things in and you have added another cheap gift. It all sounds good to me. Good luck and Merry Christmas.

Answer 6

He says he loves his cigies, and you say you don't want to contribute to his bad health but rather improve his health so the only logical gift in my opinion is buy him a gift that complies with all of the above criteria. Preferably something he hasn't tried before in the way of products available for people trying to quit, or if he isn't at all interested in quiting perhaps a healthier brand of ciggies, herbal or medicinal perhaps.
Regardless of what happens, cigars are an even more unhealthier message to send than ciggies, and he's not at all interested in chocolates or brownies (this is a guy we're talking about), a mug is cheap, and tailored ciggies the way he likes them are the worst option of all because it sends the message that you like him as a smoker and want him to continue.
"It's not who we really are inside that counts, but what we do that makes all the difference." - Batman Begins
"Be the person you wish to see in the world." - Gandhi

Answer 7

Like does bacco have to come in the gift? I wouldn't mind coffee or chocolates at the expense of cigarettes. but then, i am not him.

I mean, cigars are not more or less harmful then cigarettes, it is the smoke that counts,

And hey , the gift isn't cheap. Itis the feelings that count.

Weird thing is that you can't count either smoke or feelings.

Answer 8

I would skip the cigars too, add some flavored coffee creamer or coffee, or maybe some gourmet cocoa to go with the mug. This is a lovely gift.
My daughter is getting her best friend (who is a guy) a similar gift, and he will love it.
No, you are not cheap.

Answer 9

Since you've only been seeing him two weeks, I'd say some really good brownies and a nifty coffee mug would be a nice present. I'd skip cigars, they're not healthy either. A homemade card and chocolates is a nice present also.

Answer 10

If you've only been dating a few weeks, then those are totally appropriate gift options.

I would do the coffee mug and put a few cigars and some chocolates in it, then wrap it all up in cellophane wrap and a bow and add a card.

Answer 11

Please don't buy him cigarettes, that is so gross. I don't buy my dad alcohol as gifts because he is an alcoholic. Don't contribute. Get him a nice card (not too mushy as it is early in your relationship). Maybe some clothing, if you can be sure what he likes. I don't think the 2 cigars are cheap of you (if they are really nice, good quality cigars, but again, don't contribute).