look you need to stop yelling.....then THAT PERSON GETS LOUDER... what can you do about it?...block them out, just say to yourself .."well, that is the way the person is>"...or try to stay away...and do not tell them anything that you feel would upset them"...alot of parents were yellers...what can you do?
2006-12-09 07:40:49 · 7 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hi,
As kids we learn from our parents...that includes yelling.The yelling usually only gets worst the more you yell. I think what you can do is try to talk in a very calm voice, tell them that you are not going into a conversation when they are yelling and that you'll come back when they've calmed down. When the situation has calmed down, tell them you don't like the yelling and how it makes you feel. Try using I-statements to decrease tension and prevent defensiveness.
Good luck
2006-12-09 07:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by Chava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*shrugs* It totally depends on your relationship with your parents. I inherited my loud voice from my mom, and whenever we argue, I yell just as loud as she does. We just have a bitchfest. Then, two hours later during dinner, she'll ask me what I want to eat, and I'll say Taco Bell just as if the fight never happened. Then, everything's all peachy again. See? I bet my relationship is different than yours. If you're afraid of cussing at your parents, then don't take my route. Maybe you should just ignore... or you can always just stare at some object around you and focus on zoning out. When I'm driving, and my mom's yelling at me, I ignore it because you shouldn't drive when you're angry. Therefore, I just look at something random like a tree, and then I wonder about stupid stuff like, "Hmmm.... what type of tree is that? It's pretty... the leaves are a nice color... though winter's starting to kill them... etc." lol You can really do that for anything.
2006-12-09 07:47:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out what you do to make them yeller and work on your
end and in time, I bet they'll work on their end or better than that,
maybe they need to Worm your End a little. Never tell your parent to stop yelling and just try listening a little, that's no big deal ! They'll be happier and when they're happy, you'll be happy.
2006-12-09 07:54:24 · answer #3 · answered by Auburn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best way to slowly help and teach the "yeller" to stop.
it may take a while but try staring at them (for the respect part) but do not answer them. when they ask you why you are not answering - you say - "i am waiting for you to stop yelling. when you do I will continue the conversation with you".
you will not only impress your folks you are mature and growing up but you will help them. if it gets worse not better - you may need to walk away until they get the point.
another good expression to them would be"
"mom/ dad - what did I do that is so bad it is making you get this upset. please - it is not good for you."
2006-12-09 07:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if a parent is yelling, and you tell her/him to stop, he/she will get even more angry and also louder. So this person with the yelling parents should ask them very nicely to stop yelling at them.
It is kind of rude, but if the parent is tolerant, they probably will hear the child out
2006-12-09 07:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by ipodlady231 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im kinda like the first person that commented. i basically say "why are you yelling?" or start *cussing like a sailor* of course that makes her more angry, but i just stay calm or walk away. then later its like nothing happened. one of my friends told me that if you are getting yelled at, saying "i love you" makes them stop....i've never personally tried it.
2006-12-09 08:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by sit down if you cant stand me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignorants is the best way to go
2006-12-09 07:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by bad person 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋