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I still have all my relatives, but sadly my grandmothers on both my parents sides are sick and in pain, one of my grandfather died a long time ago, and the second one is hardly keeping on his feet, he is also very sick and has cancer. Lots of my relatives are getting older and I have seen their constant fight against pain and suffering meaning that they two have health problems. My parents are also getting weaker day in and day out. They have heart problems and no mather how much I try to help them I can't, what will I feel if the people I love so much die?

2006-12-09 07:07:17 · 8 answers · asked by Faust 5 in Social Science Psychology

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It'll happen to us all and yourself to. You must understand something that most people don't like to grasp. Humans were born and grown like most animals are in the Animal Kingdom. Technically, according to nature we're supposed to live in a very hostile environment fending for our lives, surviving without dying and being killed by another creature for food. But we were too smart, and we've beaten nature in the respect that we needn't not fear any type of creature that walks on this earth but one another. And for that they have police, government, and laws. So all in all, instead of dying like animals, having some of us killed for food by predators and others dying other ways, Most of us live, until we get old and our immune systems fail us. Mostly it's meant to be this way. We cannot control that, we're players in a game that we've seemed to beat, so now we just flow through the process instead of interacting with the chaos of playing it in the wild like most other creatures do. Most people believe they're above animals, but we have similar reactions and actions as though the animals do. It's just we have proper ways to communicate that to one another, while animals don't speak, they simply do it. I'd simply accept life as it was. And move on. After all it'll be you one day as well. We cannot escape our fate. The best we can do is enjoy the time we have here. I'd be glad they lived full lives and i'd be happy for that. There'll always be people on earth while you're alive, so you'll never get lonely. You'll find it best that letting go of everything leaves you the nicest feelings, because you don't need anything to be ok. When you're scared of your girlfriend leaving you, you're afraid, you're scared, you're clinging, and that makes everything worse. WHen you don't care, when you've let go and you just want her to be happy, it's easier because she'll know that you don't need her and she'll want to be with you more because you're not crowding her space. You'll find most things are like this. Including life itself. Lastly, the main point of this is, as humans with senses, our senses are our only windows to objective reality. We can only see our senses, we can't directly see what is. The colours our eyes can see might not be what the eyes of the absolute can see. We may only see a certain spectrum of things in the air when we look, when really there are more things there. Like cosmic radiation and air and so on. We can't see everything, we can only see what we're here to see. Your whole world is translated through your feelings. That's why when someone is in love they say they're looking through rose coloured glasses. Their perception is tainted to a certain bias or opinion. They're not seeing reality. And in a way, that's what all human existance is like. Human coloured glasses. The colour of emotion. Really the world is equal in full and total. But we see things as better or worse, higher or lower because that's how our minds translate things. In importance. Heirachies. Like animals have. Humans are in the animal kingdom. Do you see the relation? Now take two areas. One's -40C in the south pole, and the other os a hawaiian vacation 78F. You'd see the -40C as very unpleasant and terrible, while the 78 degree land in hawaii would seem like paradise. Really they're just two different areas, but because we see everything through our own perspectives and opinions, we'll only know that we dislike such terrible cold and thus the -40C is a "bad"place to us, while the 78F is a "good" place to be. They're just two different areas. But to us their value changes, and when you recognize this, you'll begin to know the difference between objective reality and one's own perspective. The trouble with this is, emotions seem to us to be the strongest, most elusive and powerful things on the planet. When really they're just chained amino acid protein peptides locking into our cells and brains Strongly inclining us to feel one way. When they die, yes you'll be sad, Of course, why wouldn't you be. But that's just the natural reaction to such an occurance as a human. You'll get over it and life will go on, regardless of your perspective of it. The universe is free roaming. It doesn't care if you're in the highest paradise or the worst H ell . It will continue as it is meant to. And that's simply all that can be said about it. So for one's own sake when they have a problem like this, look inwards first at your own perspectiev of the situation and see if there is anything you can change there to make things better, rather than trying to change how the world functions, because to my way of thinking, there is no way to change the basic principles of the world.

2006-12-09 07:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by Answerer 7 · 0 0

Death is part of the cycle of life. There is nothing anyone can do about it. It isn't even a matter of how long you live, but rather HOW you lived your life. I truly hope all those close to you have enjoyed their time on Earth.

I do STRONGLY suggest you speak with these people while you still have the opportunity. You could prepare a list of questions to get more insight which you will have forever. Here are a few examples...
1. What are some of the happiest moments you have experienced?
2. What are some of the biggest changes in the world which you have witnessed?
3. Is there any advice you can give me which will make my life happier?

You can see where I am going with this, and I am sure you can come up with a few questions of your own. All of this information will further embed their memories in your mind. They will also enjoy speaking about their dreams, aspirations, and lives with you.

Good luck, and cherish the memories.

2006-12-09 07:25:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Julian,
You should feel so very blessed to have had them this long in your life to raise you in the way they know best. Do not feel sad or angered when they are called home to be with the Lord because in Heaven, they shall suffer no pain and they will be able to help you in ways they never will be here on earth.

Just know that one day you will see them again and yall will have an infinite eternity together to share.

2006-12-09 07:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0 0

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2016-11-30 09:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

You will be sad, confused maybe even angry ...but take it like it is.
1. it is not your fault
2. there is absolutely nothing you can do
3. life does go on for you
make the most of it. maybe even take it and learn from it. their mistakes so that you dont get sick

2006-12-09 07:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by ~~Shelly~~ 2 · 0 0

Hard truth, they are going to die. We are ALL going to die. Love them, enjoy them, and help them all you are able; The grief will grow smaller with time, and remember, you are the one who lays his head on the pillow at night...Be right with them, and you'll be right with yourself.

2006-12-09 07:13:37 · answer #6 · answered by boots 6 · 0 0

I think you will feel terribly. but than keep in mind that they got on some nice place and will live again!

2006-12-09 07:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by eldridan 3 · 0 0

pray for them

2006-12-09 07:13:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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