We are engaged and due to marry in Feb 07. Everytime there's misunderstanding she always tells me it's over and then I'll take the blame and try to resolve it. What could be the problem?
2006-12-09 07:11:29 · 9 answers · asked by ddman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stop trying to resolve it or else your marriage is going to be this way. Next time she breaks off with you ask for the ring back and don't get back together with her.
2006-12-09 07:13:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It has to be drama. I am in a similar situation, my long term BF takes off every time we get into a fight (like this morning) and leaves all our problems unresolved. I don't know if it is a smoke-screen to disguise the fact that they may be wrong, and to get their way but it really sucks.
Just tell her that getting married means a lot to you and her off and on again mentality makes you feel like it is not a big deal to her. Ask her to take it seriously.
2006-12-09 15:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is simple but unfortunately not the best for you. She is only trying to find any excuse she can to break it off since shes not brave enough to tell you. Since I dont know either of you, I cant tell you why. Sorry,but time has come to seriousily think about moving on and chalk this one up to experience. Good luck
2006-12-09 15:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to decide to trust that your not leaving just cause of a fight, her calling it off is a defensive mechanism, I'll leave you first.This is a test to see if you will stay. Its also an immature head game. You need to talk to her directly about this. When your married you don't just say I am done because you have an argument.
2006-12-09 15:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by 35 and loving it! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he fights more than 4 times a month, leave him. Things are only going to get worse.
If it is less than that, tell him to cut down on fights to 0 in 6 months.
2006-12-09 18:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by kenneth h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two have no business getting married. Seems to me she is very immature and you have no backbone, she knows just what button to push. Marriage is about communication and partnership. If you think it's tough now, what will happen when you face real issues?
2006-12-09 15:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
immaturity, and this is a way of her getting to win everytime theres a disagreement. she fails to see anything your way, and marriage and relationships are a two way street where each party must be willing to give.
2006-12-09 15:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lack of committment..
Get ready for divorce if you marry this girl...
2006-12-09 15:13:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, i think that you need to wake up!
2006-12-09 15:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by Octupussy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋