am Eighteen years of age and am so demotivated you will find it difficult to believe. I have the opportunity to go on my first date with a girl but I am Gay and therefore am hesitant. I am so demotivated and therefore lazy...I care little about my Jan A level exams and am basically still at sixth form for the company....I love a great game of Poker and play often but other than that I am a drunken old or young fool when it comes to the world of school. I am not a chava and never have or will be one but lately I have become so distached from Sixth form...Part of it is I really fancy a boy at school and have had the whole is he gay or not
I am also very thin and have marks on my back because of the thiness... I have always been like this but as I am eighteen all I do is drink , violate and regret... I feel stupid and dirty for fancying another guy and weak for feeling as I do..I feel as if the cops are going to arrest me for feeling Gay
2006-12-09 07:45:06 · 10 answers · asked by Gael Garcia Bernal 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I am really depressed and how dare anyone say I am taking the piss I posted multiple posts because I have a real problem and need your help
You have no idea how devestated I am
2006-12-09 07:55:04 · update #1
Get up and go do something, being lazy just makes you more lazy. Go out with the girl, get you some, you might like it? If not, go out with the boy. Quit playing poker, quit drinking, worrying, violating and regretting, and try eating a sandwich. There are no gay police in the U.S.A. only the vice squads, just don't do anything lude in public or break any laws. Now get busy living, or just sit there complaining and feeling sorry for your weak pitiful self?
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2006-12-09 08:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh Gail what to do with a boy like you?
I've just gone back over your Qs,after a remark I noticed by another answerer.
It was only after I saw the history of your Qs. that I decided to reply to your current Q.
Your Qs. reveal quite a lot about your personality.I really think you need another person to talk to ,preferably straight but not homaphobic.
Someone you can really unload all your concerns and worries to and get some feedback and advise.I would suggest counselling.Ideally with a D&A counsellor,as you appear to have a substance abuse problem i.e. alcohol.
What has happened to your website and plans to set up an on-line business? You seemed so possitive about things then.
You are rapidly slipping down the hill into total self absorbtion.
I think its time to pull up ,take a good hard look at yourself and your future if you keep on with this life you are existing in,that YOU have created your future will be pretty grim.I am wondering why you've gone so far so quickly? It is not only because you think a boy at school is pretty hot?
People do not just wake up one day and decide I'm going to bash myself up mentally,become an alcoholic,forget all my dreams etc.and just sit here and let my life fall to pieces.
You are unmotivated to take control or do anything because you are depressed,this can be overcome by finding out the reason(s) for your depression,if need, a doctor can prescribe antidepressants.Only go that road if you really felt you need them.Sometimes, they can have some pretty horrid side effects,especially if mixed with alcohol.
The reason you are so thin is because you are unhappy and not eating the correct diet.
Your perception of your personal and body image is only going to make this more of an issue and a health risk.
I may well be wrong, but I don't think you have actually had a gay relationship,and there is a bit of you that doesn't want to,or maybe you are just undeciced about where you stand.Is it girls or boys? This confusion over sexuallity is not so rare at your age.
You sound quite immature, and obviously have a lot to learn about the world,and I mean no disrespect in that comment.
If you still live at home your parents must be picking up that all is not well in the life of Gail.
I'm really hoping you take a bit of notice from my reply,your life is just begining, its certainly not over.
But whether its a success or a failure may depend on your ability to face up to your issues, and get some help in understanding and dealing with your feelings.
2006-12-09 08:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by sistablu...Maat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please find yourself someone to talk to...a counsellor or a therapist. You are NOT dirty for being gay and fancying another guy. Your thin frame might have something to do with your diet (is it good or poor?) Cocoa-butter (get from any pharmacy) will help you with the marks on your back. Cutting out some alcohol at least will probably help a lot. You also sound a little lonely. Get help if you're feeling this bad.
2006-12-12 07:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by mamaboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello. Today my brother states had he known all of the dificulties the gay lifestyle brings he would have made his own choice not to take that route, Our minds are quite powerful and in many respects there is a personal choice involved. He states he could have made a choice not to go into the lifestyle... this is something he remembers. He states most everyone in this lifestyle has had difficult upbringings (abused mentally physically or sexually) leaving them young weak and vulnerable. Older guys use younger guys... i have heard their words and it is sad. Once bro was heavily in the lifestyle he felt even more shame as there is a certain amount of rejection by society. You have such great opportunity at this point in your life....Take care of you first via education. It may be a bit of a chore for you to get started but once you do you will realize it was worth it. THE PRESIDENT OF YOUR VERY OWN COMPANY IS..... YOU! MAKE YOUR LIFE PROSPEROUS. If you would like a light read ... pick up older childrens book The Phantom Tollbooth (by Norton Juster), about a guy who really does not like to learn. It is both cleverly funny and motivating. You will enjoy it. Take charge of yourself. You can. There will always hills to climb in life but once at the top it becomes downhill. Not so bad as there is something to look forward to. Cut out the drinking and take care of you. The drinking is a downer and will only keep you down. Think of the great company you yourself are building. // In addition my bro after twenty drug filled years and a loveless ruined life left the gay lifestyle. He says life is better easier and he is so happy to have left something that harmed him physically and emotionally. This is not saying gay people are bad... it is saying the lifestyle which most gays end up living is quite harmful. My bro's life has been sad... hiv is had by most all and this affects not only your own life but you family's life. I know. His friend is in the hospital dying of this right now... he has developed weird growths in his brain which are painful... he looks like a vegetable and probably will not live to Christmas... he is 29 years old. Some things are best left as fantasy.
Another book to read is the new testament as it will give you clarity on the beginings of your life beyond eighteen. Start w/gospel of John. Maybe a good church like The Vineyard (which accepts all people and is a young awesome music oriented church ) You will not be arrested for being gay. Remember every choice you make in life will 100% have a consequence (be it good for you or bad).. (and they will be only one or the other. once a choice is made and acted upon the consequence has been met) Therefore make choices that will be good for your life. Be it any relationship at this time... forget them... trust jesus and take time to learn about you and to build you. On Education: go to any junior college to meet a counseor and they will help you for free...just do it... they appreciate someone who is concerned about themsleves and wants to get on the right track. Junior college is basicall free in most states and if not the goverment may give you free money (grants) because you desire to improve your future. ** I see you additional comment- please find a church like ' the vinyard' or calvary chapel as this i promise 100% will help you. If you seek you will find peace and comfort along with a way to resolve you problems. I was raised Catholic and thes are fine churches across US and around the world. Do not be afraid. Take the steps. Look in the yellow pages right now.
2006-12-09 08:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by lindasue m 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have the choice to like him if you want to. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks about your sexuality.Gay people aren't fealthy, so please don't think that way
i know depression isn't fun, but you have to push trough it a tiny bit so that you can pass those exams! if you fail it, you will fall into an even greater depression. work your hardest
Start eating healthy. You will feel good, and live longer too. Stop telling yourself that you aren't good enough. You wouldn't be here if you were bad.
see someone if i didn't help. love ya = )
2006-12-09 08:01:53 · answer #5 · answered by ipodlady231 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-08-07 20:20:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you could be suffering a mineral deficiency.
See your GP, ask for a referral to a nutritionist.
Cheers.
2006-12-09 07:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by chopchubes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your taking the piss see below you have asked this and i answer it in a sensitive way why do this and i dont care if this gets reported grow up and get a life
2006-12-09 07:52:16 · answer #9 · answered by julie t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come out to your parents mate.
That should solve most of your problems.
2006-12-09 07:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by foureyesslim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋