Why do I have constant thoughts of loved ones dying?

Question

Everyday I have some kind of thought like this. I can sometimes prevent them from going too far, but other times I find myself wiping tears away... FOR NO REASON! All because I cannot help myself from thinking about what it would be like to lose any given loved one. It is more horrible than I can explain sometimes. What I really want to find out is if there is a NAME for this "phobia", and how common it is. I do not need any answers consisting of "you need therapy, or, death is a natural way of bla bla bla” I’ve done all the reading; I just want to know how far off the deep end I really am. Thanks.

Answer 1

All i can say is you are not the only one that has this problem, me too. usually at night when i was about to sleep, and yes i will cry and my pillow will soak with my tears once i start the thought of that.

One time i woke up at the mid night from a bad dream, then out of no where i began to "imagining" my dad is dead, i suddenly feels i really miss my dad, i get out of bed and call him( In other country where it's morning)

I Personally i think it's normal for this to happen. Maybe because you miss your love ones, but they're are not there with you, and so you worry something bad will happen without you there to protect them.

-Hugs- -G-

p.s Try to do things that can focus less on those thoughts, like watching TV or Movies.

Hope these helps you!

Answer 2

I am not sure what the name of it is, but I think it's normal to think the way you do. At least, I hope so because I think like that often too. I have dreams of people dying all the time, I wake up in distress and with tears. I think it's my subconscious telling me that these people won't be around forever so appreciate every moment you can with them and don't take them for granted. It just shows how much one cares about that person. You are most likely preparing yourself for inevitable death that touches everyone some way or another. Whenever death touches life around you, it's never easy, even if you are preparing yourself for it. Death can hit you hard and it comes when it comes, you know that. You are just extra sensitive. Try not to take death too seriously, enjoy life, don't let the thought of death bring you down all the time. Death is around the corner for all, but you don't have to dwell on it. Whenever those thoughts pop up in your head, acknowledge that you love the person and enjoy your moments with them. Give them a hug or tell them that you love them. The part that makes me cry the most in these death dreams is not having the chance to tell them how much I love them. Actually, the last time I had such a dream, I dreamt that my grandma never got the letter I sent her that told her how much I love her and that she died. I cried at the thought that she didn't know how much I loved her and that she was dead. I had to make sure she was okay. I think it's just the subconscious telling us to make an effort in the relationship we have with the person.

Answer 3

I do that so often. I think with me though it's because every time I get close to someone they either choose to leave my life because they can't handle my depression or they die or move away and I lose contact. I am so used to NOT having anyone in my life who cares that when I finally find someone I live in constant fear that they will surely go away too. and Most of the time they do..I think that's normal for some people to feel this way..

Answer 4

I think that way too sometimes, Its called in pyschology way, its called being prepared, Because when my mother was ill, all i d id was cry, as so much as if i lost her, Soo when the time came and i lost her, My tears all dried up, And i was fine i was ok, see The good lord is preparing you in emotional ways to let it all out now, because when it actually happends, then you will be ok, plainwords in my words, Your pain will go up to heaven with them, Sooo, wipe your eyes , and think about it