2006-12-09 07:46:39 · 11 answers · asked by 1icyclops 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Other - Holidays
My father died a few weeks ago, near the end of November. I am still reeling. When strangers in stores (cashiers, coffee people) smile at me cheerfully and ask, Well, hello! How are you today?" i simply nod and smile the best i can and reply that i'm doing okay.
But it's the holiday season and people who know me, who know my family, have the same problem that you do. I understand that.
The very best holiday greeting i've gotten so far has come from a cousin i saw infrequently as a child (they lived very far away). In his greeting card to me, a regular card-from-a-box, he wrote a special note that recounted something my dad and he did together when he was a child, something that's always stuck with him. He then wished me the peace of the season and signed his name with love.
I was incredibly touched.
Someone else who knew my father only through my stories of him reminded me in her card that, though he is gone from the world, he still lives in my heart and my memories--and that no one can take that away from me.
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I guess what i'm saying is use her name in your card to your cousin. Include a cherished memory, if you have one--and a comment on how nothing can erase the wonderful time your cousin shared with her.
A caution: DO NOT get into the god/heaven stuff unless you are SURE you know your cousin's beliefs in this matter. My father and i shared a philosophy of agnosticism and anything i get with words of godly piety (He is in a better place now, blah blah blah) simply incite anger-bleakness-hurt-bewilderment in me.
I hope this helps.
2006-12-09 08:06:48 · answer #1 · answered by Sebille 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to take heed to about your pal. the perfect component to do is deliver a card as time-honored. i comprehend this is negative yet existence does bypass on and each and each and anybody has to face that. once you're apprehensive about the merry/satisfied christmas bit then only get a sparkling card and write: thinking you all in the course of the christmas season.
2016-11-30 09:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am thinking of you and (name wife) especially this year. Peace and prosperity in this coming year.
[The best I can do off top of my head--I have read the one thing NOT to do is ignore the person who died as though she never lived]
Charles, "That Cheeky Lad"
Happy Christmas to all who celebrate
And peace and good will to everyone!
2006-12-09 10:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Mum died on 28th December. We received cards that were not overtly 'christmassy' which was nice and people tended to write things like "thinking about you at this time of year" and "our thoughts are with you at time, best wishes..."
We were pleased to get cards, as my mum enjoyed xmas. Just dont go for jolly ho ho ho cards or silly joky ones.
2006-12-09 07:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by KATE M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about "Merry Christmas"?
Bereavement is not nice, but it's worse to be constantly reminded of your loss by other people's blank sympathy.
2006-12-09 07:50:00 · answer #5 · answered by chopchubes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it simple. Don't feel like you have to write a novel. Like someone above said, 'thinking of you' always works.
2006-12-09 07:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by matty.. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me I think I'd say something like "Have a lovely Christmas, I'm sure your Angel is with you" xx
2006-12-09 07:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by RUTH M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what can you say? Letting you know im thinking of you this christmas. something like that.
2006-12-09 07:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
say something like, " words mean nothing at a time like this but my heart is with youxxx
2006-12-11 05:19:28 · answer #9 · answered by smurfette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your heart
2006-12-09 07:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋